Doing this "alone"

amy22gt · February 2015

Is anyone else doing this on their own? I made the decision if I was going to stay single, I wanted babies. I have great family and friend support. Just curious if there's anyone else out there.

emilyplemons · February 2015

I feel you! This little one was a complete shock and I'm still trying to get over the overwhelming factor but some of the most amazing mothers I know are single moms. I look at it this way it's better to do it alone then with someone who doesn't want the responsibility!

lindsaypkelly · February 2015

I am.
As of right now the father is still wanting to be involved (we arent together) and I know he WANTS to be a good dad but I know him too well and I really doubt he's going to be able to make the sacrifices needed to be there as much as he should. I don't even think he knows how far along I am.

I'm prepared to do this alone and I'm surrounded by my amazing family who I know will spoil baby and I.

nimble33 · February 2015

I did it alone with my first baby and I was 18 and lived no where near family apart from my dad. The guy didn't want to know. We did ok he's now an annoying 14 year old teenager. My dad was totally my rock bless him. You be fine us women are strong x

mbilbrey00 · February 2015

I am as well. Im 32 and the father is 38 but wants no responsibility. I have no reason not to raise this child because I am perfectly capable. While my family is supportive, I cannot rely on them like my mom did with my grandparents. Sometimes I get overwhelmed thinking about it but I know plenty of strong single mothers that are raising wonderful children in harder situations. Pinterest is a great place to find blogs about being a parent, single or not. I'm 18 weeks and have enough diapers (keep receipts!) for the first 6 months already. And sign up for coupons! Hugs to you! Single mothers are superheroes!

GSUDavis · February 2015

I'm not a single mom but my mom was all of my life. She's an amazing woman, my rock and my super hero! Sometimes singles moms are better than having a mom and a dad because she's one woman working hard enough to fill both rolls. It takes strong, resilient women to be single moms and by the looks of things, you're in good hands with these ladies! Hugs, thoughts and prayers coming your way! =D

amfasse · February 2015

I was a single mom with my first. He is now 5 and I just recently got married to a wonderful man and we're expecting our first. My son's dad and I didn't plan on a baby and it was really rough at first, as we didn't get along very well. But I wouldn't trade those 5 years for anything. My son and I are super close (he's a total mama's boy and I'm proud of it!). It wasn't easy but I definitely think the benefits heavily outweigh any negatives.

amy22gt · February 2015

Thanks for the kind words! For the most part everyone has been very supportive. Those who haven't been have been told where they can put their opinions. Fortunately, I am financially stable and mature enough (33) to be able to handle this on my own. Donor dad is a good guy but won't be involved. Glad to know there are others out there like me!

Knottie15964941 · February 2015

mbilbrey00 said:
I am as well. Im 32 and the father is 38 but wants no responsibility. I have no reason not to raise this child because I am perfectly capable. While my family is supportive, I cannot rely on them like my mom did with my grandparents. Sometimes I get overwhelmed thinking about it but I know plenty of strong single mothers that are raising wonderful children in harder situations. Pinterest is a great place to find blogs about being a parent, single or not. I'm 18 weeks and have enough diapers (keep receipts!) for the first 6 months already. And sign up for coupons! Hugs to you! Single mothers are superheroes!

Gosh this is nearly my story! I will be 31 next month, donor is 40. While we talked about having children, getting married when the baby news came he freaked out and has refused to help. I know he will not be involved after the baby is born either. At first I was pretty sad but my family is wonderful and I have the support I need.

Helped reading these stories, we can do this!!

emilyplemons · February 2015

Hearing these stories have made me feel so much more confident! Thank you!!

dragonladysarkany · February 2015

I wasn't single until my kids were 10&12 yrs old, but felt like a single mom because there dad was off working,(Film hrs..18 hrs a day),& if he wasn't at work he was partying.
My marriage didnt last too long...when the ex left I was completely on my own & with no support from there dad, including money wise. But let me tell you, the day he left, a grey cloud lifted, we weren't walking on eggshells..& I built a great family unit with my little family. Our house became filled with laughter & lots of love & respect. And of course I worked hard to support them but I had too!
See sometimes having both parents in a home is not as important as a loving peaceful home. Any women can do this alone & joyfully!!
I have a man in my life & we are expecting a child together and he has supported my kids in every way I could not imagine someone doing. See...don't give up on meeting someone amazing...but meanwhile enjoy every moment of your baby!!

kenziekelley03 · February 2015

18 years old an the father left when I was a month has no job or car an I don't even know if he will graduate high school. While I'm graduating in six days have a job an car an starting college online soon . I am almost 21 weeks pregnant an he has gave me a pack of diapers awhile ago an talks big game at school like he's gonna be something but doesn't even look at me at school. An when he did he would yell an cuss me out. So I rather him be gone because he isn't a good person an I don't want my baby around or raised like that. Now I'm just scared he will try to come around an rub his bad attitude an behaviors on our kid or be an in an out dad which is even harder knowing from having that. I'm glad he's gone an want it that way I can do this an so can you !

justbreathe510 · February 2015

I was alone with my first son who is now almost three. It wasn't easy, but I wouldn't change a thing. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year and he is my son's "daddy" in every sense of the word.

This baby was planned and I am thankful not to be alone this time around.

jennaleigh23 · February 2015

I'm doing it on my own! After spending thousands of dollars on artificial insemination in the summer, I got pregnant with my little miracle baby the natural way with a guy I wasn't with all that long, and surprise surprise, he left shortly after. I'm 17 weeks now and we don't communicate at all but I guess I got what I wanted all along. It's a lot harder knowing he has a father that wants nothing to do with him rather than being artificially conceived and now I know I will have to deal with headaches of custody and child support but I have always wanted to have a baby and this little one is my dream come true. Luckily I have lots of support from friends and family.

krysalysss · February 2015

I have a boyfriend, but he lives 13 hours away from me. So technically I'm not doing it alone. But I pretty much am. Any July 2015 mommies live in northern Florida???

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