Do you feel connected to your pregnancy?

Ladybug4u2014 · January 2015

Ian having trouble feeling connected to my pregnancy. It is my second baby and at my 12 week check up the dr couldn't find the heart beat. This happened the first time around too. What are some ways I can feel more connected been super stressed these ladt3 weeks.

shay092185 · January 2015

How old is your first? If his old enough get him involved. My son is four and is very interested in the pregnancy so every week we watch short videos together so he can learn whats going on with me and the baby. He checks on the baby every morning and evening sooo his the main one making me feel connected.

I talk A LOT and none of my colleagues have kids sooo I get to talk baby all day and that also helps. Get someone you can talk to. Once you start feeling the baby move you will def feel more connected.

My pregnancy hormones and cravings also get me feeling connected. I know I dont always eat this much or sleep 24 hours lol.

GSUDavis · January 2015

I had a loss earlier in the year and had very hard time connecting until after the 12 week appt, even almost to the 16 week appt. I was terrified that I would get attached again and have an early loss. I'm 17 weeks now and things are much better. My DH started "sending texts" addressed to the baby about a week ago. It's about the sweetest thing ever. I read them out loud to the baby and respond with things I think the baby might say. It's really helped us both to bond with each other and the baby. Best of luck to you! =D

Cfabretti2 · January 2015

I've had a very hard time connecting too. Im 14wks. My daughter is 11. When i went to my last ultrasound I felt like the scene from the movie Baby Mama "There's a baby in there!!!" As it was moving all around i felt guilt for not feeling connected. But now im back to feeling the same way. Maybe this time around being 30 with an 11 year old. Different father, A mother who just came out of the ICU and in a relationship with a man who thinks if i don't catter to his ever need I've 'changed' verses when I was 19 responsibility free and happy... idk if that all plays a role. I hope i don't continue to feel like this.

ammc07 · January 2015

This is my second and I'm not as connected as I was with my first. For me, when I was pregnant for the first time everything was new and unknown. I couldn't wait to experience each of the milestones. Plus pregnancy was the only thing I focused all my mind on. Now though, I have a rowdy 4 year old that I have to focus on and I have a good idea of what to expect for the next couple months. I'm sure once I know the sex and I start actually getting stuff for the baby I will get a little more excited. Talking to a couple of my girlfriend's, they said this is normal and were like that with their pregnancies as well.

kladd7182 · January 2015

This is my fifth baby. My first I felt very connected, but everything was brand new. My second I started feeling a little disconnected, and the more I had the more I felt like that. UNTIL, I found out the sex of the baby. Then baby had a name, and I could buy stuff for the baby. I think everything just seems overwhelming at first, even if you don't realize it. Sometimes it just takes an extra jump start I guess.

lcronk7014 · January 2015

I don't even realize what that ultimately means. I Mean I kno im pregnant of course - feeling symptoms and heard heartbeat. But idk I dint talk to my belly but I think he- she can hear me lol im just excited shout every thing upcoming.

corndogrobot · January 2015

Week 16. Trying to feel connected with baby #2. But so much guilt taking time from #1. being the middle child I feel a huge responsibility to make #2 feel special and loved and not compared. Because I didn't feel special, wanted or an individual. I was always "Jennifer's sister"
and I want my kids to never feel the way I did growing up.

Ckorines · January 2015

We lost our second baby last year and I fell apart. Was over the moon with happiness when we found out we were expecting again, but found myself living in denial for the first couple of weeks out of fear that I would lose this baby as well. The doctor sat me down and explained to me, "that I was letting this pregnancy pass me by." It was the wake up call I needed. Try to enjoy every second, and don't let this time pass you by either. Good luck.

keeka9 · January 2015

This is my first.... 17w 4days and at first I was really excited and my SO wasnt.... Baby wasn't really planned,... Now it's like we have switched roles he's excited and and just stressed and dreading things.... I feel awful for it... Other tha being sick all the time I have no pregnancy symptoms.... I've lost 15lbs and not showing at all.... We find out what we are having feb 24 SOOO im hoping I will connect more since baby will be a he or a she and not just a baby something LOL.... Doesn't help that all my family is 13 hrs away... I'm used to my huge Italian family not his small detached and do nothing together family....

MCH77 · January 2015

I'm having a hard time. I have had 4 losses on our journey, including losing my son at 24w a year ago. I know for me it is keeping me sane.

samurrutia89 · February 2015

Im 15 weeks and 3 days. This is my first. I havent felt THAT connected, yet. Probably because I have to worry about my classes. Full time student and husband is only working. I am excited, but Im ready for the full blown over excitement. My appt for gender is late March. Hopefully it will hit then.

Chellz0684 · February 2015

I am just starting to feel connected. And super excited to find out the sex on next Thursday. I think ill feel even more connected now. :x

k3taeko · February 2015

I didn't feel connected at all until I finally saw the baby moving around in there and even then I only felt a little connected. I think I'll feel a lot more connected when I can actually feel it

hmmullen88 · February 2015

ammc07 said:
This is my second and I'm not as connected as I was with my first. For me, when I was pregnant for the first time everything was new and unknown. I couldn't wait to experience each of the milestones. Plus pregnancy was the only thing I focused all my mind on. Now though, I have a rowdy 4 year old that I have to focus on and I have a good idea of what to expect for the next couple months. I'm sure once I know the sex and I start actually getting stuff for the baby I will get a little more excited. Talking to a couple of my girlfriend's, they said this is normal and were like that with their pregnancies as well.

It's like you just told my story. I have a 4 yr old boy and I just can't seem to connect with this pregnancy. I'm hoping when we find out the gender I'll become more connected as well! I feel bad for not being as excited as I was with ds.

agt104 · February 2015

I'm still having a hard time feeling excited or feeling that I'm even pregnant. Like some previous posters have said I had a lot earlier this year and it feels like I'm protecting myself. Even though I'm at 18w I'm so terrified something could happen. Hopefully I'll feel better after 20 weeks or when I feel the baby move! I'm glad that I'm not alone.

asherk · February 2015

I didn't have a loss, but we were ttc for two years. Everytime af came it felt like a loss, and I really started to believe that maybe my body just wasn't cut out for this. So now, I'm constantly worried that something will go wrong. I've purposely been distancing myself. We didn't tell anyone until after I had my first us at 10 weeks, and even then I was petrified to. Now I'm coming up on 17 weeks and still feel like I have to distance myself...I don't feel movement yet and I'm not showing, so other than my sore boobs it's easy to think that in not pregnant, or that something has gone wrong and I've lost the baby without knowing it. I have my next OB appointment on Thursday and I'm so worried that we won't hear the heartbeat because something has gone wrong. I am hoping, as PPs said, that once I have my anatomy scan and know the sex I will be able to let myself relax and enjoy this ride. Fingers crossed!!

gerberva11837 · February 2015

This is my second and I'm having a hard time connecting, even though I've seen the baby several times and everything has been ok so far. I have an anterior placenta though, and because of that I've only felt the baby MAYBE 5 times, and each time there's lots of days between feeling movement. I hope that after my A/S on the 23rd and knowing (hopefully) that everything is just fine in there that it'll help. I think feeling movement a bit more will help too, and we're finding out what we're having this time so hopefully that'll help also.

Dpatto93 · February 2015

This is my second pregnancy too. I'm not connected to this pregnancy either. My son is 2 years old next month and with his pregnancy I counted down the days until the next week, finding out how the baby had developed ect. This time round we had been trying for the baby for a year. I was excited when I got the positive but I had a bleed a couple of days later. I went in for a scan and found out one twin hadn't developed proppely but I was still pregnant with the other. A week later at 7 weeks I had a huge bleed and was rushed into hospital, I was told I had lost the baby but a scan showed the baby was their happy and 'healthy'. I had a huge subchronic hematoma and was told the size and position was dangerous so had scans every 2 weeks. I bled and cramped a lot but was told to ignore it because it was just the SCH trying to escape. Finaly at 18 weeks I was told the SCH had completely gone but my excitement has also gone because of the worry and stress.

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