Not your typical baby shower.

srdasce · February 2015

Soooo, my mother keeps insisting that we have a baby sprinkle for my second baby on the way. I'm not too keen on the idea since it is NOT proper etiquette. But here is my dilemma, my MIL does not have the room at her house and we cannot have it at my moms since she does not talk to my aunt and it's important to me that she comes. Sooo this shower (again that I don't want) is going to be at my house since I have the room and it is neutral territory. What the hell do I put on the invitations?? Please come to my house for a shower that I'm throwing myself?? I wanted just a diaper party and my mom said no to that too. I'm lost. Any help?

louloutte87 · February 2015

Can't you have a meet the baby party instead? Everyone can bring presents and come for a cuddle, therefore avoiding bad etiquette.

We don't really do baby showers here in the Uk, so I'm probably not much help

tigerlily25 · February 2015

Have your mother (the host) send out the invites, or can you tell her you are uncomfortable with a shower? I like the idea of a meet the baby party,

tdart14 · February 2015

Just decline if you don't want it. Your complicating the situation, the words 'no thank you' do exist.

sassymama15 · February 2015

I think you should just decline the party all together if you are so against it. Have something later if you want to.

cpiganelli · February 2015

When I had my son, the only people who were allowed to see him for the first month were my parents (ONLY because I made them get the flu shot, he was born in January). Personally I would never do a meet the baby. Doesn't matter when it was due. Too many germs that I don't want my daughter catching.

My son and daughter will be 16 months apart. I am having a shower. More so because my sister in law is hosting this one and because I am having a girl. We had relatives on both mine and my husbands side asking when the baby shower would be.

I don't believe it comes down to proper edequiette anymore as it does spending time with my family.

JuliaRL · February 2015

so she insists that you have one, but won't do anything for it? That's just silly. do what YOU want to do.

And if you want to have any kind of party, do a "meet the baby" those are acceptable. most people will still bring small gifts, or diapers, and there's no etiquette problem with you hosting it yourself.

MrsPDX · February 2015

That sounds just very awkward. I would definitely decline the offer, and plan a meet the baby or sip and see.

CrystalEve12 · February 2015

My MIL is hosting a shower for my second child at a restaurant while DH has some guy friends over for a BBQ. I personally think there is nothing wrong with celebrating the birth of a second child. Most people ask about gifts though I OBVIOUSLY am not requiring them. If you are uncomfortable with a baby shower to celebrate your second, just don't have one.

clarever · February 2015

My sister and sil want to give me a shower and this my third. So I casually made the suggestion that we do a meet the baby instead. It will be just a small gathering so not too worried about germs. Having two other children with 1 in school, I'm sure more germs will be coming from them.

They asked when I'd be up for it though and I'm unsure. I'll most likely need a csection so maybe 2-3 weeks after or is that too soon?

srdasce · February 2015

Thank you for your responses ladies. It does sound weird, but this is just the situation I'm in. It will just be close family and friends. All people that care about me. So hopefully no one will think ill of me in the end. I just didn't know what to put on the invites. My mom and MIL are both computer illiterate. Lol. So it will be just a casual evite. This is what I have so far.

Come join us for a celebration to welcome the newest member of the family. We are so excited about our little princess on the way. Please come and enjoy an afternoon full of good food and great family and friends.

supersarah77 · February 2015

I have two friends that were very insistent on throwing me a sprinkle and I've said "no" multiple times. I feel a little ungrateful and guilty but my discomfort with a sprinkle outweighs those feelings. So finally just yesterday they folded and we decided to just have a lunch the three of us.

If you decide you'd rather just have the sprinkle, I think a restaurant is the way to go. It's neutral and you don't appear to be throwing yourself a party. Plus you won't have the inconvenience of hosting. Also, maybe paper invitations instead of an evite so you're not managing the RSVPs. Hosting at your house, writing the invite, sending the invite, managing RSVPs.... That's basically throwing the party yourself.

I also want to say that I don't think sprinkles are tacky. I've enjoyed celebrating births with family a friends, whether it's the first baby or the fourth!

LiveleyOne · February 2015

My mother in law didn't want to throw us a baby shower so we took it upon ourselves to make it a baby shower/BBQ so everyone would feel welcome. Its a neutral theme so the guys don't feel so "out of place" at a baby shower for a girl.

srdasce · February 2015

My sister actually took the initiative and offered to send out the invites! My mom and MIL said they will take care of everything. It's really just held at my house since it's the only option. I know a restaurant was suggested, but that costs money and they wanted that money to be put towards food and decorations. Anyway, thank you all for your responses!!!

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