What are the rude things you have heard (so far). I had two guys pretty much just insult my weight. When I said I've only gained 1lb so far they both said "No way!". Now, I'm aware that I definitely have a bump, but a) I was about 20lb+ overweight before getting pregnant and b) I lost a few pounds my first trimester because of nausea. So, basically baby has just been feeding off my fat until recently, lol. So, yes, I may look like I've gained more, but, good Lord, some people are so freaking rude. Maybe I'm being sensitive because I have always been very self conscious no matter what weight I'm at.
Re: Rude comments from people....
Other comments are from my sister.... haven't had any strangers or friends say rude things. Funny.....
Also isn't 4 weeks a little early to announce to work? Just me?
Me: 31 DH: 34
Married 11/09/2013
LO#1: LMP 09/14/2014 BFP 10/15/2014 EDD 06/24/2015 DS Born 06/14/2015
LO#2: LMP 09/18/2016 BFP 10/19/2016 EDD 06/27/2017 DD Born 06/27/2017
LO#3: LMP 05/16/2018 BFP 06/18/2018 EDD 02/20/2019
Wow that is just like.. Scary. ITS NOT YOUR PARTY!! ITS MY DAY!!....
And at work. SQUEE IM TOTES PREGGO I WANT THE WORLD TO KNOW. THE EGG HAS JUST EMBEDDED IN MY UTE. It all seems a bit attention seeking. My bitch sensor is telling me that maybe she wanted to be the centre of attention.. She sounds a strange one. I'd be side eyeing like crazy
I am also getting so sick of people's stories about how this woman they know miscarried right after they found out the sex or the baby's cord wrapped around the neck at 8 months and it died or someone had a still birth. WHY ARE YOU TELLING ME THIS?!?!? I know all the horrible things that can happen and being pregnant, I actually happen to be hyper sensitive to them. So, sorry about your friend, but I really don't want to hear about it at 20 weeks pregnant, thanks.
Whew. That felt good to unleash.
The rudest I've heard:
"You look like you have a whole litter in there" -SMIL ...thanks but I'm not a cat so...
"Are you sure it's not twins?! You're so big" -11yr old BIL ...yes, I'm sure and no, I am not SO big but are you sure you wanna comment on my belly because you look more pregnant than I do...
"Your ass looks huge" -SSIL, 16, ...I'm still not sure if that was a compliment or not...
...I only remember because of the 50/50 thing not because I'm creepy or anything.
She never bitched me out, but she has been saying some really messed up shit to me since the day I announced. Like saying that just about everything can cause a MC and that I could still lose the baby at 5 months. Last week she said I had a lot of gray hair but that I shouldn't dye it even though my doctor said it was ok, oooh and that it was bad to get manicures and pedicures (which I get every week!) Apparently I am a horrible person for putting my baby at risk for the sake of "vanity". The bitch is crazy.
I'd much rather have a "you're huge" comment
@chelseahebert1991 and I that thought the children was considered to be innocent "lambs" according to the Bible....! Wonder what hurtful nonsense she would have said to someone who had a miscarriage if she really believes that sh*t! I'm glad to hear that you do not tolerate any of it! I have some pretty religious relatives too and know how it can be sometimes...
For myself, my biggest complaint about rude comments is not about weight but about birth control. Why does everyone ask immediately about your BC when they find out you are pregnant? "Were you trying? Well why not? If you were using BC then you must've made a decision to not use it and that's why you are pregnant. What kind of BC did you use?" I get these questions from people who I've talked to maybe once or twice before! Like I'm going to talk about intimate details of my sex life with some person I see maybe twice a month sitting at the bar where I work.
One of my best friends says "there is no hiding your pregnant anymore that is definitely a pregnant belly"
I work at a daycare and pretty much everyone knows but my co worker said "are you exoecting? You're really round"
And the 6 year old girl I babysit for says " I can definitely see the baby you have in your belly now". Lol this one cracks me up
Also, who's business is it whether or not you were trying or had a happy accident? Certainly not something I wanna talk about over dinner with the in-laws.
I would brush off the "old" comments. There are so many different benefits when it comes to having a child at various stages of your life whether it be 20's or 30's ...I think people just like to find anything they can to rub your nose in it.
This. When I first told people, almost everyone asked, "Were you trying or was it a surprise?" By now, most people I tell don't seem to ask any more (I don't get this either - is it just the nature of being farther along?)... But a former employee, who I don't really care for, emailed to say she heard, and her first sentence in the email was, "Was it planned or a surprise?" I'm 32 and have been married for 3 years, with DH for 10. Do people not know how this happens, or think I don't know??! My best answer so far was, "Well I wasn't asleep!" The woman actually apologized. I tried, "Want to see the tape?!" But since these are inappropriate people anyway, that didn't stop them, and just made things more awkward...
married to my baby's father, it's really strange to ask if we were TTC or just had an oops.
She never bitched me out, but she has been saying some really messed up shit to me since the day I announced. Like saying that just about everything can cause a MC and that I could still lose the baby at 5 months. Last week she said I had a lot of gray hair but that I shouldn't dye it even though my doctor said it was ok, oooh and that it was bad to get manicures and pedicures (which I get every week!) Apparently I am a horrible person for putting my baby at risk for the sake of "vanity". The bitch is crazy.
If some bitch at work was saying shit about MC constantly to me, i don't think I could have restrained myself from clawing her eyes out.. You have amazing willpower.
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