Would you have a shower with only a few people?

ladyteach0505 · February 2015

I honestly feel stupid. My friend and mom want to throw a shower, but since I live out of town I've lost touch with nearly everyone from where I'm from. On top of that the only people I really know are from work and we typically have little work showers, so inviting them to two showers would be rude in terms of looking like I expect two gifts. So that leaves three people from DH's family, three from mine and maybe three friends.
I'm debating asking them not to do it at all. My SIL is pregnant and having a mega shower with 50 people+ a month before mine would be. As we are married to twins I feel like we are already compared as it is. And in general
It makes me feel like I'm not a very likeable person if I only have 9 people to invite to a shower and I guess I wonder if that's the point of a shower in general.

Sarahbmcd · February 2015

I think you still should do it. Maybe do something more Intimate like a luncheon or something.

crsanchez87 · February 2015

I don't think it's stupid. I feel like if there are people who want to do something special for you then thats amazing. Maybe a small get together with a dinner or bbq would be more suited to the occasion and the amount of people going.

beezybaby · February 2015

Yeah, I ran in to this with my first. We had been living out of the country, and we had JUST had wedding showers, so I didn't feel too comfortable inviting some of the same people who really weren't my besties. Then I felt really lame for online having 10 or so people to invite. BUT, it was awesome. it was very personal. More like hanging out with a group of awesome women who were welcoming me into the folds of motherhood, than feeling like I was having to entertain in some way. I loved it. Sounds like maybe you and your SIL just have different social styles.

gkrenzel · February 2015

I think this is totally fine, many of my family members have done this with just our family. The last one my aunt had already had a shower with friends/coworkers and there were about 10 of us at family shower. It was pretty relaxed and fun.
I get where you're coming from with the twin thing, DH is a twin and although his brother only has girlfriend, I feel like there's always a comparison going on. I just don't get involved and do my own thing

rosannewild · February 2015

I also live away from my family and friends and I decided to have a shower anyway and invite the friends I've made out here and my coworkers. Some people will come from out of town, but I'm planning a trip home with baby a month or two after she arrives for a welcome baby shower. They will be thrilled to meet her!

rositalynda2014 · February 2015

I think you should.! Lol I feel stupid because mines looking like around 40 people and I've always been under the impression it should be between 8-12 guests. Ha so I guess there's no right or wrong to this one.

saric83 · February 2015

That's definitely fine! I've thrown a few showers with smaller groups, and we just did less-traditional format and more of a casual get-together.

shan820 · February 2015

I thought I was going to have this problem. But my MIL is inviting every woman in her extended family, people I don't even know! I would prefer it to be small and intimate. I say have and enjoy

MrsPDX · February 2015

My shower will also be super small. I am inviting 3 friends, an aunt, my MIL, and a few family friends. At the most it will be around 10-12 people. I don't have many friends that live here, as I moved here not that long ago. At first I was stressed about it, and felt bad because I was like I should have more people to invite. But, now I kind of have accepted it and am excited, even for a small event. I would still do it, and just enjoy chatting with the close people in your life.

ktzen3 · February 2015

I had a wedding shower that was similar in size and honestly out of all my showers, it was my favorite. I was able to have conversations with everyone who was there and in general it just felt more intimate and special.

jenanns · February 2015

I am having a small shower since we have no family even remotely nearby . My friend/neighbor wanted to do it and I would rather have a small one anyway. We are doing a couples shower so a lot of our couples friends are comming which helps with numbers a bit and I think it just makes it more fun.

EmLove61 · February 2015

I agree, don't feel stupid! Maybe you'd rather have a few quality people than a bunch of acquaintances anyway?! I am having two different showers thrown for me, one is in my hometown and will only have about 10 there, and I'm more than okay with that!!

jennygirlmt · February 2015

When we threw my SIL a shower only about 12 people could come. And most of them were friends of our family, not our actual family! (It was summer and vacations and such clashed).

I was really bummed for her. But we all had a BLAST! We could sit around the huge dining room table to chat, laugh, and opening gifts was sort of intimate. It was much less "commercial." My SIL loved it and all the ladies had a great time.

It also made it easier to have super fancy food since I didn't have to make huge quantities ;-)

I'd say do it. The 9 ladies who can come want to honor you and celebrate you and you'll have great memories.

I think a shower with 50 people would be crazy (and I'm super type A, totally into visiting and welcoming people and that even seems overwhelming to me).

Don't worry about being compared, just enjoy the time with the women who mean a lot to you as they share the joy of entering motherhood!

kby721 · February 2015

I think you should do it if they are wanting to throw it for you which it sounds like they are. I have seen some really cool shower ideas like having someone come in and do manis/pedis or makeovers or even cooking classes which might work well for a smaller party.

blankenbakerh · February 2015

In the past the showers I have had were smaller as well. Between 10-15 people and I enjoyed them very much! They were causal and relaxed. I think you should go for it and enjoy:)

welcomeinc · February 2015

Do it! It will be nice to have a smallish party. Really it just about having family and friends around you during this time and celebrating the fun.

mrshall1027 · February 2015

I wouldn't worry about it being too small, but if you'd really like to have more people there, maybe you could have a co-ed shower instead of women only. Just a thought.

kmb0324 · February 2015

Small intimate gathering that sounds like a PERFECT baby shower! Don't feel like it's because you don't have a ton of friends. Typically I enjoy the smaller showers anyways, these are usually the closest people to you that really want to celebrate with you!

QueenVict0ria · February 2015

No. If I do a shower I'd be in the same boat. I've moved out if state twice in the last 3 years so I've lost touch with a lot of friends. Also a lot of my family members are... embarrassing to say the least lol and I don't want them to make my bf's family uncomfortable. I would only invite my grandparents. I'm leaning more towards no and just doing a registry. But if i had a shower it would be pretty small.

clarever · February 2015

I just found out today that my sister and sister in law will be hosting a shower for me. Completely unexpected. Wasn't planning on having one since this is our third but the last shower I had for our first was 7 years ago. The thing is we just moved across country (closer to said sister and sister in law) and I have no friends here. I think it's so sweet of them yet I have no clue who they plan to invite. Even if it's just a very small gathering, I'm sure it will be lots of fun

AlexandriaPR · February 2015

I think it's totally fine! My shower here where we live (we are missionaries in Albania) will only have like 4 other women there (other Americans). I'm having another shower via Skype from the States with everyone else that lives at home. Even with such few people it's the memories that matter! It's good that there are people that want to support you during this time

thestarrynight · February 2015

Definitely still do it. My SIL had a small shower like that and it was so nice and laid back! Everyone had such a good time.

sschwege · February 2015

Honestly, that sounds wonderful! I prefer that to a huge one! My shower was small maybe 15? My mom had it at a hotel and it was afternoon tea. The cool thing was it was in the lobby where other people were having afternoon tea, there was even another shower going on, but we kind of had our own private corner. So it didn't seem small, plus I got to talk to everyone and sort of take my time opening gifts and enjoying the food.

Bon2737 · February 2015

Personally I prefer taking a shower on my own :P

heehee

Parenturownway · February 2015

Bon2737 said:
Personally I prefer taking a shower on my own :P heehee

Loling!
Small showers are great in my opinion. Makes it more personal to guests.

traceyade12 · February 2015

Am planning to do a baby shower with about 12 of my friends

Lbdelacruz · February 2015

My shower will likely be on the smaller side, too. Close pals live far away, as does some family. I feel more comfortable that way, but I'm a bit on the shy side.

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