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Advice?

Achavez1Achavez1 member
in March 2015 Moms
Can anyone give me advice I am 8 months pregnant I left my boyfriend. He didn't want to try working on our problems after 5 years. I am tired of him hurting me. I can't believe after so many years & baby it is so easy for him to say " you don't have to be with me" I feel like my whole life is over but I know i have to stay strong fort baby girl & i
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  • Christina80xoxoChristina80xoxo member
    I just posted something similar :(
    Mine was abusive, so I chose to end it. I was afraid for my daughter and the baby I'm about to have.
    Sometimes I feel good. Sometimes I feel like I can't breathe cuz it hurts so bad.
    I keep telling myself time heals all wounds. I hope you and I both find peace soon.
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  • Achavez1Achavez1 member
    I will rememeber that thank you @Carmar3‌ is wrong that I am picking the name & he doesn't get a say? Or that I don't want him or his mom in the delivery room?
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  • erwallace089erwallace089 member
    You need to be comfortable for l&d I wouldn't have him in there with you.. But I don't know the whole story
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  • lucylouxoxolucylouxoxo member
    I know it's hard but you can always find someone else. It doesn't matter if he's the biological father, you can find someone who will be there for you and your baby :) if he cared enough he would show it. He's not worth it and doesn't deserve someone who's that dedicated!
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  • jillbabe91jillbabe91 member
    edited February 2015
    ): I'm so sorry. Especially being horomonal right now, it's hard coping and not letting it get to you. There here is a guy out there who will love you and your precious baby like his own, it may take awhile to find him but I promise there is men like that out there for you!
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  • erwallace089erwallace089 member
    Xox
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  • Christina1939Christina1939 member
    I left my SO after my first born (he is now seven). Like, three weeks after. It was really hard because I had post partum depression also, but I knew it would be worth it in the long run. Hopefully you have some sort of support system? Family? Rely on them! I moved in with my mom for six months before doing it all on my own, and having her there so I was not alone kept me sane!!

    You will find someone better. It took years after that until I found my husband & I'm so happy I made the decision to break off the first relationship!
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  • sineadcullen20sineadcullen20 member
    My advise is , try be strong show that you don't need him ( even if you do ) show you don't, just be careless about him. He will come running back with a different atitude. It will hopefully scare him to see you can actually go on without him. It'll soon teach him a lesson hopefully
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  • Achavez1Achavez1 member
    Thank you everyone your words have really encouraged me. For those of you who want the story. We have been together for 5 years since I was a freshman I am 20 now. he has been acting single on his Instagram it has always bothered me that he has never posted anything of us on it. All I ever asked was for him to acknowledge me our relationship but he couldn't even do that. It's sad that he deletes comments of that people leave when they mention something about his kid because he doesn't want people to know. I've now finally realized that I don't want to be with someone like that I deserve someone who wants to showe off & who is proud of me. Other than that I do have trust issues with him he doesn't want to fix the problems even though he is the reason why I don't trust him. I've caught him texting other women having dirty conversations. After all that I stuck around. He is leaving to the military in May reserves I feel like it was something I had to do if it's not working now it won't work long distance. I'm soo hurt and angry that he stayed with me then wanted to act single I don't understand why.
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  • Achavez1Achavez1 member
    I've been through a lot with him and have given him many chances your right I do need to act like I don't care and like I don't need him because it's true I don't. Thank you. <3
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  • Achavez1Achavez1 member
    @sineadcullen20‌
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  • breannahagenbreannahagen member
    I left the father of my unborn son and just last week his mom came around asking and apologizing for the way that she acted asking to be able to be part of her grandsons life. This tool some thinking cause she said some harsh things the last time we had talked but we have settled for her to be able to visit in the hospital after he is here or I will go to her so that she may meet him. I do not feel comfortable with her being there for the birth and that was a hard decision for me to come to.
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  • Achavez1Achavez1 member
    @Christina80xoxo‌ Aww I am so sorry to hear that you made the right decision. Don't worry you will find someone who will love & take care of your baby. Yes I believe time heals it just takes some time. You will be so busy with your beautiful or handsome little one. When your baby comes nothing else matter. Now is the time to focus on yourself. Get your life together If it already isnt. Don't give up be strong because your little son or
    Daughter needs you.
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  • Achavez1Achavez1 member
    Lol thank you @Carmar3‌ I appreciate your advice it is helpful to me
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  • Achavez1Achavez1 member
    @Christina1939‌ yes I do have a strong support system thank you :') I appreciate your advice
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