Warning (loss mentioned) Very bad news today..Shocked.

nyc2015 · January 2015

I had my first ultrasound.. 9 weeks 3 days. There was no heartbeat. Dr. sent me to hospital and they too confirmed no heartbeat.

I am really in denial. I have all the symptoms soon. I can't accept it was a missed miscarriage. Said measuring at 8 weeks and I should be 9.

Opted not to get d&c yet. Still some hope, maybe? I know not. Thanks you for listening.

NeonNoon · January 2015

Sorry about your loss. I hope you are able to heal as you process the grief. *hugs*

dukegirlsc · January 2015

I am so sorry dear, my thoughts and prayers are going out to you.

jerseygirl227 · January 2015

I am so sorry to hear this news. Thoughts and prayers.

Regan1976 · January 2015

Many internet hugs coming your way.

KateLouise · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage last year, around 8 - 9 weeks, so although I can't say I know just how you feel, I do know that it's very very hard.

Big hugs to you!

nyc2015 · January 2015

Thank you all so very much. All of your words mean a lot to me and help.

It might be sinking in more now. I think I will no longer wait until Monday and call tomorrow to schedule d and c. Though I am terrified of the procedure. Thanks again.

KateLouise · January 2015

nyc2015 said:

Thank you all so very much. All of your words mean a lot to me and help.
It might be sinking in more now. I think I will no longer wait until Monday and call tomorrow to schedule d and c. Though I am terrified of the procedure. Thanks again.

I understand being scared of the procedure, I was too. My situation was different in that my D&C was an emergency, but even then I was questioning them using general and explaining that I was scared of general anaesthetic, and the OB looked at me like I was insane.

In the end it was all ok.

Take care of yourself as you recover physically and emotionally.

If you feel up to it, please update us with how you get on. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers and I would like to hear how it all goes, but only if that suits you.

Hugs.

imsoexcited915 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and sending hugs

marijaa333 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss.

mum2lanabelliz · January 2015

So very sorry.

topaz7777 · January 2015

That is terrible news, I'm so sorry you have to go through that.

niknak1208 · January 2015

I am so very sorry for your loss. It's extremely hard. I hope that you heal well. Just be kind to yourself.

superlowamh · January 2015

I am so very sorry for your loss....

I know the pain you are going through, and the shock :-(.

And it's even worse because you had all the symptoms and suffered through awful morning sickness.

Please try to be gentle to yourself and allow yourself to grieve as much as you need to...

BabyBliss76 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for you loss. Big hugs to you!

jessandandy09 · January 2015

so very sorry for your loss. This happened to me in 2005. I couldn't stand it and stayed in Denial until I started bleeding. Please take very good care of yourself and know that there are many many many women thinking about you and praying for you and your angel.

nyc2015 · January 2015

Thank you all so very much. Your kindness truly helps me so much. I feel badly posting a loss here, but wanted those to know who I was in touch with. I hope you all know that missed miscarriages are extremely rare. I read 1%. I had never known about it before. I am wishing you all the best in your pregnancies. It was funny- we joked about the other boards and how snarky the girls could be. On this board, you all have been nothing but kind, compassionate and selfless. Thank you so much.

As someone asked, I'll post an update once things settle down. Then i guess I will move to the loss board. Waiting for dr. to call to see if they can do d and c this evening. If not, I have to wait until Monday. Ugh. Thank you again and take care~

mattandlora · January 2015

I'm so sorry! I've been through it before too. So many women have. We understand and hope you get some time to rest and recover.

supersarah77 · January 2015

My thoughts and deepest condolences go out to you and your family.

Bostonchelle · January 2015

I'm very sorry for your loss. You mentioned you were concerned about the D&C. I just wanted to share a bit of my experience in the hopes it may be helpful. I have had three miscarriages, two did not require a D&C, the third did require a D&C. I was terrified of the procedure however when it was done it was a much faster physical recovery than my other losses. The physical recovery being faster allowed me to heel emotionally quicker as well.

Best of luck.

amp61470 · January 2015

I am so very sorry. I feel your pain. I have to agree with Bostonchelle, I have had three miscarriages, one a missed miscarriage and had a D&C for the MMC. The two I did not were much more painful physically though I did get back on a normal cycle quicker. If I had a choice I would opt for the D&C not experiencing the physical pain made it easier to deal with the emotional pain which was not easy at all.

cneiding · January 2015

So so sorry. I had a D&C once when I started massively bleeding after a missed miscarriage. I was scared to death. I was still a bit in denial that I was miscarrying and so shocked and horrified I was. When my bleeding started weeks after I was diagnosed, It hit fast and hard. My cramping was intense and the bleeding insane. I had a bath towel stuffed in my pants on the ride to the hospital and it was soaked. Once they got my IV in which always takes a long time on me, I was wheeled back and I was no more in the operating room when it was lights out. The next thing I knew I was talking like crazy to a nurse...I mean crazy. Talking about all sorts of irrelevant things and it was so weird because I could not stop myself and had no idea what I would say next. It was like I had no control of myself. But the D&C was over. I guess some people have an anesthesia reaction like that. The worst part of the whole thing was that I had to report to labor and delivery to have the D&C done. I saw babies in the nursery, heard them crying etc. It was like a slap in the face.

I had a natural miscarriage years later. It was also a missed miscarriage. I was so scared I would hemorrhage again. The cramps were intense like the other time and just when the bleeding started getting really bad I started passing massive massive clots..but that was everything coming out and once that was done things got so much better. I can't say it was any less scary than a D&C. The bleeding really got pretty scary and the pain was intense. When the clots came out it just started falling out all over the bathroom floor etc. I had to clean everything up.

If I had to do it again I am not sure which way I would want to pick.

Guennie · January 2015

Oh no. I'm so sorry to see this. I was lurking to see how everyone was doing. I am so very sorry for your loss and know your pain well.

I had my third D and C a week and a half ago. By the third one I wasn't nervous anymore, I just wanted everything over with so I could grieve. My best advice is, if you have to take the pain meds make sure you watch your diet very closely so you can go to the bathroom. If you don't the constipation can be the absolute worst part of recovery.

I will be thinking of you and wishing you well. Let yourself take the time you need to grieve so you can figure out where your path leads next. Big hugs.

lisahe1 · February 2015

I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. Thinking of you.

pistachio&blush · February 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts & prayers for you and your family.

nyc2015 · February 2015

Thank you all so very much. Your kind words and your advice helps me so much. I am so sorry for your losses as well. I am still hoping to be scheduled for procedure tomorrow. I keep re-reading everything here to make me less afraid of what will happen at the hospital.

Thanks again all so very much~

nyc2015 · February 2015

Dr. called and told me to go to hospital at 3:00 for evening d and c appt. Am a nervous wreck. Looking back on comments to help me feel better. I just need this to be over. Will no longer request a 3rd ultrasound...I realize now there is no point. Thank you all again so much for everything.

NeonNoon · February 2015

I guess you're at the hospital already. Good luck! I hope you recover quickly thereafter, and get some closure soon. Let us know how it goes.

Guennie · February 2015

If you need support as you are recovering, please reach out. Your hormones can really bounce around and make the grieving process even harder. I'm still dealing with this myself. I hope your experience is over quickly so you can heal your body and your heart. Best wishes to you. So sorry again for your loss and heartache.