@robsbabygirl08 I'm glad your H will be home tonight. I hope he gives you a nice break from baby.
She won't stop feeding! She just had two 40 minute feedings with in 15 minutes of each other and now she's back on the boob again! What the f*ck!? Is this normal??? At first I thought she was just using my boob as a pacifier but I can see her whole jaw and her lower ear moving and the lactation nurse told me that meant she's actually drinking. There is no way I have anything left in either boob! How can she still be hungry?!
DS2 has slept for 4 hours! He made a little peep just now but then went back to sleep, so I'm pumping to have a bottle ready for him. I'm starting to prefer pumping to BF because he is not an efficient eater and doesn't have a good latch, so BF takes longer and hurts more.
Tonight (Friday) there's a party at my SIL and BIL's house to celebrate the 1 year anniversary of the adoption of their three kids. I am excited about seeing everyone and of course it's an awesome occasion, but I'm nervous about all the people being around DS2. Hopefully no one will be sick!
Well, the swing didn't make his second nap any longer than usual. Boo. And I think I'm going to have to figure out something else for his reflux issues. He is burping like a champ but I can hear him constantly trying to swallow stuff down. Poor guy. @HappyMonkey817 glad to hear your poop went well. I guess I need to up my stool softener dosage. It still takes me 2-3 days to recover from a bowel movement.
@MrsDigger10 she's a day old...the nurse took her for an hour so I could sleep. Everyone keeps telling me that I'm lucky that she latches and is interested in BF, and I'm very happy that she is but at the same time I didn't think it would be like this. I'm terrified for her growth spurt..I'll have to remember to look up Kellymoms tips when it gets here.
@MrsDigger10 she's a day old...the nurse took her for an hour so I could sleep. Everyone keeps telling me that I'm lucky that she latches and is interested in BF, and I'm very happy that she is but at the same time I didn't think it would be like this. I'm terrified for her growth spurt..I'll have to remember to look up Kellymoms tips when it gets here.
I feel for you. My LO was this way exactly when she was first born - I think it helps your milk come in for them to feed constantly. I would not be afraid to send her to the nursery from time to time so you can get some sleep.
Also, if your baby is anything like mine, she might have days and nights mixed up. I have been working on that since we got home, and - if it's any consolation - it's a ton better now at 12 days old. Last night she slept from 9-12, tonight from 9-1, for example, followed by 2 hour sleeps til morning.
Anyway, while you're in the hospital, if she's sleeping during the day a lot, I'd ask for a "do not disturb" sign so you can sleep, too.
Finally, I posted about this and someone gave me two super helpful sleep links a week ago - Lucie's list and one called "sweet newborn sleep" I think. They helped a lot.
Good luck, it gets better!
Ps kelly moms is great, too.
Thank you for this! You have no idea how helpful it was to read that I'm not the only one whose baby does this.
I felt so guilty letting her go with the nurse but I feel a little better now that I slept some. I have this irrational fear that if I let her leave my sight she will some how get switched with another baby...I've had nightmares about it since I got a positive pregnancy test. The logical side of my brain is well aware of how irrational that fear is, but I still cried my eyes out watching her leave the room and inspected every inch of her when she came back to me. Seeing the penis shaped birth mark on her leg was a welcomed sight.
My H has tried really hard all day and night to take care of her and get me to sleep, but I hate hospitals and always get anxious when I'm in one. I managed pretty well in the L&D wing mostly because I was super distracted by the idea of having her and the room didn't have the usual "hospital" feel to it. A lot of the smells were similar but I could mask them with baby stuff.
The mommy and baby wing is the complete opposite. It has a traditional hospital feel and today I was more aware of where I was so my nerves got rattled.
We are supposed to be discharged tomorrow around lunch time (or at least that's the time the day nurse said to expect). My H is going to try and push for earlier because he knows I'll relax better at home. Thankfully we haven't had any major issues so I'm hoping his persistence works.
Omg...she's actually sleeping after a 20 minute feed! and now I'm crying lol. I don't think I've ever experienced so many emotions in one night.
I'm due today, so of course I have meetings booked, the roads are icy and I've committed to attending an event this evening. I'm going that tempting fate will encourage some progress. At least I'll be distracted!
I think I'm going to attempt a trip to the grocery store today for the first time alone with LO. I have been out with her a lot, but for some reason going to the store makes me nervous. I think I'm going to wear her...
Just a whine from me today... So hard to stay patient!!! Prodromal labor for 16 days, lost mucous plug last night, contractions that woke me up every half hour last night, and now they're dissipating. I'm 40 and 6 today. I'm so ready for my VBAC and my baby!
Bethechange you wishtoseeintheworld. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
@maebb so sorry about then matisis- hope it clears up quick!
@littlefoote i love Pinterest! Sounds like fun and yummy - hope you enjoy the time with the fam
Starting to get anxious as my mom is leaving on Sunday and then my hub and goes back to work next Friday....not that he's been particularly helpful but my moms help has been invaluable. Really hoping that when she leaves my husband steps up bc he has basically sucked most of the time she was here. My mom offered to watch kids tomorrow night so dh and I can go out to dinner before she leaves, I appreciate it sooo much bc I think him and I need a little time to connect alone but at the same time I wanna say he should stay home and watch kids and my mom and I should go out bc we are the ones who deserve the break. Oh well!
I'm starting to worry about my mom. She has a very high stress, intellectual career. But she's here visiting me and out it really seems like she might be forgetting too much. Like things we talked about yesterday or the day before. Or maybe it's nothing and it's normal to forget the little stuff. She's being a big help and I'm really glad she's here. I'm being super patient with her and reminding my kids to be respectful. They aren't used to having grandparents around this long.
I forgot the sheer exhaustion of feeding a new baby in the middle of the night. Baby is 5 days old and has actually been pretty good. I just forgot the lack of sleep. I don't think I am as bad off this time because I slept horribly the last month of pregnancy.
Considering a run to BRU today to try and exchange some clothes we got a a gift. They're newborn size, and Little Man only fit in that size for about a week. Don't have a receipt, though, so no idea if they'll let me.
Gave C a bottle this morning and pumped, instead of letting him BF. It was so nice to empty the boobs after sleeping for a few hours and feeling them get super full.
Thanks all for the get well soon wishes! I took a Motrin and started the antibiotics, so I'm already feeling a little better and hoping it will clear up soon. I was on the verge of tears earlier.
In other news, I found this in our bed this morning, and I was like, "Raisin? Coffee bean? Peanut? Craisin?" Then I realized that DS2 finally lost his umbilical cord stump at 26 days. Woohoo! It must have happened while I was feeding or burping him.
Ds is sleeping in the swing, earlier he slept in the cradle, not well, but progress. Looks like he might not be a carseat baby after all.
The nurse came to our house yesterday and weighed M. He's .5 oz above his birth weight and she said I don't need to wake him up to feed him anymore. I nearly kissed her!! She also told me I could have been doing this since 1 week old but I get so much different info from different people. Just the day before our family doc told me I needed to wake him until he was a month old. Guess which lady has kids and which one does not. I bet when the family doc has children she won't be waking a healthy baby until he/she is 1 month old.
Also - just reading up on the birth announcement page. Nearly all of us team greens turned blue. Funny how that worked out.
For those whose babies are sleeping 4 and 5 hour stretches at night are you formula feeding or Breast feeding? Just curious. My baby is a month old and he still needs to eat every 1.5 to 2 hours at nignt? I'd love a long stretch to get caught up!!
Ds is sleeping in the swing, earlier he slept in the cradle, not well, but progress. Looks like he might not be a carseat baby after all.
The nurse came to our house yesterday and weighed M. He's .5 oz above his birth weight and she said I don't need to wake him up to feed him anymore. I nearly kissed her!! She also told me I could have been doing this since 1 week old but I get so much different info from different people. Just the day before our family doc told me I needed to wake him until he was a month old. Guess which lady has kids and which one does not. I bet when the family doc has children she won't be waking a healthy baby until he/she is 1 month old.
Also - just reading up on the birth announcement page. Nearly all of us team greens turned blue. Funny how that worked out.
@funinthenorth so happy that your boy is gaining his weight back. And if anyone told me to wake a sleeping baby I would invite them over to do it themselves ;-) One of my girlfriends is a nurse educator for L&D and she said the new standard says to feed your newborn baby 8-12 times a day instead of every 2-4 hours. And that they are trying really hard to break the practice of waking to feed babies in the MOTN.
For those whose babies are sleeping 4 and 5 hour stretches at night are you formula feeding or Breast feeding? Just curious. My baby is a month old and he still needs to eat every 1.5 to 2 hours at nignt? I'd love a long stretch to get caught up!!
Were at 3.5 weeks old, and getting two 3ish or 4ish hours of sleep stretches at night. I pump at night (it's working for us, but not everyone likes to pump so early), so I stuff Little Man full at 11ish when he wakes up. Change diaper, feed, diaper again, and fed again until he passes out. So far, that's what's worked for us, but it's still early.
@Bryce1315 - ds is 10 days old and sleeping 3- 4 stretches at night. He is breastfeeding and I don't want to jinx ourselves but I feed him right before I go to bed for as long as he's willing so I know he full and then put him to bed. Feed one side, then change his diaper to wake him up again and then feed the other side until he's totally asleep again. Rock him to make sure he's really soundly asleep and put him back to "bed" for another stretch.
Our first 3-4 nights were really rough. I got about 2 hrs total each night. I simply knew I couldn't continue like that.
Have you tried different sleep locations? DS certainly has his preference and I'm not going to mess with that and loose out on precious hours of sleep. Nobody in this house would benefit from me working on 2 hrs of sleep.
@robbsbabygirl08 I hope they really do start promoting not to wake a sleeping baby. I was so frustrated at the hospital with nurses telling me that my milk would not come in unless I ate, drank and got plenty of rest. HOW are us Mom's suppose to get plenty of rest when waking a baby every 2 hours, with 1 of those hours for feeding and then trying to settle baby and ourselves back down to get sleep. It's impossible and it drove me banana's.
We made it to the store and home without too much of an issue, but now LO is so over tired she is restless.
Question, for those that wear your LO at the store, when do you put your LO in your carrier? I had to take her out of her car seat in the cold to get her in my wrap and I felt terrible!
@soon2bejp, I usually put him in the carrier at the car. If it was super cold, I would sit in the back seat and do it, although that would be harder now with two carseats back there.
Liam is a week old! ( how Oh how did a week fly by already!?
My MIL called me yesterday. We haven't spoke since last week (we talk weekly, sometimes multiple times a week. ) I guess my H has been telling her what's been going on here with my mom. She called and formally congratulated me on the birth of Liam. Asked how I was doing. Asked if my H was helping. Ect. I told her that my mom wasn't helping, and my H has been sleeping and not helping me at night. She said she's coming on Tuesday. I broke down in tears. Just that she cares so much for me. She told me I am to go to a chiropractor, or get a massage, and I'm to not do anything around the house, I'm to stay in my room to sleep and care for Liam only. She can only come a few days, but that's OK. I'm so appreciative of her. My mom told me yesterday that she was so excited to come here and support me on my final weeks of pregnancy, and to help out. That she's sorry that she had disappointed me, and she's sad she's missed out on family time. She mentioned only holding Liam 3 times since he's been born. I told her she can hold him as much as she wants, and she can spend time with the other boys, and us, but that she chooses not to. I told her I appreciated her coming out here. That I didn't 'need her' while I was pregnant, because I tend to do things on my own, but that I 'Needed' her after I had Liam, and I got none of her. She hasn't said anything more. I have tried to start small talk, but basically get a cold shoulder. It makes me so sad that we just don't have a close mother daughter relationship. I envy you ladies who have that, and will some day have that with your own daughters. It's something I do desperately want, and need in my life. Anyway, my H must have talked to his mom after me, because he got up with me last night, and made breakfast, and brought me breakfast and coffee in bed! He also said he's taking Owen out side to the garage so I can nap.
Jude has a mild case of RSV. Fantastic. The kid is hacking his face off. I feel terrible. They gave us a nebulizer, but the pharmacy has no treatments for it. Now I have to wait until 5 to go pick up his treatments.
Oh yeah, he has no insurance. My work insurance fucking sucks. I was only covered until I ran out of sick time(last week) so now we have no coverage. I applied for state medical for him and they're dragging ass to process my application.
In other news, I ordered 100 doughnut holes from Krispy Kreme for Sunday.
@Beckydewell I seriously just LOL'd at the mental image of your LO poking around in there trying to find the exit. Like poke, oops, no that's not it. Ha ha
@Bryce1315 LO is 10 days old and I am breast feeding her. During the day she goes 2-4 hours depending on how much activity we do (the more errands, etc, the shorter the naps). At night she will go 4-5.5 hrs... Usually with a fussy bit between 10-midnight.
Someone in March 15 bmb posted her announcement in our birth announcement thread? Weird, or just me? :-/
I kind of thought it was strange but wasn't sure about what was the norm. But I know Jan15 mom's that had their babies early still posted their announcements here. Oh well I guess.
Having a baby in January would technically make her a Jan15 mom. Maybe she'll jump back and forth. Cause they're probably her friends. But she can play here since her baby is gonna be hitting milestones with our babies.
Someone in March 15 bmb posted her announcement in our birth announcement thread? Weird, or just me? :-/
I kind of thought it was strange but wasn't sure about what was the norm. But I know Jan15 mom's that had their babies early still posted their announcements here. Oh well I guess.
Having a baby in January would technically make her a Jan15 mom. Maybe she'll jump back and forth. Cause they're probably her friends. But she can play here since her baby is gonna be hitting milestones with our babies.
Ahh, this is true. Didn't even think of the milestones. Good point.
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She won't stop feeding! She just had two 40 minute feedings with in 15 minutes of each other and now she's back on the boob again! What the f*ck!? Is this normal??? At first I thought she was just using my boob as a pacifier but I can see her whole jaw and her lower ear moving and the lactation nurse told me that meant she's actually drinking. There is no way I have anything left in either boob! How can she still be hungry?!
Tonight (Friday) there's a party at my SIL and BIL's house to celebrate the 1 year anniversary of the adoption of their three kids. I am excited about seeing everyone and of course it's an awesome occasion, but I'm nervous about all the people being around DS2. Hopefully no one will be sick!
I felt so guilty letting her go with the nurse but I feel a little better now that I slept some. I have this irrational fear that if I let her leave my sight she will some how get switched with another baby...I've had nightmares about it since I got a positive pregnancy test. The logical side of my brain is well aware of how irrational that fear is, but I still cried my eyes out watching her leave the room and inspected every inch of her when she came back to me. Seeing the penis shaped birth mark on her leg was a welcomed sight.
My H has tried really hard all day and night to take care of her and get me to sleep, but I hate hospitals and always get anxious when I'm in one. I managed pretty well in the L&D wing mostly because I was super distracted by the idea of having her and the room didn't have the usual "hospital" feel to it. A lot of the smells were similar but I could mask them with baby stuff.
The mommy and baby wing is the complete opposite. It has a traditional hospital feel and today I was more aware of where I was so my nerves got rattled.
We are supposed to be discharged tomorrow around lunch time (or at least that's the time the day nurse said to expect). My H is going to try and push for earlier because he knows I'll relax better at home. Thankfully we haven't had any major issues so I'm hoping his persistence works.
Omg...she's actually sleeping after a 20 minute feed! and now I'm crying lol. I don't think I've ever experienced so many emotions in one night.
I think I'm going to attempt a trip to the grocery store today for the first time alone with LO. I have been out with her a lot, but for some reason going to the store makes me nervous. I think I'm going to wear her...
Sorry for the Debbie Downer post - I called my LC and doctor and am waiting for the doc to call in my antibiotics prescription!
So hard to stay patient!!! Prodromal labor for 16 days, lost mucous plug last night, contractions that woke me up every half hour last night, and now they're dissipating. I'm 40 and 6 today. I'm so ready for my VBAC and my baby!
@littlefoote i love Pinterest! Sounds like fun and yummy - hope you enjoy the time with the fam
Starting to get anxious as my mom is leaving on Sunday and then my hub and goes back to work next Friday....not that he's been particularly helpful but my moms help has been invaluable. Really hoping that when she leaves my husband steps up bc he has basically sucked most of the time she was here. My mom offered to watch kids tomorrow night so dh and I can go out to dinner before she leaves, I appreciate it sooo much bc I think him and I need a little time to connect alone but at the same time I wanna say he should stay home and watch kids and my mom and I should go out bc we are the ones who deserve the break. Oh well!
ETA, her grandmother had Alzheimer's
BFP #2 7/13/2011 ~ EDD 3/16/2012 ~Aubree Olivia (9lbs 1oz, 21 inches) 3/15/2012 VBAC (39w6d)
BFP #3 5/15/2014 ~ EDD 1/16/2015~Addison Isabelle (9lbs, 0oz, 21 inches) 1/25/2015 2VBAC (41w2d)
BFP #4 7/20/2016 ~ EDD 3/25/2017 ~ Malachi Mathew (10lbs 0oz, 22 inches) 4/4/2017 emergency csection (41w3d)
Gave C a bottle this morning and pumped, instead of letting him BF. It was so nice to empty the boobs after sleeping for a few hours and feeling them get super full.
In other news, I found this in our bed this morning, and I was like, "Raisin? Coffee bean? Peanut? Craisin?" Then I realized that DS2 finally lost his umbilical cord stump at 26 days. Woohoo! It must have happened while I was feeding or burping him.
Question, for those that wear your LO at the store, when do you put your LO in your carrier? I had to take her out of her car seat in the cold to get her in my wrap and I felt terrible!
My MIL called me yesterday. We haven't spoke since last week (we talk weekly, sometimes multiple times a week. ) I guess my H has been telling her what's been going on here with my mom. She called and formally congratulated me on the birth of Liam. Asked how I was doing. Asked if my H was helping. Ect. I told her that my mom wasn't helping, and my H has been sleeping and not helping me at night. She said she's coming on Tuesday. I broke down in tears. Just that she cares so much for me. She told me I am to go to a chiropractor, or get a massage, and I'm to not do anything around the house, I'm to stay in my room to sleep and care for Liam only. She can only come a few days, but that's OK. I'm so appreciative of her.
My mom told me yesterday that she was so excited to come here and support me on my final weeks of pregnancy, and to help out. That she's sorry that she had disappointed me, and she's sad she's missed out on family time. She mentioned only holding Liam 3 times since he's been born. I told her she can hold him as much as she wants, and she can spend time with the other boys, and us, but that she chooses not to. I told her I appreciated her coming out here. That I didn't 'need her' while I was pregnant, because I tend to do things on my own, but that I 'Needed' her after I had Liam, and I got none of her.
She hasn't said anything more. I have tried to start small talk, but basically get a cold shoulder. It makes me so sad that we just don't have a close mother daughter relationship. I envy you ladies who have that, and will some day have that with your own daughters. It's something I do desperately want, and need in my life.
Anyway, my H must have talked to his mom after me, because he got up with me last night, and made breakfast, and brought me breakfast and coffee in bed!
He also said he's taking Owen out side to the garage so I can nap.
Say whaaaaat!? I'll take it!
Weird, or just me? :-/
Having a baby in January would technically make her a Jan15 mom. Maybe she'll jump back and forth. Cause they're probably her friends. But she can play here since her baby is gonna be hitting milestones with our babies.
In happier news I had a consult with a lactation coach an learnt some awesome stuff!