Gender reveal party ettiquette

awolfff · February 2015

Just wondering (and sorry if this is a silly question) - is it okay for the parents to know the gender before the gender reveal party? I'm a little confused as to whether or not these parties are supposed to reveal the gender to everyone (including the parents) or if it's more for revealing the gender to close family and friends.

Thanks in advance!!!

Disneygeek77 · February 2015

Not necessarily, but it is more fun when everyone finds out together.

sschwege · February 2015

I don't actually know anyone IRL who has had one of these parties. From what I read on here it seems as if couples do it both ways.

Personally as a guest I would find it a little lame if the parents knew, I mean isn't the point to all find out together?

kej0004 · February 2015

I'd be pretty pissed if I went to one and the parents already knew. Most people are there to see the parents' reaction, not because they really have a preference on the sex.

Also, gender =/= sex.

ElRuby · February 2015

I would really prefer to see the genuine reaction of the parents than just me finding out the sex of the baby... So for me it would be a lot more fun if everyone was surprised.

thelittlestbee · February 2015

It's better if the parents don't know. That way everyone finds out together and the guests get to share the special moment with the parents.

Doing it the other way (parent's knowing in advance) is just very attention whorey and really quite pointless.

awolfff · February 2015

Thanks for the feedback ladies!!! It does sound like more fun if no one knows the sex

urbaniks · February 2015

I just had a gender reveal party and my husband and I decided not to know before hand. We took our envelope to party city with a box and told them to fill it with either pink or blue balloons. It was definitely more fun to find out together and document our true reactions on video and pictures. But you are free to do what you prefer

HoosOnFirst · February 2015

Hi @awolfff‌, there have been a few recent discussions of this very topic. If you are looking for more opinions, go to the search bar on this forum and type in "gender reveal party". There's a good thread from Dec 2014 with some more perspectives. Good luck!

awolfff · February 2015

@hoodoll82‌ thanks for the tip!!! I'm on the app right now and can't seem to find the search bar. I'll try again when I get home.

nicolec3 · February 2015

I think it is more fun if the parents are surprised too.

KonaCoffeeBean · February 2015

I'm really not sure what the point would be if the parents already knew.

thay33 · February 2015

DH and I didn't know at the party I felt it was a lot more fun that way, we were able to find out as a whole family

andreap525 · February 2015

DH and I were going to find out at our A/S and then surprise everyone else, but we changed our minds at the last minute. We got to experience that big 'ta-da!' moment with everyone else, and it was so special. Poor husband probably went partially deaf thanks to me and our sisters. It's up to you, but I think the point of the party really is for everyone to be surprised. It probably wouldn't have been as much fun if he and I knew in advance and were just having the party for everyone else.

kailanick · February 2015

My hubby and I found out at the AS and still had a party- mostly because we live out of town and wanted to tell everyone at the same time (everyone else lives in the same town). It was so fun!

I loved having a moment with my hubby to know beforehand and thought it was special for us to tell everyone together. It's also hard for me to process emotions, so finding out in front of everyone... No thank you!

I say do what you want! I've seen it done both ways! Those who love and support you will be happy to be there to find out... Even if you already know!

kbooth412 · February 2015

My friend asked to host a reveal party for my DH and I, she was the only one who knew the sex of the baby. Let me tell you, it was so hard not to pester her to tell us the results for that week that I knew she knew, but so so worth it! We found out by dropping a white bath-bomb into a vase of water and watched the colour of the water change - so cute! A few of our friends were asking us if we knew the sex of our little one before the party and we explained no, only the host did and our friends were so much more excited to attend once the realized they'd get to be there for our initial reactions!

LaurenS119 · February 2015

We also did sealed envelope to party fair for balloons in a box. our parents and my brother and fiance came over for dinner. No one knew before. It was fun to find out together. The video is cute with my dad taking bets and then being wrong. It was great for everyone to share that moment.

sideboth · February 2015

Here is how NOT to do it. I was teasing some close friends that we should have one and at some point I agreed to make cupcakes for everyone to share the news at a Super Bowl party. Originally I was suppose to bring over very inappropriate cupcakes (think vagina/penis shaped cupcakes). Life got in the way, I never ordered them and decided to make caramel cupcakes instead. The cupcakes, while very yummy, looked like someone had pooped on them. I had a work emergency and could not go to the first half of the party but dropped off my DH with the cupcakes. Confusion abounded as my DH refused to share the news and no one could figure out what my cupcakes were suppose to represent (they weren't suppose to represent anything but I had forgotten to tell my DH that and he had no idea either). I finally showed up and shared that my brown, poo cupcakes represented nothing and surprise we are having a girl. The funniest theory was that the cupcakes represented my desire for a little brown baby. Luckily my friends love me.

mamasaurusB · February 2015

We had a mix- I saw the baby's genitals on the sono. I didn't think I'd know what I was looking at (neither did the tech) but the second I saw it I knew. I made sure not to tell anyone or let on just incase I was wrong - especially not daddy who wasn't aware until the sono that we wouldn't be finding out until the party. (Pretty hilarious revelation!) I think everyone had a lot more fun with us not knowing. We also let everyone wear their guess and after the reveal we did a raffle for everyone who guessed right.

mlindzz · February 2015

sideboth said:
Here is how NOT to do it. I was teasing some close friends that we should have one and at some point I agreed to make cupcakes for everyone to share the news at a Super Bowl party. Originally I was suppose to bring over very inappropriate cupcakes (think vagina/penis shaped cupcakes). Life got in the way, I never ordered them and decided to make caramel cupcakes instead. The cupcakes, while very yummy, looked like someone had pooped on them. I had a work emergency and could not go to the first half of the party but dropped off my DH with the cupcakes. Confusion abounded as my DH refused to share the news and no one could figure out what my cupcakes were suppose to represent (they weren't suppose to represent anything but I had forgotten to tell my DH that and he had no idea either). I finally showed up and shared that my brown, poo cupcakes represented nothing and surprise we are having a girl. The funniest theory was that the cupcakes represented my desire for a little brown baby. Luckily my friends love me.

Lmao! Thanks for sharing this. Too funny.

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