Present From SO

sschwege · February 2015

So does your SO give you a present or do something special for you after you have the baby. Or will they?

DH always gets me a charm from Pandora with the baby's birthstone on it. With my first I pretty much told him that's what I wanted.

What are your thoughts on what some people call 'push presents'?

nimble33 · February 2015

I'm hoping for a ring haha but never had a 'push present' before.

kate5all · February 2015

I assured DH that push presents are very standard practice.

asun123 · February 2015

I never got one with my son. But that's because there was no dad and I delivered alone.

But this time around, I have a great guy that loves spoiling me, so hopefully a present when I give birth would be nice!

I like spoiling him too though, so I'll probably get him a present that has to do with being a new dad or something.

sekosmides · February 2015

I had a friend tell her husband her size was 14karat.
My husband said my push present was a Greek baby (I've never met a group of people more thrilled with themselves than Greeks, lol).
I'm pretty sure they aren't even allowed to put their name on the birth certificate unless they present you with appropriate loot. That's what my husband heard anyway......

juliekay25 · February 2015

I'm happy with new carpet in the babies room and a little rocker recliner. I'm not a fancy girl and don't wear much jewelry so i like practical things.

gotdiesel2007 · February 2015

Personaly present push presents are dumb. I don't need a present bc I had a baby isn't the baby the present.

Emeraldeyed315 · February 2015

For our first xmas knowing we were expecting DD, he had gotten me a tiffany's "bean" necklace. After she arrived he gave me an alex and ani bracelet for mom, and one with her birthstone.

SoonToBeGenao · February 2015

The child that I deliver is the present that my husband blessed me with. I would not have these children blessing my life if it weren't for him.

chelsea13elyse · February 2015

With my first my husband bought me a ring with DS birthstone. It was garnet set in white gold with a diamond halo and it was absolutely gorgeous. I had mentioned to him once before that I would like to have a ring for each of my children's birthstones never thought twice about it so I guess he listens! I believe July is ruby so I'm pretty excited about that!

kladd7182 · February 2015

Push presents are unnessesary. Should I get my husband an ejaculation present? That is how the baby came to be after all.

Babies are a gift between 2 people. In an ideal situation that's how it should be seen anyway.

mikromorof · February 2015

@sekosmides‌ - That is hysterical! My husband is Greek and has made similar comments.

I would love a little something from my dear husband! But our little one will be gift enough

Emeraldeyed315 · February 2015

I will clarify, my gifts were not push presents. They were just the first presents he ever gave me related to baby so it was memorable. One was an xmas present and the other was for my bday.

chelsea13elyse · February 2015

I don't think it's dumb or selfish or unnecessary or whatever else. I don't think it's required and I personally would never ask my husband to do something for me for having a baby. I obviously think my baby is a precious gift but we shouldn't be made to feel wrong or silly if we do receive a small gift from our SO. It's a nice gesture and some people express love through gifts.

kladd7182 · February 2015

chelsea13elyse said:
I don't think it's dumb or selfish or unnecessary or whatever else. I don't think it's required and I personally would never ask my husband to do something for me for having a baby. I obviously think my baby is a precious gift but we shouldn't be made to feel wrong or silly if we do receive a small gift from our SO. It's a nice gesture and some people express love through gifts.

The OP asked, "what are your thoughts on 'push presents'. Some of us gave our thoughts on it. In no way shape or form did anyone try to invalidate your thoughts/opinions. However, it seems as though you are trying to invalidate the thoughts/opinions of those that are not for push presents.

I don't understand the need for you to say that we are making you feel wrong for accepting one. No posters said anything out of line, or nasty about anyone's opinions.

ohkay · February 2015

Last time DH surprised me with Tahoe. Maybe not the most romantic gift, but definitely thoughtful. It was awesome! Then early this past November we decided to trade it in on a car. A week or so later we found out we are expecting baby number three. Really wish we would have hung on to if now.

I have no clue if DH will do anything this time, but definitely wouldn't object to another bigger vehicle. However, I do not expect a present.

sekosmides · February 2015

kladd7182 said:
Push presents are unnessesary. Should I get my husband an ejaculation present? That is how the baby came to be after all.

Babies are a gift between 2 people. In an ideal situation that's how it should be seen anyway.

If childbirth felt like ejaculation, I guess that would be the gift!

sschwege · February 2015

sekosmides said:

Push presents are unnessesary. Should I get my husband an ejaculation present? That is how the baby came to be after all. Babies are a gift between 2 people. In an ideal situation that's how it should be seen anyway.
If childbirth felt like ejaculation, I guess that would be the gift!

Ha, that was my thought too!

JennyJensing · February 2015

Push presents are unnecessary. My DH sent me flowers last time and that was lovely. Anything more would be tacky IMO. In the same way that throwing your own shower for a second baby would be.

leelee1112 · February 2015

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leelee1112 · February 2015

My hubby got a silver Tiffany teddy bear charm for my bracelet when we found out we were expecting. I've been hinting at a ruby/diamond (July birthstone) or sapphire/diamond (since its a boy) eternity band to put with my wedding rings. We shall see!! I think push gifts are fun & sentimental.

runa00 · February 2015

I'm down with presents anytime any place any reason. I'm thinking of getting my husband a gift too and the baby a present for its birth day

sschwege · February 2015

JennyJensing said:

Push presents are unnecessary. My DH sent me flowers last time and that was lovely. Anything more would be tacky IMO. In the same way that throwing your own shower for a second baby would be.

Oh please receiving a present from your SO after the baby is born is not the same thing as soliciting your friends and family for gifts! And I'm not sure how flowers are not a present, that to me is just as much a present as my Pandora charm!

iteachkids81 · February 2015

I don't really want anything. Baby is due around my birthday so if he gets me some thing that's fine but I'd never ask for or expect a gift for giving birth.

maggs2015 · February 2015

so the comments from the greek family were hilarious and made my day. runa00, ditto--anytime anywhere! I received earrings with my first and am not expecting, requesting or even hoping for a present this go around. If my hubbie happens to surprise me I mean I certainly would be excited!!!

Ckorines · February 2015

Baby is present enough! However, he did splurge and buy me a designer diaper bag for our anniversary when we found out we were expecting our first child. (And he's Greek!)

sekosmides · February 2015

@Ckorines‌ they all talk a good game, but those Greek men love to spoil their ladies!

Stacey81182 · February 2015

I think it's a sweet idea! So obviously your new baby is gift enough but my hubs said it's not for having a baby but for all of the hard work (I'm guessing he means all the times I was designated driver -ha!) Who would ever turn down gifts from the man you love?! Not me.

sutavim2 · February 2015

Push presents are rediculous. I'm sure we could find a better way to spend money.. How bout setting it aside for a date night or vacation after baby?

maggs2015 · February 2015

Hrm a date night or piece of jewelry? I vote jewels any day!

sutavim2 · February 2015

I believe the response for that comment would be: materialistic and selfish

Ckorines · February 2015

I am no one to judge. Enjoy your jewels, Lady! My husband would end up doing both. (But he's Greek, so he would obviously say no first...and then surprise me.)

lovefaithxo · February 2015

I have zero problem with a "push present" if DH wants to get me a small gift I would be really surprised. I'm not expecting anything, I'm just excited to still be pregnant & I think once this baby's in my arms, that'll be more precious than jewelry, although I wouldn't mind a "mom" charm or bracelet considering the struggle we went through to get here

Mamamads · February 2015

sutavim2 said:
I believe the response for that comment would be: materialistic and selfish

Geeze angry much? If someone would like a present or jewelry in what way does that make them selfish? It's hard to gauge by her comment if she is indeed a materialistic person just because she enjoys jewelry. Get off your high horse.

maggs2015 · February 2015

my response maybe your hubbie is a bit cheap? If so I'm really sorry.

It was a joke in the first place, oh well I can tell you don't get my sense of humor!

maggs2015 · February 2015

Thank you Mamamads! I was being a little silly but I honestly can't understand why people get up in arms over pushing presents. Maybe just term "pushing present" is offensive? I can sort of get that.

However if someone's SO wants to buy them something why is that tacky? I don't want or expect anything but cheer on anyone who decides this is right for them. While my hubbie has certainly helped a lot during this pregnancy the bulk of the work is on me and will be until I choose to quit breastfeeding; if he decides to give me a little something I'm certainly not going to say take it back saying the baby was present enough. That goes without saying!!!!

Mamamads · February 2015

maggs2015 said:
Thank you Mamamads! I was being a little silly but I honestly can't understand why people get up in arms over pushing presents. Maybe just term "pushing present" is offensive? I can sort of get that.

However if someone's SO wants to buy them something why is that tacky? I don't want or expect anything but cheer on anyone who decides this is right for them. While my hubbie has certainly helped a lot during this pregnancy the bulk of the work is on me and will be until I choose to quit breastfeeding; if he decides to give me a little something I'm certainly not going to say take it back saying the baby was present enough. That goes without saying!!!!

Seriously!! If you don't oppose gifts any other time in life why is this any different. Us moms go through a lot to bring life into this world and if our loved ones want to show their appreciation with a gift who the hell cares?

muffyvonmuff · February 2015

I think if you need to ask for it its not a very thoughtful gift.

LibbyC730 · February 2015

I don't think DH has probably ever heard of a push present!! : ) Definitely wouldn't oppose, but telling him he should get me something isn't going to happen!

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