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May 2015 Moms
Claudiaba
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Living with inlaws, how to deal with it?!
Claudiaba
member
First I would like to say how happy I am my bf and I have a place to live. But living with my inlaws is giving me so much stress that I don't know what to do.
Because of financial problems we had to move in with family. His parents are the only one with an extra bedroom so we moved in for, what I had in mind, about 3 months. But we probably have to stay here for another 6 months, which means our little one will also be living here. They are really nice people, but I miss a place for ourself so much that it is giving me a lot of stress. The house isn't that big and we don't have a lot of privacy. I feel terrible about how I feel, especially since his parents are willing to let us live here for as long as we need to. But the thought of staying here another 6 months is just too much. Do you have any tips or do you live with your parents/inlaws?
Because of financial problems we had to move in with family. His parents are the only one with an extra bedroom so we moved in for, what I had in mind, about 3 months. But we probably have to stay here for another 6 months, which means our little one will also be living here. They are really nice people, but I miss a place for ourself so much that it is giving me a lot of stress. The house isn't that big and we don't have a lot of privacy. I feel terrible about how I feel, especially since his parents are willing to let us live here for as long as we need to. But the thought of staying here another 6 months is just too much. Do you have any tips or do you live with your parents/inlaws?
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louloutte87 member
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blankenbakerh member
Same here. Been there and done that. You just have to try and make the best of it. The only suggestion I can really give is try to make time for you and your BF without the in laws. Maybe every now and then just go to dinner and a movie or take a day to go window shopping, have lunch, etc. You won't necessarily have total privacy out in public but at least you can talk and enjoy eachother's company freely. -
beaseg member
The answer to the title of this post is "Be Drunk ALL THE TIME". However, because you're pregnant- all I can say is - good luck! If you quarantine yourself too much, they'll take offense. And you can't really ask for privacy in THEIR home. I'd say just do your best to focus on the positives: you're saving money, you'll be able to get your own place within a year, your little one will be surrounded by lots of love, and best of all- in the words of Darius Rucker- It won't be like this for long.Good luck! -
Batmantangos member
Yea we live with his parents for now, my FIL is awesome but my MIL I just can't stand her. She is super excited about the baby which I'm glad but it's thay she doesn't respect that I'm a private person. She tell strangers everything, and I don't like that. The check out girls at the supermarket are more aware of my pregnancy than they should. Its only a few more months and we'll be able to leave oh I can't wait to put over 600 miles between us
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Re: Living with inlaws, how to deal with it?!
My father in law hates me and still does and tried several times to get my husband to divorce me. He has made up lies about me and told them to my husband and even though my husband didn't believe them it still caused tension because his dad disliked me so much.
I'm timid, shy, and I just roll with the punches and I don't give people shit which is why I was an easy target for my FIL.
He also wanted me out of the picture so my husband would help him with money, bills, etc and feels since my DH has a wife and now a baby on the way that he will never get the help he wants from him again.
We lived with FIL for the last time not too long ago...in fact it was May 2014 when we moved into our place. I was under the influence we would only stay with FIL for 3 months but 3 turned into 8 and meanwhile my sanity went from outstanding to almost non existent. We were confined to a TINY room with all of our belongings including a 75lb dog and when I'd leave the room to head to the kitchen or bathroom it was like I was escaping prison or something.
I confined myself as much as possible because I felt like if I did that then they could have no bad things to say about me.
NOT TRUE. Don't do that. Include yourself even if you don't want to because then they will turn around and say that you don't like them.
Things have the possibility to get pretty bad living in such close quarters with someone. Especially when you're old enough to live on your own and have the intense desire to do so. It got so bad living with my FIL that he wouldn't keep toilet paper in the bathroom because apparently I used too much of it when I'd go pee or poo. I swear you needed a permit to do either one of those. The house only had 1 bathroom too. >.<
Focus on what you need to do. Focus on your child and focus on your husband. Don't nitpick at him about his family and how much you want to leave because it will cause problems with your relationship. He probably feels terrible anyway because he can't provide his pregnant wife with a home of her own before baby comes. Hopefully there are NO grown men out there that like to live with their parents. Good luck to you.