Sophia is so specific about which tasks only mommy is allowed to do, vs which tasks only daddy can do. It's becoming pretty annoying, esp at bedtime. ONLY mommy can brush her teeth, ONLY daddy can sing to her, ONLY mommy can read to her. If we try to do things together, like both sing her a song, she has a fit and cries. If DH walks into the room while I'm reading to her, she yells that she wants him to go away. Is this a phase that we just have to go through, or are there ways of encouraging her to let us do bedtime routine or other things throughout the day together? Or should we just put our foot down and deal with the crying for a day or two until her behavior changes? She does fine with one parent doing everything if the other isn't home- it seems to just be a control thing. She sees both of us plenty, so it isn't a case of I want to hog daddy because I see him less often.
Re: Anyone else dealing with Mom vs Dad 2yo drama?
If it is something that's really intrusive to our schedule, I'll say that I can do something, like read the book, or they can do without. Then I let them choose what they prefer.
It is a phase that will pass, so I think it's about picking your battles.
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Littlest Man Sept 2012
Works for a lot of things, but I realize it doesn't work for stuff like tooth brushing. Though, we would do a 'mommy can brush your teeth nicely or hold you down to do it, your choice'.
She did tell DH "I don't love you Daddy" the other day just because she didn't want him to help her eat the last few bites of her dinner. I think it hurt his feelings a bit even though it's so obviously not true- she adores her daddy. Man, sometimes I feel like she switches back and forth between being a sweet little baby and a sullen teenager.
Big Kid Jan 2010
Littlest Man Sept 2012
We deal with this too. It's the worst at bedtime. She wants me to do everything, but I'm trying to have my husband take on more so it's not all on me. I think you're right that it's them trying to assert themselves and control things. I do give her a choice with some things, like brushing her teeth since it's such a battle. Others, I just say "Dad's doing it." I usually have to get stern and count to 3, which seems to work okay for us.
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We're usually no-nonsense about things, but Sophia won't let it drop and bedtime would slide an hour or more in the wrong direction. The kid is strong-willed. I think for us it's going to be a matter of picking our battles. Now that I've had another couple bedtimes, I think she is favoring me a bit more, so maybe my trip to california influenced her more than I thought.