No dilation and it sucks

Mandig990 · February 2015

I apologize in advanced of someone already posted something on this but I'm 38 weeks and I have not dilated one freakin millimeter

. My OB says my cervix is very thin which is a good thing and that with the first pregnancy sometimes women won't dilate till labor officially starts. Mabye I'm just bitching but I feel her pushing down and it's getting excruciating. Is this a normal thing for FTMs? Am I being a crybaby?

krysmill · February 2015

It'll happen when it happens. Your only 38 weeks so I'm not sure why your upset. You can be dilated for weeks before anything happens.

maryxc1 · February 2015

Yes, you are being a crybaby. As many posts have said, you can be dilated for weeks or not at all when you go in to labor. Your OB isn't concerned and you are not even due for another two weeks. With DS, I was not dilated at all at 41 weeks and he came the next day.

Chcaggie1 · February 2015

Its really not a big deal. Some women fully dilate in just a few hours.

mands1125 · February 2015

40+2 here and not dilated. But I also know that can change in a matter of hours.

yoursincelery · February 2015

I commiserate with the pushing down pain. Hurts like a bitch every freaking minute.

hollybrit15 · February 2015

I didn't dialate with my first son and im not dilating with this one either. I'm almost 39 weeks! I did go into labor on my own with my first so I'm sure you will too!!!

JessicaH1020 · February 2015

And this is why I never ask my doctor how dilated I am. Not only is it pointless until you're in labor, but it would drive me nuts if I knew I wasn't progressing.

sarabethmack · February 2015

My water broke this morning and I was only 1/2 cm dilated. Dilation means nothing.

SquirrelsRWatching · February 2015

JessicaH1020 said:

And this is why I never ask my doctor how dilated I am. Not only is it pointless until you're in labor, but it would drive me nuts if I knew I wasn't progressing.

And it hurts like hell and the number doesn't even matter.

loriann091 · February 2015

I was induced at 1 cm and let me tell you, it does not matter how dilated you are. I've been in labor for 24 hours now (which is not awesome). I wouldnt pay attention to dilation til you're ready to push out a baby.

shedfranklin · February 2015

I'm on my 3rd pregnancy, and I've never been told I dilated past a 1 before labor. No worries. The day I went into labor with my last 2 I dilated from a 1-10 in like 2 hours and had an epidural at like a 2. Dilating happens super fast at the end for some of us.

Kimby883 · February 2015

Dilation means nothing, I have been at 5cm for 3 weeks and no signs of labor! It's very fustrating and wish I didn't know I was that dilated.

hawynne · February 2015

I agree with Kimby883....I have a posterior cervix that was checked at 38 weeks. It hurt like hell and gave me a bunch of useless info. I'm dilated at least 3 cm and effaced 70% but it doesn't tell me a dang thing about when I'll start laboring. With our first son I was 42w+1d with no dilation and I delivered that night. It's agonizing but try to enjoy the last few days or weeks.

rosechild83 · February 2015

Dilation like they all have stated... Doesn't mean much. It can change so quickly or not at all. I understand the pain like the baby is having a party inside. But keep your head up. You got this!

Elaw · February 2015

Hang in there. You are allowed to cry a little bit. I didn't dialate with either of my first two and learned it was best not to ask or know. Being your first if I was going to offer any advise it would be this.....try really hard to enjoy every minute (discomfort and impatience included) before your baby comes. Once he/she does, you have to share all the amazing moments, right now they are all yours

BecBec85 · February 2015

No not a cry baby at all we all get emotional about different things, have a good winge and get it out. I am due on Sunday and I'm not feeling any closer to giving birth then I did 2 weeks ago... Hang in there

CallieMcAnally · February 2015

This is my third child, and I've been at 4cm and 80% thinned for 3 weeks now. Being dilated and staying at the same cm for weeks can be aggravating too and causes just as much frustration Bc you feel like your do close but not progressing at the same time. My doctor is inducing me on Friday at 39+1. Things happen much slower the first time around. Just be patient, sleep, and enjoy the last little but of time to yourself! Good luck to you!

EDWHIP · February 2015

I was 0 CM after 12 hours of labor. Finally made it to 3 CM by hour 18. Take your mind off of it if you can.

ashleyjesse1112 · February 2015

I wasn't dilated until my 40w4d appointment. Finally at 1cm. It will eventually dilate, just might take a while. It does suck going each week and not seeing progress.