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Baby shower or gender reveal

caseface90caseface90 member
in September 2015 Moms
I realize traditionally a baby shower is thrown by someone else for you. I don't have many friends that love close and know that no one will. This is my second baby but it is my husbands first and he is very sentimental. I was wondering would it be weird for me to throw one for my husband? I know he would love it and he has a lot of friends he would want to share this moment with. I just don't want this to seem weird if I do it. Also I want to do a gender reveal party.. Do you throw those yourself?
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  • mrscate88mrscate88 member
    You can do whatever you want, it's your life, your baby, and your memories to make. Feel free to break tradition if that makes you or hubby happy! I wouldn't personally make it a point to say the shower was FOR hubs, but I totally think having a co-ed baby bbq is acceptable, have beer for the boys and invite all daddy's friends and family too! But like I said, you do whatever works for you. I've heard of people throwing their own gender reveal to tell the family the news, but my best friend wants to throw the reveal party for me so I'm okay with that. I'm very unconventional and if I had it my way, wouldn't do any parties at all, but hubs has a HUGE family that all wants to be involved in every little thing so a party really does help everyone feel like they're a part of it. Good luck!
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  • sdheft619sdheft619 member
    I'm throwing my own gender reveal party. Well, because we are not telling anyone the gender until then!☺️
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  • sherbear82sherbear82 member
    I think that's super sweet to throw a party for your husband! I am so not into doing things the way they're "traditionally" done.

    Instead of a baby shower, we're doing a "meet-the-baby" party at Christmas time, for extended family who may not be able to come visit until then. We're not religious so we won't be doing a baptism, and we don't have a lot of space for gifts, but this is our way of celebrating! :-)
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  • caseface90caseface90 member
    Thank you all for your responses! My mom threw my shower last time and the dad wasn't involved so I didn't have that last time and just want this go around to be special and involve him however I can.
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  • onewayticketonewayticket member
    I am going to throw a gender reveal party. I think it's fine to host your own shower too.
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  • uvlampshadeuvlampshade member
    I think that sounds like a fun and inclusive way to handle the situation! Bonus points: you can do one of those fun sex reveal games! Balloon pops, cakes with colored centers, etc.
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  • bonniecouturebonniecouture member
    I agree- do your own thing! Lots of people have Jack-and-Jill showers where the guy's friends and family come to. Like @mrscaterosales‌ said, a BBQ would be perfect since it will be summer by then! I'm going to do a sex reveal game type thing at my shower just because I think it's fun- and my mom is obsessed with the idea because this is grand baby #1 :)
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  • Cupcakequeen1000Cupcakequeen1000 member
    I would rather myself to have a gender revile party, but shhesshh im only 10 weeks pregnant and my MIL and best friend already have the baby shower venue booked! Give that things here book a year in advance i get it but since its my second i told her just family and we have a large family and i have like 5 friends who insist on it to so that's 30 people there alone! I say do what makes you happy also. The gender revile parties look sooo cute and and also a bbq thing sounds great to! I think thats sweet of you to think of your hubby's feelings.
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  • Cupcakequeen1000Cupcakequeen1000 member
    Bluebird R said:

    Wow. Whoever reported me for a TOU violation for saying that you should go see what the Baby Showers board had to say on these to topics has some nerve. Have fun with your tacky ass showers.


    Sure it was this forum? I dont see any comments from you above. That would be stupid for somone to report you for that.
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  • Cupcakequeen1000Cupcakequeen1000 member
    edited February 2015
    bluebird1315 said:

    Because the admin deleted it saying it was reported as violation. I said "there is a board here in the bump all about baby showers. You should go see what they have to say about second showers, throwing your own shower, and gender reveals". Now I'm just oissed off that there are so many people here who don't have big girl panties enough to hear a differing opinion. Sorry if I don't squee for you. Ridiculous. Motherhood is going to be ROUGH for you all.


    Yeah whoever did that should not have. I dont think what you said could have been offensive in anyway for someone to report it. That's pretty crappy!
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  • BlueWaffleSpeshulBlueWaffleSpeshul member
    bluebird1315 said:
    Because the admin deleted it saying it was reported as violation. I said "there is a board here in the bump all about baby showers. You should go see what they have to say about second showers, throwing your own shower, and gender reveals". Now I'm just oissed off that there are so many people here who don't have big girl panties enough to hear a differing opinion. Sorry if I don't squee for you. Ridiculous. Motherhood is going to be ROUGH for you all.
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  • off2thefunnyfarmoff2thefunnyfarm member
    Please, please do yourself a favor and DO NOT call it a shower.  Don't mention gifts at all, throw a Baby-Q, or better yet, get one of his friends to do it.  Don't expect gifts, and have a fun party with booze and food. 

    People get very touchy about 'showers' since the intent of a shower is to give gifts.  But who's stopping you from having a party if you want to have a party?

    Also a HUGE side eye to whoever reported bluebird.  Seriously????  Her suggestion was a good one if you want the 'official' way to do a real shower.

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  • bracybabiesbracybabies member
    So throw a "daddy shower!" Lots of cute ideas on Pinterest like "a baby is brewing!" And so on that focus on the dad. And if he's sentimental, make it all about daddy and baby! Let him be the one to announce the sex, play games that focus on "daddy duties" and make it a special time for him :)
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  • shelbyddshelbydd member
    My best friend is having a shower after a gender reveal party. But understand that the gender reveal party is not for gifts! I'd make that clear for attendees, too. You can throw it yourself if you don't have a friend or family member that wants to throw it. I threw my friends gender reveal, it was a lot of fun and we made party favors for the guests.
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  • WDDCHWDDCH member
    Maybe his coworkers or someone in his family will throw a shower since it is his first.

    Yes you plan your own gender reveal party. You could either know the sex before the party and plan it all yourself or you could ask the tech to put the result in an envelope to give to a baker or whoever so you're surprised at the party too.
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  • melewenmelewen member
    Thank god we have such helpful people patroling the Internet to make sure baby shower posts are in EXACTLY the right place! Phew! The september birth club would be a completely inappropriate place to ask a very specific question about showers for a woman deliver in September!

    I bet you're the kind of person who reports photos on Facebook too eh? My prescription: get an actual life
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  • melewenmelewen member
    @bluebird1315‌ hard day?
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  • mamaamjonesmamaamjones member
    melewen said:
    Thank god we have such helpful people patroling the Internet to make sure baby shower posts are in EXACTLY the right place! Phew! The september birth club would be a completely inappropriate place to ask a very specific question about showers for a woman deliver in September! I bet you're the kind of person who reports photos on Facebook too eh? My prescription: get an actual life
    I am pretty thankful for the people patrolling every single gender board to correct it to sex reveal.  Thumbs up to all those super helpful people.
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