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NPR, pleeeease!

virginiaunicorn11virginiaunicorn11 member
edited January 2015 in June 2015 Moms

I am 22 weeks along tomorrow, and beyond grateful to be having a "normal", relatively easy first pregnancy (so far...knock on wood).  Super fun learning about everything, planning, etc.  Not scared about life changing, totally embracing the bump, etc.  But I am getting tired of this one-track mind.  I used to be cool, dammit! Read books constantly, went out, visited museums, etc.  And obviously I can still do all that, and occasionally do, but find myself just wanting to stay in bed to surf the internet for hourrssss, looking up everything pregnancy related.  Then suddenly it is 11 pm, and I am stiff and bored, and annoyed with myself.  Frankly, it is not actually fun for me any more.  And as long as I eat healthy and exercise, there really isn't a ton more that I need to be learning or doing right now (I know, I know, that is probably not true - my point is just that I have already done exhaustive research on every aspect of pregnancy, delivery, infancy, etc.).

Great "problem" to have, I know - and trust me, I am not taking anything for granted.  But with another ~18 weeks to go (plus motherhood, assuming I won't be thinking about anything but the bebe then, either), I don't think I will be able to stand myself like this much longer. I don't like myself right now.  Anyone else tired of thinking only about pregnancy?  How do you make yourself read or do something NPR, when you want to but never feel like it? 

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Re: NPR, pleeeease!

  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    Well, I'm in grad school, so if I were to drop everything to just focus on pregnancy stuff, I'd be in major trouble. But I definitely have been distracted from my work by pregnancy stuff, so I can relate to the temptation. Maybe deliberately schedule in NPR time into your day and force yourself to stick to it? Like, if you want to read, put your phone, computer, and everything else you'd use to look up pregnancy things in another room and just focus on your book. Hope that helps!
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  • AceybabyAceybaby member
    I totally understand where you're coming from! Today was my day off I spent all day on the couch watching movies, researching for LO, and eating. I feel like a walrus! I just wanna feel sexy and do something risky! I did plan a girls night for tomorrow though!
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  • virginiaunicorn11virginiaunicorn11 member

    Ha, thanks for letting me whine, ladies. And respect to the mamas balancing work and school.  I like @karaelaine1991 's idea of forced, scheduled reading, etc. time. 

    Meanwhile, DH sent me this article, which helps to explain why I feel like there are two people operating my brain - it's because there kind of are!  (This kid is definitely beating out Cool Girl, but that's alright.)  https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/01/what-happens-to-a-womans-brain-when-she-becomes-a-mother/384179/

    Happy Friday! 

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  • courtyowl427courtyowl427 member

    I totally get what you're saying. I am constantly thinking about baby related stuff. The nursery, my shower, L&D, baby names, registry, finding an outfit that fits. all consume my thoughts. I did have a life before all this. I try really hard not to talk about it non stop to others, becuase I would absolutely hate me if I was them. But I really feel like I have nothing else to contribute. Also, family, friends, and coworkers constantly ask how I'm doing/feeling etc. I know they just care about me, but I also have other intersets!

    I am in WNY, where the sun barely shines and it's been a long winter already. I have a feeling that all this pregnancy stuff is compounded by some seasonal effective shit. Honestly, I feel like it's been groundhogs day all of January! SAME THING EVERYDAY! Snow, freezing temps, and gray gray skies! Totaly winter blues. DH and I are planning a babymoon to Jamaica in March, so at least that is giving me something to look forward to!

     

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  • lovethatcolosunlovethatcolosun member
    I think it's awesome that you are soaking up as much info as you can to make you feel comfortable about the upcoming change. I did a lot of reading with my first. It helped with the anxiety of the unknown. Some advice though...schedule as many date nights as possible before the baby comes, have as many girl gatherings as you can, go to movies alone if you can't find a partner. Soak in the me time as much as possible. I'm sure you've heard and read this many times now, your life is going to be different...in a big way. Not in a bad way AT ALL. Just different. If you plan to be a SAHM, you will have a little one attached to you at all times. Even when they're napping or sleeping at night, you're still on duty to listen to the monitor. If you plan to breast feed, the demand for you and feeling on call is even more intense. If you're lucky and have some help so you can get out of the house on your own, you will still be thinking and worring about your LO. Your view of life might also change, mine certainly did. I was suddenly so aware of the fragility of life, how this little being is totally relying on me to be my best and not make stupid choices. My worry meter shot way way up. I was never a worrier. The shift is weird and crazy, so all I'm really trying to say cherish the last few months of you time as much as possible. You sound excited and ready to enter motherhood, good luck on your journey!
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    lovethatcolosun said:

    I think it's awesome that you are soaking up as much info as you can to make you feel comfortable about the upcoming change. I did a lot of reading with my first. It helped with the anxiety of the unknown. Some advice though...schedule as many date nights as possible before the baby comes, have as many girl gatherings as you can, go to movies alone if you can't find a partner. Soak in the me time as much as possible. I'm sure you've heard and read this many times now, your life is going to be different...in a big way. Not in a bad way AT ALL. Just different. If you plan to be a SAHM, you will have a little one attached to you at all times. Even when they're napping or sleeping at night, you're still on duty to listen to the monitor. If you plan to breast feed, the demand for you and feeling on call is even more intense. If you're lucky and have some help so you can get out of the house on your own, you will still be thinking and worring about your LO. Your view of life might also change, mine certainly did. I was suddenly so aware of the fragility of life, how this little being is totally relying on me to be my best and not make stupid choices. My worry meter shot way way up. I was never a worrier. The shift is weird and crazy, so all I'm really trying to say cherish the last few months of you time as much as possible. You sound excited and ready to enter motherhood, good luck on your journey!

    This is so true <3

    @amark11‌ Take her advice! @lovethatcolosun‌ Thanks for reminding me how important it is to cherish the "freedom" that I have with only my 4 years old son around :)
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  • virginiaunicorn11virginiaunicorn11 member
    lovethatcolosun said:
    I think it's awesome that you are soaking up as much info as you can to make you feel comfortable about the upcoming change. I did a lot of reading with my first. It helped with the anxiety of the unknown. Some advice though...schedule as many date nights as possible before the baby comes, have as many girl gatherings as you can, go to movies alone if you can't find a partner. Soak in the me time as much as possible. I'm sure you've heard and read this many times now, your life is going to be different...in a big way. Not in a bad way AT ALL. Just different. If you plan to be a SAHM, you will have a little one attached to you at all times. Even when they're napping or sleeping at night, you're still on duty to listen to the monitor. If you plan to breast feed, the demand for you and feeling on call is even more intense. If you're lucky and have some help so you can get out of the house on your own, you will still be thinking and worring about your LO. Your view of life might also change, mine certainly did. I was suddenly so aware of the fragility of life, how this little being is totally relying on me to be my best and not make stupid choices. My worry meter shot way way up. I was never a worrier. The shift is weird and crazy, so all I'm really trying to say cherish the last few months of you time as much as possible. You sound excited and ready to enter motherhood, good luck on your journey!

    I could kiss you. Thank you for these perfect words. And good call on the winter blues, @courtyowl427‌ ! I think I hate everything and everyone by February every year, then April rolls around and I'm like, "Oh hey, Sun! I'm NOT a bad person after all!"
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