Let me start this off by saying that I am very grateful for any gift anyone decides to give us for our baby.
My husbands parents came by for dinner and gave us our baby shower present a week early (our shower is this weekend and it is a coed shower). His parents got us the rocker/glider we had registered for....the only thing is they didn't get it off our babies r us registry. Instead they got it off Amazon (after research they were shown to be the same price). 2 weeks prior to this my aunt had told us that she got us the rocker off our registry and it showed as being bought. I'm 95% sure I had mentioned this to my husbands mother.
So big whoop, she got the rocker, I will just return the one my aunt gave me and exchange it for something else.....WRONG! Its totally the wrong color and doesn't match any of the furniture which we had ordered 3 months ago and told his parents about it. I cannot return the rocker because his mom took the packing slip and wont give us any of the order information. So now I will be stuck with a rocker we cannot use and one we can. And I can't even exchange it for another big ticket item off our registry. If your familiar with babies r us registries, they give you 10% back of what was purchased off your registry also, which is inconvenient for us since this is a hard time of the year with $$ since we have another daughter (my SD) who is very active in sports.
So, although I am thankful that they would get us a gift, is it too much for me to ask that she should have at least done the research on which color to get or tell us she got it so that we could have taken it off our registry so that my aunt could have purchased us something else?
Signed,
Confused, hormonal, uncomfortable, and stressing from people's lack of common sense.
P.S. My husband and I are used to his parents "messing" things up and having a lack of communication. He wasn't surprised a bit by this but just as frustrated as I was.
Re: Gifts ON or OFF the registry?
I'm just not one to get sucked into "well, now I have to keep and use it or they'll be upset". If they REALLY cared, they would have asked about it or gotten the one you actually registered for.
I have tried to talk with Amazon, but unfortunately without my husbands parents account information and the order number there is no way for them to try to make the return. And as for the slip cover...it is the wood that is the wrong color. We have dark espresso furniture and the gave a light brown wood color.
We live with my mother, and his parents run a daycare, and my father and stepmom have young children (i'm a good bit older than my younger siblings) so they do not need a rocker for when the baby stays with them. So it wouldn't make sense to put the second one at one of our parents house.
My mom is the expert on delivery and returns and she suggested just returning the one that his parents gave us to babies r us once we get the right color one and just saying it was the wrong color and exchanging it for something else....... i'm not the devious type so I have a bit of an issue with doing that.....but i'm not seeing any other options.
All of this.
Honestly OP, this is such a first world problem. I promise when your baby is here you will look back at this and laugh at yourself.
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All of this.
Honestly OP, this is such a first world problem. I promise when your baby is here you will look back at this and laugh at yourself.
I agree. Is it that big of a deal that the colors don't match perfectly?
We weren't going to be able exchange it , as I wasn't traveling at 8 1/2 months pregnant and we weren't going to make a trip just for that. I was upset. I called it his rag a muffin room. Now, I don't even care. At all. We couldn't even tell you which one is darker without looking. Doesn't matter.
Thank you all for your input! I ended up just toughing it out with my MIL and explaining to her nicely that we could use the credit or $$ from Amazon to get out stroller. So she is working to get the glider returned now.
I did tell her I was appreciative, as I am everything. I have lived a blessed life but I learned to appreciate everything that I have and all that has been given to me.
In the end, yes, it may be a first world problem to many. But everyone has their vices and opinions. Mine is being particular about the way things look and match in my home...especially when its nice furniture that we can use many years down the road.
Thanks again for all your advice!
Put one in the nursery & one in the living room. You can get a cover for the one that is the "wrong color" if you'd like. It's not the end of the world. No matter how much you protest that you "really are grateful" what you say & what you are typing communicate the exact opposite.
Having more than one spot to get stuck in nap jail (comfortably) is awesome. Life is short to be this finicky.
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I understand that, but I think complaining about a gift is in poor taste. She can sell it and/or donate it to a women's shelter if room is an issue. She is fortunate that she has folks that are willing to spend $ on extraneous, mix-matching furniture.
It can seem like "my mink coat is so hot during this freezing blizzard" type complaint.
So I guess I'm in the minority, but there it is.
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...as I dread the call to my mom for the receipt for the crazy expensive skiing pants she gifted me for Christmas. :-p HA!