Sisters are Jealous

jehines · February 2015

I just had my anatomy scan and got a couple 3d pictures too ! I sent a picture to my sisters and they ignored my text. I think that they think I am throwing it in their face.
I am so excited everything is going so well right now. I just got married after 7 years to the love of my life. The hubby and I just closed on our first house too! I am so grateful and happy right now we saved and worked so hard for this... but my two older sisters are MIA! My parents say they are jealous but I just miss them and wish they could pretend to be happy for me. My cousins had to step in and are planning my baby shower because the two sisters aren't showing an interest. I want to cut them out but I miss them. How can I handle this?

laurendutch · February 2015

Honestly, I would ignore their rude behavior. It is so difficult but hopefully they will come around. I'm the kind of person who when I'm offended, I just take a step back. I don't cause a scene or a fight, I just become more distant.

karaelaine1991 · February 2015

It stinks that your sisters aren't showing more enthusiasm - I know I'd be super disappointed, too! I know this is easier said than done, but I'd just try to move past it. I'm sure once your baby is born they'll come around. If they don't, then definitely tell them how you feel. I think that if you confront them now, it might make things worse (they might take it as you attacking them, which definitely wouldn't help), whereas if you wait a little bit they might change their behavior on their own. Like I said, I'm so sorry that they're acting this way; hopefully it's completely unintentional! Good luck!

jehines · February 2015

Thank you guys for the support! I wish I had been more patient. I will try to be that way. I already sent them a text this morning and said how about cool or hi even? One blew up at me but I told her I knew she saw the picture because she was on fb all night. The other one keeps apologizing for ignoring my calls and texts she said she takes a while to respond to people.
I tend to expect a lot from them and get let down because I am so supportive when they need me. On the other hand I am not asking them for anything except a reply to my texts! They already got out of the baby shower which I am shocked they allowed to happen. I dont ask them to call me back or even try calling anymore. I will try being more zen about it and accept them where they are. Life is too short right?!

BabyList · February 2015

Why are they jealous? Are they unable to have children? I think you may need to reevaluate the way you are approaching things with them. I find it odd that both of your sisters are having issues with you, it leads me believe it might be a you problem, not a them problem. IMHO

KonaCoffeeBean · February 2015

Maybe they're just not that interested. It's not a crime to not be totes excited over someone else's pregnancy. And they have zero obligation to host a baby shower for you.

jehines · February 2015

Thanks for the feedback. It's good to get another perspective.

kbbtah · February 2015

Sorry to hear about your lack of support, but really this is an amazing time in your life. And if they dont step it up, then THEY will be the ones who miss out. Me: I'd say screw em. But if it really bothers you, then plan a little sister's afternoon with pedicures and lunch. Give them a chance to just hang out with you and maybe they'll come around.

HoosOnFirst · February 2015

To play devils advocate, my siblings are awesome, but I don't expect them to equally be into the baby stuff. I mean, it's not their baby, and I could see conversations about baby getting a little tedious if it's all I talked about. My mom is beyond excited and I feel a little guilty that my sibs aren't getting as much attention so I'm trying to keep it cool. We chose to have a baby, not them, so I'm not going to demand that they all of the sudden drop everything in their lives and ooh and aah. Maybe I'm a pessimist lol!

mlindzz · February 2015

My husbands siblings aren't interested in learning or hearing about their nephew yet either. We were slightly disappointed at first because other's couldn't be more excited for us, but instead of being upset because they aren't, try to take it as a reminder to never take the others who are so supportive for granted.

And if kids aren't really on their radar, then they might not understand how exciting and big the news really is. You didn't say so in your OP, but my guess is both sisters aren't married or parents yet.

In short, don't take it personal, they're likely just busy thinking about what's going on for themselves. It will likely change once baby arrives.

allicat300 · February 2015

I dont have a sister but i have a cousin that i am really close with.... Until i got pregnant. I didnt realize how competetive she was! I got engaged and a week later found out i was expecting my second and her mom finally told me she has been complaining about how unfair it is that my life is flourishing while she is stuck. I get it to a point, when you see somebody completeing goals you have for youself but taking a step back to let them feel what they are feeling is super important

jehines · February 2015

Thanks so much. I really appreciate the advice. I am being way too uptight by wanting to control how others behave. I have to appreciate what I have and be grateful!

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