Did you have any help?

lilydolce · February 2015

My twins are 8 weeks old and I am trying to do it all on my own since my husband works long hours, we don't have family in town except my mom and she comes over for a few hours. Did you have any help with your babies? It's very exhausting and I don't get much done other than feed them and they cry a lot. Just wondering how other moms do it!

chrissynena · February 2015

I had help until they were 5 weeks old. My mom stayed with us. That first week she left I was like whoa!!!! They are 9 weeks now, and I am definitely starting to see more of a pattern with them. My boy is fairly needy as he has reflux, but that seems to be getting better. I struggle with not much one on one time with my 2 year old as I am always feeding someone it feels like.

Emilywooddesign · February 2015

I haven't had my twins yet but I am going to get a night nanny for the first month. They will bring you the twins to feed or give them bottles and will also do laundry and set you up for the next day. They aren't cheap but everyone I've spoken to says they are worth every Penney. It also takes away a bit of my fear to know a neutral party will be helping me and showing me what to do, you can get someone who has tons of experience with multiples. Good luck

meldoo2002 · February 2015

I didn't have help. Not once they were home really. DH was back to work, my mom was out of town. I didn't really do anything other than feed, change, and hold babies. We didn't cook (ate quick meals or protein bars, etc.). If we did cook it was while I was wearing a baby or we did it together and cooked for a few days at a time. I barely cleaned and I remember up till they were 2 I didn't think I'd ever decorate for another holiday again.. never mind do outdoor yard work. You're job now is to take care of them.. the rest can wait. They grow so fast.

Mrs.McIrish · February 2015

My twins will be 11wks on Friday. My mom was here the first 10 days and lives out of state. DH works very long hours including being gone for days at a time. No help at all. I will say that it seems like my girls are easier than what I hear from other twin mamas BC it's not so bad here.

minirella · February 2015

No. We have had no visitors except the grands because it is flu season and they were preemies. Grands did not hold them until a month after they came home (on Christmas day) but that was their doing, not mine. It can be exhausting but when my husband comes home he helps out. We also take shifts for sleeping at night. Mine were 3 months yesterday.

ksgsmu · February 2015

I have family that comes in and helps and we have a night nurse three nights a week. My babies are now almost a month old. I don't know how you ladies do it without help!

zazu13 · February 2015

I had a lot of help and it was still hard. I had different ladies from my church come for 1-2 hours a day M-F for the first month. It was a fantastic service they offered to me. I showered and tried to nap while they were here. Some days that was the only sleep I would get in a 24 hour period. I also had a lot of family (MIL, Mom, Sister, SIL) who would come help at different times and on the weekend with housework and such. Even with help I was incredibly exhausted and very lonely when I was home alone while DH worked. I also payed a neighbor teen to come help me a few hours a week during the summer when the babies were 3-6 months old. I wasn't getting other help anymore by that time so she would entertain babies for me while I got showered and did some house work and meal prep. Occasionally I left her alone with the babies while I ran an errand (usually when they napped). After 6 months the girls were mostly STTN and on a predictable eating and napping schedule so it was way more manageable and I feel like we have found our stride. Good luck! If you have people who would be willing to help, definitely ask! And if you have the means, definitely paid help so you can get some rest and down time. Take care.

Vegasbb · February 2015

I have a toddler and I am expecting twins and I'm so worried about this! Personally we have hired a night nurse for the first 6 weeks and then after that I'm looking into a mother's helper type person as PP has mentioned. Typically teenagers are fairly cheap and while you might not leave them alone with both babies it's nice to have a helping hand even a few hours a week so you can shower and meal plan.

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