My bf is an idiot

AshleyFaye2012 · February 2015

So my boyfriend has officially proven he is an idiot. He actually told me and I quote "formula has been proven to be better than breastmilk, and breastfeeding is just nasty." He claims Vanderbilt supports this theory just because his SIL is in management there. And now he's mad because my mother and best friend of 8 years are going to the A/S with me. He hasn't been to a single appointment or even tried and he says that it's supposed to be just us which I agree, but he says no one but us is supposed to know the sex of the baby till delivery day because that's how it is in the movies and TV shows...

Sorry for the rant but he's an idiot and it's not just me right?

amooraxo · February 2015

Tell him "and this is why God made woman the carriers of life... because if it was men, no one would have made it alive"

It is kind of funny... he sounds a little dramatic.

thelittlestbee · February 2015

Nope, it's not just you. He definitely sounds like an idiot.

AshleyFaye2012 · February 2015

He is a very dramatic person. He is the type of person once he gets something in his mind as true there is no changing it. I thought it was hilarious myself

amooraxo · February 2015

That would annoy me. I couldn't deal. Praise be to you!

Emilywooddesign · February 2015

He sounds like a dumbass to me, is he 15? Homeboy sounds like he needs to grow up.

AmyCee · February 2015

Explain the thousands of dollars in savings you'll have if you're able to breastfeed...he may start to realize the benefits --

AshleyFaye2012 · February 2015

He's 25 but he honestly acts like he is 15 sometimes. I gave him a book to read. Let's see if it helps any.

mccall35 · February 2015

AngieBMcG said:
He's an idiot smile: ) he just needs more education from another source he will believe. You know how a SO will never believe anything you say? But if a stranger tells them, they believe it's true. So annoying.

My SO is more than happy to believe information from me. I take time to educate myself and he respects that I've done the research. If my DH consistently took the word over a bunch of strangers over me, that would not fly. Statements like this sound like you haven't been part of a very mature relationship to me.

Kiki119 · February 2015

Afterall u r the mommy and one who carry this little life for last 9 months... You know what's best for your little one

We r planning to breastfeed (both directly fm breast and pumped, so my DH can help out and give me a little break at night) but we r not ruling out formula just yet just case I am not producing enough

Maybe you should get him to go to a Breast feeding class and some more apointment so he can get more educated?!?!

girlymama79 · February 2015

Wow. I agree, he sounds like an idiot.

AshleyFaye2012 · February 2015

He refuses to go to any appointments because my mom went to ONE of them. He's very immature and I hope for the baby's sake he grows up

ajgerber · February 2015

My personal pet peeve is that just because you carry this child for 9 months, it is absolutely a partnership with lots of important decisions that need to involve both of you. You need to work as a team. He needs to grow up and get involved and not place all the responsibilities on you. You've got many years ahead of you where you both need to work together for the good of your child.

DH and I don't always agree on things but we do our best to at least make decisions and compromise when needed. Just because I'm the pregnant one doesn't mean he gets no say. It works both ways.

MrsCaliRN · February 2015

Is your bf's name Derek Zoolander by chance?

Sounds like he'll fall for anything. I'd say use that to your advantage and type up some bogus statistic on a Microsoft Word document and print it out and see if he goes for it. Chances are he will and chances are you'll get a good laugh over it.

AshleyFaye2012 · February 2015

I honestly think his SIL was messing with him and he took it seriously. . He's not that great with sarcasm

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AshleyFaye2012 · February 2015

Yeah I know. I picked a real winner. I deserve some kind of award. Maybe one of the awesome gifs?

lovethatcolosun · February 2015

See if you can convince him to go to a doctor appt so they can tell him the benefits of breast feeding over formula. I did both with my son because if low supply. If I had the choice he would have been solely on the breast, but you do what you can. It'd be great if he could go to your a/s with you. It's such a cool experience. It will make things so much more "real" for him once he sees your LO. Then maybe he'll mature a little bit.

chey671 · February 2015

I agree to. I plan on to breastfeed my little girl. And her father said it would be a good idea to learn about to. don't rule out formula just yet. It's best for both of you guys to learn about it together.

bumpuser10694995 · February 2015

My husband is grossed out by breast milk but he understands my need to breast feed and he has seen the benefits in our kids vs. His family who all use formula my kids are way healthier. Do the best thing for you and baby. Good luck.

mamahawk12 · February 2015

I mean... you procreated with this moron. Soo...

meghanandjimmy · February 2015

I feel bad about all this- he is the father of her child and even though guys make mistakes, it's not fair to dissect him like this. @AshleyFaye2012‌ just guide him, and help him understand that you want him at appointments. It is through coming with you that he may pick up on some information that will open his mind to new things. Good luck momma!

AshleyFaye2012 · February 2015

He's not an open minded person at all. Now he has broken up with me and is trying to take me to court for custody of our daughter as soon as she arrives just because I wouldn't go about everything just the way he wanted. I honestly tried to comprise but he didn't want the baby to begin with. It's just a stressful situation because no matter what I do he isn't happy.

AshleyFaye2012 · February 2015

@mamahawk12‌ it wasn't a planned pregnancy. I was on birth control but im still very blessed to have this little one. He's mentally unstable and verbally abusive. I was getting ready to leave him when I found out I was pregnant. I thought I could change him but I know that was dumb.

meghanandjimmy · February 2015

I guess there is a lot more to the story.. I wish you and your little one the best. You can and will be a great mom. @ashleyfaye2012

gilder40 · February 2015

Keep up with appointments and keep all documentation that you are doing everything you can to have a healthy little one. He sounds spiteful...trying to get custody when he didn't even want the kiddo to begin with? That's a horrible situation for a baby. Good luck with everything.

Davila21 · February 2015

No advice to give. I was in a similar situation before but thankfully I was able to get out of it. As long as you're doing what you should be, it's very unlikely they would give him custody over you any way. Good luck!

AshleyFaye2012 · February 2015

I know. I honestly think he's just trying to play head games but either way I already have a lawyer with all of his texts and a ex friend of his as a witness to his behavior. I'm doing everything right for this baby.

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