Sprinkle shower

Cassi215 · January 2015

Hey ladies, I am involved I trying to throw a friend a sprinkle shower in a few months and I need some advice. She has a 18mon old boy which she had a huge shower for and is now having a girl. She wants to be involved in the majority if the planning and wants it at her house so she doesn't have to dress up or go anywhere. Other people are involved and keep saying it's what she wants but I feel like this isn't normal. Aren't sprinkle showers usually held somewhere or atleast set up like a shower with tables and chairs? There's no where to sit unless we rearrange and bring tables in which she doesn't know if she wants to do that. She also wants me and someone else to clean her house which I said no because I feel like that's not my job. I have two babies to care for and my own house to clean. When you go to a sprinkle shower don't you expect it to be set up nice or be going somewhere? I find it odd that it's going to be at her house. Any Insight and advice?

smushi · January 2015

Ugh...

bootsiebabe · January 2015

It sounds like she's being pretty rude when you are trying to do something nice. I've never been to a sprinkle, but sounds like she needs an attitude adjustment.

deidremaria · January 2015

I'm not biting. Baby shower board can help

Care6582 · January 2015

I think that most people just bring a little gift for the new baby when it's born... Does a sprinkle replace that, or is it in addition to the gift at birth?

lcr23 · January 2015

Sounds like a shower disguised as a sprinkle. Sprinkles aren't a thing where I'm from but if she wants something relaxed that's at her house that's great but she shouldn't expect people to clean for her.

deidremaria · January 2015

Sprinkles aren't a thing here. A lot of people hve second baby showers which piss me off but not sprinkles. That's just an annoying term for a second baby shower. I typically just by the baby a gift when it's born and walk with it when visiting

Cassi215 · January 2015

Thanks ladies I just feel like she's missing the whole point and the whole thing just looks bad. I asked her if shed at least give me and her sister in law a few hours to set up without her there to really make it beautiful and add some little touches. I see no point in spending my time and money if there isn't some wow factor. If she won't even do that then is it wrong for me to just tell her that id rather not be part in throwing the shower and id rather spend my time and money in her gift. I'm honestly embarrassed to put my name on it

Talltrees82 · January 2015

I've never been to a "sprinkle" shower, but I think renting a place to have it is way too much. I always thought sprinkles were small intimate affairs. I think a "meet the baby" party would be much more appropriate.

I wouldn't feel bad about pulling out. If you can't do it, you can't do it.

ladygali · January 2015

I'm annoyed at the word 'sprinkle'. Just call a spade a spade.

Cassi215 · January 2015

I think they call it a sprinkle cause it's just immediate family and very close friends. Where I live you can do an all inclusive breakfast for less than $15 a person which in some cases ends up being cheaper than having it at a house.

ladygali · January 2015

Ah, I see. I say have it at the all inclusive breakfast place, then no one has to clean before or after the party. Win!

michaelad3 · January 2015

I've never been to a sprinkle, but I've been to showers for second and third babies. That said, I've never been to a shower that wasn't at someone's house or that brought in fancy tables and chairs. So I have nothing constructive to offer. I do feel like the mom is overstepping. If people want to throw her a party, great, but she doesn't get to be a diva about it

Smores730 · January 2015

I had sprinkles for my 2nd and 3rd kids. It was at my friend's house and at my SIL's house. Only family and my closest friends were invited and it was very low key. No theme, fancy decorations, tables etc. It was a potluck brunch and someone brought cupcakes from the box. Gifts were essential items like diapers, wipes, bath stuff, bibs, onesies, socks and yes it replaced gifts for when the baby got here. I find it somewhat odd she wants to have it at her house and there's no effing way anyone should be cleaning her house. Advice: find a new friend lol

Care6582 · January 2015

^ good advice

*sparky* · January 2015

I am not into showers for any baby after the first and refused offers I received when PG with this LO. That being said, some close friends ended up surprising me with a shower anyway. It was just our very close group of friends, was at someone's house and was low key. No one brought in tables and chairs, there were light snacks and some small cupcakes and pastries. It was very sweet and not overdone and I appreciated it very much.

Your friend needs to realize a shower (or sprinkle if you want to call it that) is a gift. And asking people to clean your house for you and have it at your house so you don't even have to go to the trouble of getting yourself to the shower is completely self absorbed and rude. So I would tell her what you are willing to do and what type of shower you want to throw and if she is not pleased with that, then gracefully bow out. And then I would consider giving her a tiara for her shower gift as she obviously thinks she is a princess.

Zachysmommy · January 2015

I don't know how much of a friend this person is. I have never heard of someone asking to have a friend clean their house -- no matter how preggo the person is! Crazy!!

Zachysmommy · January 2015

That being said, I know people have varying opinions, but I don't mind 2nd showers. Every baby is a new baby and deserves gifts and to be celebrated. However, I wouldn't expect a large shower and only people who want to be there should be there. It def shouldn't be a large shower, just family and very close friends.

yellowflower15 · January 2015

I am on the fence about showers for subsequent kids. I didn't have anything for my second and in a way that makes me a little sad. Not the gift part - I just kind of feel like my first was celebrated and my second was no big deal to people. I actually would have loved to just do a nice brunch at a restaurant with some close friends to celebrate the fact that I was having a baby.

I totally agree that she should be grateful for the shower. I wouldn't want the stress of making sure my own house was spotless for my own shower either... So I wouldn't suggest having it at my own house!

Rrrrrachel · January 2015

I have no problem with second showers but this chick is for sure taking all the fun out of it

LizChad09 · January 2015

I did a sprinkle for a friend and all of the food was round like sprinkles. I even made funfetti cake. None of her friends were at her shower for her first bc we didn't know her then, so we felt it was ok.

erinh2005 · January 2015

Jimmies are oblong

hlm184 · January 2015

Sprinkle is a horrible word. All I can think of is pee.

BADASBKRCK · January 2015

hlm184 said:

Sprinkle is a horrible word. All I can think of is pee.

Me too! Everytime I see the thread title!

yellowflower15 · January 2015

^^^^
I originally thought this thread was going to be about someone's weird fetish... And every time someone adds to the thread, it comes to mind again.

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