Cranky significant other!!

Re: Cranky significant other!!

• finallyourturn2 member

  February 2015

  Yes! He is constantly asking me if he can help me with stuff, but when I give him something that gives him the least bit of trouble he grumbles about it the whole time. It is so annoying.

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• Christina1939 member

  February 2015

  finallyourturn2 said:

  Yes! He is constantly asking me if he can help me with stuff, but when I give him something that gives him the least bit of trouble he grumbles about it the whole time. It is so annoying.

  Haha my husband will offer to do things and then do them in the most half-a**ed was possible that it's almost not even worth it.
  
  I've been super grouchy the past few days also with him -- I don't know why but everything he is doing (or not doing) is getting on my nerves! I hope it's just a hormonal glitch and goes away soon because the more grouchy I get the more unhelpful he gets... Sigh

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• maryvh member

  February 2015

  I've been pretty irritable lately. But it doesn't help that whenever I get mad at something and snap he gets offended and ignores me the rest of the day

  

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• slovenka10 member

  February 2015

  Mine doesn't really offer to help and when I ask him he is acting like he is the one pregnant, super tired etc. very annoying...

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• NiaSilhouette1 member

  February 2015

  mine sits and mope around the house and says nothing is wrong but obviously it is.

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• chelseeea member

  February 2015

  slovenka10 said:

  Mine doesn't really offer to help and when I ask him he is acting like he is the one pregnant, super tired etc. very annoying...

  Same! He'll say he's going to help with chores, etc. but ends up being too tired to do anything. So I end up just doing it myself. It sucks cause now that I'm on leave, I want the house to be perfect and I have the time to do it, but some time to relax would be great too!

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• msarnold1013 member

  February 2015

  I'm a very hands on, do it yourself kind of person. My dad and I were best buds when I was growing up (my parents were told I was going to be a boy) so everything he did, I did. My boyfriend is lucky bc I usually don't ever ask for his help doing anything. Except shoveling/snow blowing. We have been getting a lot of snow and I haven't been able to help at all. He is being such a brat about it!! Not wanting to go outside at all. And then when he does, he comes in and basically whines for hours on end. It's so annoying

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• kellbell1982 member

  February 2015

  I'm coming out of lurk status for this one: my husband's been acting like a giant douche lately!! I'm doing all I can around the house but I'm 38 weeks pregnant and my feet are balloons!! He called me a pig yesterday cause my daughter left a soda cap on the bathroom floor and I didn't see it, shit I can't even see my feet!! I don't know where his attitude change is comin from

  

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• secretbaba member

  February 2015

  Ugh I'm with you all - there must be some reson men seem to get grouchy at this point - nerves maybe? Mine just grumbles when I ask him to do things, I'm sure he's getting bored of this! And zoning out when I speak to him as well... Can't wait till baby's here!

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• KD32412 member

  February 2015

  kellbell1982 said:

  I'm coming out of lurk status for this one: my husband's been acting like a giant douche lately!! I'm doing all I can around the house but I'm 38 weeks pregnant and my feet are balloons!! He called me a pig yesterday cause my daughter left a soda cap on the bathroom floor and I didn't see it, shit I can't even see my feet!! I don't know where his attitude change is comin from

  That's not ok. Name calling is just mean, especially in the state we are all in. I think if my hubby called me that I'd punch his face.
  

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• akj166 member

  February 2015

  @kellbell1982‌- that is unacceptable!
  I would most definitely have punched him in the face!!!
  
  My husband has been pretty insensitive and distant. Anything he can do to get out of this house, he does. I understand that it's close to the end and its "getting real", but I'm hoping he'll get his act together. He has been struggling with some personal family issues and work so I'm trying to be understanding. I know that my OCD is maximized by ten cause I'm nesting but I'm trying to be as patient as I can. I'm the pregnant one and I need support too!

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• kellbell1982 member

  February 2015

  I sent my husband a long message to his phone while he was out just about an hour ago. I did it that way so that I could get out everything I wanted to say without getting emotional or having it turn into an argument without me getting out what I wanted to say. It worked out well, he wrote back saying how right I was and how he felt ashamed and like an asshole for the way he's been treating me these last several days. He assured me that we will have a talk when he gets home and that things will change. He admitted how terrified he is now that our baby will be here within the next two weeks (my induction is in two weeks so hopefully I make it until then) and it's been so long for both of us since we have had babies (he has a 13 year old from a previous marriage and I have a ten year old from my previous marriage). I think we forget that men get scared and nervous too and maybe even more than we do since they feel so helpless and like they need to take care of us and protect us from harm. He really is a great husband and this all came out of left field which is why it was so shocking to me. I recommend anyone else who is going through this to do what I did, either talk to your SO about how his behavior is affecting you or do like I did and write a heartfelt, non confrontational letter if you feel you won't be able to get out all you want to say. I don't think he really realized what he was doing until I pointed it out. Thanks for the input ladies and good luck

  

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• akj166 member

  February 2015

  @kellbell1982‌ good for you:)

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• AshleyS512 member

  February 2015

  My husband has moments where he's the sweetest and others when he's a complete jerk. I don't think it's really clicked with him yet that baby could come anytime (currently 37 weeks). He keeps asking me if I want to get concert tickets, USA soccer tickets, etc. all for March. I'm like dude, those aren't infant appropriate activities lol. I think once our son arrives DH will be head over heels and the best daddy but it is kind of annoying at the moment.

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• deeohhgee member

  February 2015

  My SO only slept with me 3 times this week. Really upset me.

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• jillbabe91 member

  February 2015

  ^ LOL

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• mariawahl member

  February 2015 edited February 2015

  Lol you have waaaaay more patience than I do haha

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• knottie93263eb66eeacb31 member

  February 2015

  If my husband had acted like any of these stories I don't think I would have a husband anymore! Feeling very greatful for mine right now... So sorry you all have to deal with this!

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• QueenV718 member

  February 2015

  I'm there too. 36 weeks, super emotional and feeling shitty. My bf gets so easily mad at me for such tiny little things. Everything I do annoys him and he explodes at me. Then When I get upset, he gets even more angry that I'm crying. He'll say things he knows will upset me and then when I make a sad face he'll tell me to "go cry about it" and be a "cry baby". Oh and of course I'm always the one to blame for fights because im too emotional, never because hes being sn asshole. Im hoping he'll stop being like this after baby gets here. Fingers crossed.

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