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Scared of being pregnant ?

aglaheyaglahey member
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so I was pregnant after of two months unprotected sex with my boyfriend of 4 years and ended up pregnant .The last menstrual I had was October 20 and my doctor told me mid December I was only 6 weeks .My bf mom miscarried her first child with his dad at 6 weeks and didn't miscarry till 9 months in Cuba since they don't offer a D and C for religious reasons .I was 6 weeks to when the baby had no heartbeat .My mom first pregnancy with was her first and it was healthy .My dads family never miscarry .I just had a D and C today after 5 weeks of my body not getting rid of the baby . I am now afraid of ever getting pregnant or having a baby with my bf .the D n C was a little hard .My bf is 24 with som much issues ,he had uti's although for its rare for guys and prostates and other issues like jaw issues .I have yet to have anything beside a cold once a year,or headaches.I think he had a problem and is afraid of ttc with him or bear his child.I am only 21 and everyone in my family have had so many healthy pregnancy and have aborted and still having perfectly healthy kids and no D and C .Am I wrong for thinking that way?
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  • lovelychaos03lovelychaos03 member
    I am sorry for your loss... but I really had a hard time reading your post. I really don't understand it at all?
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  • lovelychaos03lovelychaos03 member
    Did you miscarry, or are you afraid you will?
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  • MrsC0617MrsC0617 member
    Sorry for your losses... But...

    Wut.
    Married to DH (aka the love of my life) since June 17th, 2006


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  • AtlantasoleAtlantasole member
    We can't get pregnant as of yet
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  • almachs0786almachs0786 member
    lovelychaos03 said:


    Atlantasole said:

    We can't get pregnant as of yet

    I don't understand you whatsoever... You have been going from post to post saying how you're a "small woman", and saying you "can't get pregnant as of yet"... Why? Because of the timing, or because you are a small woman? Has someone told you this?? I'm incredibly confused with your conversations all over the board.


    MQF

    I haven't read her other posts, but I'm assuming since she just had a D&C that she's benched until AF comes again at least.
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  • almachs0786almachs0786 member
    Yea I just saw that @homfluff. I'm going to make random comments on all the threads now :/
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  • lovelychaos03lovelychaos03 member
    @almachs0786, thought I was missing something lol!
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  • freebutterfly7freebutterfly7 member
    I'm sorry for your loss and all that you've gone through with the D & C. I hope you can be patient with your self during the healing process. It can take a while.

    As far as getting pregnant again or wanting another baby with your boyfriend, maybe now is a good time to rethink your relationship with your boyfriend, your plans for the future, etc ... You said you're 21 - what about other areas of your life, besides becoming a mother right now? Do you have people outside your family to talk to?

    FreeButterfly70


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    starbuck27 said:
    freebutterfly7 said:
    I'm sorry for your loss and all that you've gone through with the D & C. I hope you can be patient with your self during the healing process. It can take a while.

    As far as getting pregnant again or wanting another baby with your boyfriend, maybe now is a good time to rethink your relationship with your boyfriend, your plans for the future, etc ... You said you're 21 - what about other areas of your life, besides becoming a mother right now? Do you have people outside your family to talk to?

    FreeButterfly70


    Why would she need to reconsider her bf?

    She didn't give any indication that she doubted their relationship or that she was unhappy...just that she has some concerns as to whether or not they would be able to have a child. It's strange to jump to giving advice that she reconsider their relationship.
    General recommendation, not necessarily because she doubts her relationship. Maybe think about marriage after 4 years or think about other areas beyond getting pregnant if that's an area of concern. 

    Not meaning to "jump to giving advice" - just trying to nicely give my opinion, which she's asking for. Others on this thread have been rudely commenting on her English/punctuation rather than taking her post seriously. 

    FreeButterfly70
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  • lovelychaos03lovelychaos03 member
    starbuck27 said:
    aglahey said:
    so I was pregnant after of two months unprotected sex with my boyfriend of 4 years and ended up pregnant .The last menstrual I had was October 20 and my doctor told me mid December I was only 6 weeks .My bf mom miscarried her first child with his dad at 6 weeks and didn't miscarry till 9 months in Cuba since they don't offer a D and C for religious reasons .I was 6 weeks to when the baby had no heartbeat .My mom first pregnancy with was her first and it was healthy .My dads family never miscarry .I just had a D and C today after 5 weeks of my body not getting rid of the baby . I am now afraid of ever getting pregnant or having a baby with my bf .the D n C was a little hard .My bf is 24 with som much issues ,he had uti's although for its rare for guys and prostates and other issues like jaw issues .I have yet to have anything beside a cold once a year,or headaches.I think he had a problem and is afraid of ttc with him or bear his child.I am only 21 and everyone in my family have had so many healthy pregnancy and have aborted and still having perfectly healthy kids and no D and C .Am I wrong for thinking that way?
    OP I was just looking at your post history.

    In December you were telling others that you did not enjoy being pregnant and that you did not plan to be pregnant and that, in fact, you had used Plan B to try to avoid pregnancy.

    Given that you just said you aren't ready, why are you on TTGP talking about getting pregnant again? This better not be MUD.
    URGH... why do people do this? So Plan B a few weeks ago, and now you are actively TTC?
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  • freebutterfly7freebutterfly7 member
    Moirin88 said:
    starbuck27 said:
    freebutterfly7 said:
    I'm sorry for your loss and all that you've gone through with the D & C. I hope you can be patient with your self during the healing process. It can take a while.

    As far as getting pregnant again or wanting another baby with your boyfriend, maybe now is a good time to rethink your relationship with your boyfriend, your plans for the future, etc ... You said you're 21 - what about other areas of your life, besides becoming a mother right now? Do you have people outside your family to talk to?

    FreeButterfly70


    Why would she need to reconsider her bf?

    She didn't give any indication that she doubted their relationship or that she was unhappy...just that she has some concerns as to whether or not they would be able to have a child. It's strange to jump to giving advice that she reconsider their relationship.
    General recommendation, not necessarily because she doubts her relationship. Maybe think about marriage after 4 years or think about other areas beyond getting pregnant if that's an area of concern. 

    Not meaning to "jump to giving advice" - just trying to nicely give my opinion, which she's asking for. Others on this thread have been rudely commenting on her English/punctuation rather than taking her post seriously. 

    FreeButterfly70
    It's hard to take someone seriously when you can't even understand what they are saying. If she doesn't care enough to make herself understood, then I don't care enough to take her seriously.
    Yeah, I get that it. But it's still making fun of her. She's explained her miscarriage which has to be hard - just seemed unnecessarily rude, especially when she's obviously confused.

    I also assumed that English isn't her first language since she mentioned her bf's mother in Cuba.

    FreeButterfly70
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  • walbs424walbs424 member
    NOTJANDA426 said:

    Can we not with the purple font? Also no need to sign your name at the end. We can clearly see who writes each post

    +1 to this.

    And also no one really made fun of the OP, everyone is just confused because it's hard to understand what she's saying. If you don't understand the question how can you respond?
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