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Nerves!

flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
in February 2015 Moms
ok so I've been absolutely fine up until now nerves wise. I felt completely ready and content until this morning (a week off my due date) and I've been crying all day non-stop worried about the birth! Anyone else or just me? I wasn't worried before now but suddenly all this fear has hit me from somewhere! Where's my mum when I need her!
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  • liza21486liza21486 member
    I've been lurking around here a while (sorry!) but haven't posted until now. I'm a FTM, due the 12th, and have been pretty laid back about the prospect of labor and delivery up until the last few days. Now I have these mini freak-outs throughout the day, and even stuff I usually enjoy losing myself in isn't distracting me. So I definitely understand what you're going through! Hopefully we can power through it and learn to relax a little.
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  • mommaa1615mommaa1615 member
    Im right there with ya. When we put the pack & play in the room I panicked/cried lol & today cleaning her bottles/breast pump ughh..im due Friday so im sure its a ton of nerves & not knowing when its gonna happen
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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    I'm glad it's not just me really worrying haha! I had to run down to the maternity hospital this morning after my baby's movements were a lot less than usual. Seems everything is worrying now I'm glad there's only a week or so left! Everything is fine with my baby, she was just having a chilled out morning in my tummy, I forget sometimes that she's a real baby with her own personality!
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  • ErichandmeErichandme member
    My nerves have recently gotten to me too, especially the emotions. It's not helping knowing that I'm going to be induced in three days. I would say these feelings are normal. I am just doing my best to tell myself that my doctor's know what they are doing and everything will go great. I've also been distracting myself with school work, but the constant texts and calls from everyone asking if he's here yet is making me more nervous. I'm going to be a ftm and I take comfort in knowing that babies are born all the time and are perfectly healthy, I have great maternal instincts, and everything will be ok. Just so you know, stress can stop labor too, so as hard as it is, try to relax.

    Krista
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  • HayleyBug55HayleyBug55 member
    I wasn't worried until I was sent to the hospital from my OB's office with the possibility to be induced because my blood pressure. Now I'm sitting here thinking of all the stuff I still need to get done! In the end it all works out. I know it's nearly impossible not to worry but try your hardest. I worry about movement all the time too! Just relax. We are all so close.
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  • lynnz52lynnz52 member
    edited February 2015
    I am nervous to let my husband see me in such a vulnerable state. He constantly tells me how tough I've been so far, which is nice to hear, but sets an expectation I don't know if I can live up to.
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  • StephanieLBergStephanieLBerg member
    lynnz52 said:

    I am nervous to let my husband see me in such a vulnerable state. He constantly tells me how tough I've been so far, which is nice to hear, but sets an expectation I don't know if I can live up to.

    Why so nervous around your hubby? He chose you, he married you, he's having his child with you! If anything, you should feel happy and relieved that you have his support in all of this. If you need to break down and cry in front of him, do it. If you need to take a break and let him do all the housework for a day, go for it! If you need to have something massaged because it's super painful or uncomfortable, have at it! Being pregnant doesn't make you weak and vulnerable and any man who can sit there and think or feel that way about his own pregnant wife is not a man at all. If you're nervous about ANYTHING concerning your pregnancy, talk to him about it. Sometimes just getting it off your chest helps A LOT! Definitely ask your doctor about any questions you have too, but you should feel comfortable enough to talk with your husband about anything. If you don't, then you have bigger problems that need to be addressed before the baby gets here. Otherwise, how can you hope to feel comfortable enough to talk with your husband about baby related issues, muchless relationship or personal issues. Just a thought.
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  • lynnz52lynnz52 member
    edited February 2015
    StephanieLBerg said:
    I am nervous to let my husband see me in such a vulnerable state. He constantly tells me how tough I've been so far, which is nice to hear, but sets an expectation I don't know if I can live up to.
    Why so nervous around your hubby? He chose you, he married you, he's having his child with you! If anything, you should feel happy and relieved that you have his support in all of this. If you need to break down and cry in front of him, do it. If you need to take a break and let him do all the housework for a day, go for it! If you need to have something massaged because it's super painful or uncomfortable, have at it! Being pregnant doesn't make you weak and vulnerable and any man who can sit there and think or feel that way about his own pregnant wife is not a man at all. If you're nervous about ANYTHING concerning your pregnancy, talk to him about it. Sometimes just getting it off your chest helps A LOT! Definitely ask your doctor about any questions you have too, but you should feel comfortable enough to talk with your husband about anything. If you don't, then you have bigger problems that need to be addressed before the baby gets here. Otherwise, how can you hope to feel comfortable enough to talk with your husband about baby related issues, muchless relationship or personal issues. Just a thought.


    Oh it's not him, it's definitely me. He thinks it's cute when I cry, because he wishes he could be that in touch with his own emotions. He just told me the other day that he thought my stretch marks "look cool," like battle scars or something, and he wasn't just saying that, I can tell when he's BSing. I know there is nothing I could say or do to make him think less of me, it's just in my own head.

    It's like that saying about your dog.. "I wish I could be half the person my dog thinks I am..."  Well I kind of feel that way about my husband too.

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  • StephanieLBergStephanieLBerg member
    I see, well then yeah that makes sense and on some level I feel the same way. But recently my hubby is telling me not to be such a worrier and I'm sitting here thinking to myself, "what am I over worrying about? He's the one who jumps at every cough, sneeze, or deep breath I take asking if it's time" so I guess he and I are just lost in translation. Lol
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  • sunshine525sunshine525 member
    This is my third and I'm still nervous! My first two labor and deliveries were perfect, I'm just waiting for something terrible!
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  • rosechild83rosechild83 member
    Nerves are hard to avoid. You got this mommy. Just remember it is fine to feel this way!!!
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  • Boehrig2Boehrig2 member
    Totally know the nerves. I agree they're normal and it's best to sort tem out now. I got them with early labor that just kept going on and on. I doubted our WHOLE birth plan, my own preparations for a drug-free birth, that we had practiced enough as a couple, that the baby wouldn't be ok, rtc. What helped me was going to a quite place, journaling, praying, remembering my fear-clearing exercises (not too late to start some!), and talked with my husband. He reaffirmed our choices. He calmed me down. And in the end (yes, I delivered exactly as we had planned and dreamed) the fears did not thwart me. They might just make you stubborn just recall how all the choices you've made up tothis point you were CONFIDENT about. Lean into that voice that guided you all along. It will continue. You've got this girl!!! And don't cave on what you want. Ask questions, research and be sure any choices you make are yours. Then you won't go wrong. Life and light girl!
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  • rhebekarhebeka member
    Nerves are getting to me to at 39 weeks. Thanks for this message... Its what I really need to hear right now. Good luck >:D<
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