At a loss for words

khan08 · January 2015

I am trying to wrap my head around this girls, but I just received a call from my sister. I had mentioned earlier this week that she was a FTM expecting in August. She just called to tell me that they miscarried. I am honestly so flipping confused and hurt. What they told her had happened is her body grew for the 13 wks. she was pregnant but not a single yok sac or baby developed from day of inplantation.

They gave it a special name, I don't remember it. I am just like WTF. Her body and placenta is still growing like she is pregnant but there is just no baby. He body hasn't realized yet and she could still go another month carrying the placenta. I have never heard of this, nor knew it existed. I just don't know what to think. I am so sad LO won't have that cousin so close in age. I am so sad I won't be an aunt. I just don't know what to think right now, looking for so clarification if anybody has any.

khan08 · January 2015

Thanks. Creepy Internet hug accepted.

rad3585 · January 2015

Was it a blighted ovum?

SMFB · January 2015

I'm so sorry for you and your sisters family. That is awful.

khan08 · January 2015

@rad3585‌ yes that's they word. I plan on searching that topic here within the next couple min. But I am just so hurt/confused. I know there was a reason why this happened(they stated that multiple chromosomes cause this) but like why. I feel guilty which know everybody will say don't ever feel that way. It is my sister though, like she's my best friend.

somewheresublime86 · January 2015

I have a friend who had this happen. Baby would have arrived last month. The positive news is, she's expecting again and 17 weeks along. It's awful and sad, but it's rare and likely won't happen again.

rad3585 · January 2015

I'm sorry for your sisters loss. I had a blighted ovum in May. They are more common than you would think, although I had never heard of it before I had one either.

khan08 · January 2015

I am sorry to hear that @rad3585‌

borgie05 · January 2015

Aww that is so hard! I actually had a miscarriage last June. My due date for that pregnancy would have been December 26th. A pregnancy loss is difficult, but to give you some hope know that miscarriages are extremely common.. more than we realize, just no one really talks about them. Most women go on to have healthy pregnancies and babies afterwards. My doctor even told me that the chances were way low to miscarry a second time. We got pregnant again right as soon as my doctor gave us the green light. I'm now 28, almost 29 weeks. Her time will come when she is ready to try again and I'm sure you'll be an auntie soon! Sending good vibes your way during this time of grieving!

sfmcelduff · January 2015

I'm so sorry

. The same thing happened to my sister. It was her first pregnancy and she didn't find out until 13 weeks. The good news is she ended up conceiving almost immediately afterwards.

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NagaWater · January 2015

So sorry for your sister.

keifekm · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your sister's loss. My best friend had this happen last year. They were devastated but soon after they got pregnant again. She had a healthy set of twins in November. Hugs to you and your sister.

houser1406 · January 2015

Thoughts and prayers to your sister and family. That's something no one should have to go through

angelfish628 · January 2015

I'm so sorry. I went through the same thing last March. I'm surprised though that her doctor didn't suspect this sooner. My doctor knew something was wrong at my first appointment at 7 weeks but I was leaving the country a few days later so I couldn't go back in for a follow-up until 10 weeks. That's when they told me it was a blighted ovum. What my doctor told me, and it helped a little at the time, was that this is your body's way of knowing that something was wrong with the embryo and it would not have been a heathy baby. My husband and I waited a few months and tried again in July. Everything happens for a reason I guess.

doxiemom415 · January 2015

Big big hugs.❤️❤️

ktplusbby · January 2015

I'm sorry that happened.. she will get her time and you will be an awesome aunt someday ♡

khan08 · January 2015

Thanks bumpies! It's been a rough night. Lots of phone calls and chats with family. Thanks for the clarification, support and prayers!

mindala31 · January 2015

So sorry for your sister. It's a good thing she has a sister that cares so much about her. I couldn't imagine going through something like this with out family or close friends.

Sargeantpepper · January 2015

I am so sorry to hear that. I also had a blighted ovum earlier this year. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

meredith6484 · January 2015

It's a missed miscarriage where your body doesn't recognize that the baby isn't developing and continues.

nomesy · January 2015

My sister had a blighted ovum, and had to go through the process of a termination to basically remove the placenta , she was 11 weeks at the time , although it's heart breaking , in my sisters case she went on to have two boys later on , they are now 7 and 4 , so creepy internet hugs , because I know I was devastated for my sister at the time , Hope yours is doing ok, it's a pretty scary thing.

letina09 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss

My sister was due 4 days after me and miscarried last fall. It's a bummer knowing your kids won't be the same ages. I hope the process for her body to recognize and expel the placenta won't take long so they can heal and try again when ready.

VeggieFan · January 2015

So sorry to hear that!

Big hugs and T&P for your sister and family.

sks306 · February 2015

Wow I had never heard of this before. I had a miscarriage a year before this pregnancy started. I cannot begin to imagine being pregnant without actually having a baby growing. Sending so many T & P to your sister and whole family.

shrkfan · February 2015

I am so sorry for your sisters loss. I had never heard of that so I can't even begin to imagine the confusion and thoughts running thru all your heads but I do understand the pain that comes with a loss. The confusion and heartache are like nothing else.. Having a strong support group is what gets you thru. Sending good thoughts your way ❤️

kimmart86 · February 2015

I had a blight ovum last year and was able to get pregnant again in about six months. It's heartbreaking and I hope she will try again.

fourthtimesacharm · February 2015

My first pregnancy was a blighted ovum. Didn't find out until 2nd trimester. Had no bleeding. Ultrasound showed a placenta, but no baby. I tried to let it pass naturally but after 2 weeks of waiting the placenta was still growing, so I had a d&c. Please be patient and understanding, and validate your sister's loss. This pregnancy was very real. The heartache she is going through is very real. There was an egg that was fertilized, it's just that something wasn't right and it never developed into an embryo. My T&P are with your sister during this time.

Puppies+Rainbows+Unicorns · February 2015

Heart breaking. Just something to keep in mind--when I miscarried I had a hard time interacting for awhile with a woman who was due at the same time. Be prepared to be supportive, but also be prepared for her to need some space.

Quiquo · February 2015

I am so sorry. The same happened to me. I was 12 weeks pregnant one year ago when I found out that there was not a baby. It was dramatic but, if it can help, the fact that a baby was not there helped my mind to process what happened.

AMShark · February 2015

My heart goes out to both you and your sister. I know that you are devastated. Please understand that she will need to grieve this loss. Be supportive, but also give her space and be sensitive to the fact that there may be some pain for her in sharing the joy of your pregnancy. You are both mothers - she just never got to meet or hold her baby.

((Hugs)) to you both. It is 100% ok for you to grieve as well, and to mourn the loss of your niece/nephew, but please be aware of your language when talking to your sister. Your post centers on you & your feelings - what you are losing & how this effects your baby. Be sure to focus on your sister & her OH and what they are going through, to really be there for her.

Just speaking as another woman who has gone through a loss.

drotha01 · February 2015

I had a blighted ovum before dd1. I got pregnant again the next cycle. Made it tricky to figure out my due date but no problems or complications in either of my other pregnancies. Hugs mama.

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