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March 2015 Moms
noodlienoodles
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Monday Bitchfest
noodlienoodles
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I'm sure we all have something to complain about. Let it out here!
For SuzyQ and all the M15 losses
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Re: Monday Bitchfest
My whole entire family wants to come wait at the hospital... Aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, great grandparents. It's really stressful.
I hope everything works out for you and your postpartum plan!
First Monday rant: My DH and I got to work today and I realized I left my laptop at home. He actually was going to go get it for me so I didn't have to deal with it but I decided to have him take me home and now I'm just working here. It's just frustrating after a 40 minute commute (which was record time since it's President's day and there's no snow on the road) to have to come back home after getting to work so easily.
Second rant: I'm on board with the family thing. First, I feel selfish because I really don't mind if my family that I expect to either be waiting at the hospital or nearby at a hotel is waiting for the baby's arrival, but something about my FIL and his GF makes me anxious and I can't put my finger on it. I want to BF as soon as possible and there are very few people I would be comfortable with seeing that when it's my first time. So overall we plan to not really let people that weren't in the delivery room come visit for a couple of hours. My DH has told my FIL this and he's fine with it, but I would much rather call people when she's born and have them head over then so people aren't waiting for hours and hours while I feel pressured to let them in. Second, the baby's middle name is after my grandmother, and I really want to introduce her asap so no one shares the name with her before me but my DH wants my FIL to be introduced to her before my gram...which gives my mom, aunt, etc extra time to potentially spill the name.
I have no real solution to anything, these are just the things that have been stressing me out.
My biggest issue making friends is the seriously strong gender role divide in the town. It really does feel like there's male and female things you do here, and I've always been kind of a tomboy. I didn't grow up Mormon, whereas most of those we know now did. They were such that they grew up intending to be a SAHM, when I didn't but feel like it's right for me now.
There's a lot of prayer involved with living here. We both felt like we needed to come here, but nothing turned out as expected. I have to know He has the full plan and it'll all make sense soon, it's just hard having only bits and pieces!
Whew, sorry that was long!
Due to medical issues my babes is coming early whether it be on his own or through inducement. We told everyone bc he will be extra sensitive anyone who wanted to see him has to have the tDap and flu shot. That didn't go over well with people, either they feel inconvienienced or are afraid of needles. This will allow us a medical reason to limit postpartum visitors.
Additionally the hospital I'm delivering at is on flu lockdown. No one under 18 or anyone who has symptoms are allowed past the waiting room.
These might be little work arounds you can use to limit and eliminate
@kncole28
I've been on bed rest since November. My family doesn't get it either. You have to stay strong you're on bed rest for a reason. Someone being butt hurt does not compare to putting you are your babes at risk.
I'm not looking forward to the rest of our "family" feeling entitled to see our new baby. MIL has nothing to do with us and bitches constantly about us not visiting her (she lives on a ranch, with no cell service, 2 hours from a hospital), yet she doesn't visit our 4yr old daughter when she comes into town for groceries, make an appearance to birthday parties, let alone call on holidays. So you can get a sense of my excitement knowing she's going to show up and complain about the fact she'll never see her new grandson.
I had to convince my husband not to tell our parents bc his mother would be all up in our business. And, my midwife and I have chatted about getting the nurses on board to limit her visit time bc she has no sense or social skills.
In other complaints- sciatic pain. Chiropractor, massage, ice, heat, bath, stretch- it all does nothing!! So frustrated!
And then there's my mother... Who's going through a really huge midlife crisis.. It's pretty strange. She wants to be called Mommom. But she must have had a stroke I'm not aware of because she pronounces it "mama"... And eff that I'm the child's mother you will not be calling yourself mama to my son lady! She won't stop and it's been months of this with her.
Sorry big long rant
And my mom went through a phase where she let my son call her mom too and even encouraged it. It made me really mad, but I just corrected him (he calls her crazy grandma now haha).
I stay away from my sister at all costs but it's close to impossible. So I just try to get through what I can by ignoring her. Sometimes I'll just sit there and stare at her until she stops talking. Everyone has something to say.
So long story short my 20 year old brother lives with my husband and I" he doesn't drive so we have to take him too and from school everyday which we have been doing for almost 2 years (college schedule so it can be totally wonky when his classes are). Well I was counting on our dad to come down when I go into labor to help with him so it was one less thing for me to worry about but no he can't and our stepmom won't drive outside of her area. So now I am keeping my fingers crossed I go into labor on a day he doesn't have class! Also, I was hoping to have him stay with our parents over the summer before he heads off to college full time.... You would think I asked for him to move in with my parents again! OMG the number of "hell no"s I got was amazing. My brother has been with us for 2 years, we helped him get a job, finish his associates degree and learn how to budget and more and he can't spend one summer (hell even a month) with my parents so my husband and I can be focused on our baby? Urgh.
I've been getting bad BH and headaches here and there, I am so tired all the time and moody. I tried shopping more today for baby girl, but not very successful because I can't walk long without hurting in some type of way.
I'm still really pissed about wasting $75 on a couselor 2 weeks ago to help with anxiety and just to talk to. She was just so rude, stuck up, and snarky. I would like to use other words but I am more classy than that! She set up an apt today but I did not call or show, and she didn't even bother calling. Which is fine cause she was the worst counselor I have ever talked to. So I thought I would waste her time because she wasted mine.
Whoooooosh I am definitely in a mood today!