Facebook posts? :s opinions please

emmamc1 · January 2015

Hi I'm new to this, and a younger first time mum to be, I often see people posting ultrasound pictures or status updates about their pregnancy which I'm sure lots of mums love being able to share with people, however I don't feel comfortable doing that and a lot of people think it's weird, I just feel that facebook is too public.

am I being weird?

GSUDavis · January 2015

Not at all. People have a tendancy to *super* over share on facebook. If you don't want to put something about you, your baby or pregnancy on FB, don't. It's your choice.

Personally, I'm not posting picks of my u/s or personal info, but I love updating my friends and family regarding our on-going new adventure. But things that are personal stay personal.

emmamc1 · January 2015

Thanks that helps a lot, everyone seems to think I'm weird, I love sharing all the news with my family and some close friends but I definitley think facebook is too public, I feel like I'm putting my life on a billboard when I post

GSUDavis · January 2015

In a sense, you are putting everything on a billboard when you post on FB or anywhere else on the internet. It never goes away. It lives forever. lol

I'm not sure how young you are, but I know that younger people using FB are often guilty of over sharing and not having limits on their usage of social media. And often follow whatever trends of posting/sharing their friends currently follow. I don't think I'm "that much" older than you would be, but as you get older and older, you may find that the information that you put out there is not as much as you put when you were younger.

gotdiesel2007 · January 2015

I may "over share" but my profile is locked down as much as it can be and I am only friends with people I actually know. Granted things happen and there are ways but being 4,000 miles away from family and friends Facebook is an easy way for me to keep them updated on our lives with texting every last one of them. My grandma even joined Facebook just to be able to see pictures of my kids bc she doesn't text

GSUDavis · January 2015

gotdiesel2007, I would say that is perfectly reasonable. A lot of my and DH's family is distant and likes to use FB for the same. And you've got it super locked down, so you're definitely not sharing all of your personal business with the entire world lol

Amycutzhair · January 2015

I am 15 weeks and I'm not "out" on facebook although all my friends and family know. I have a lot of work clients on my facebook page and I'm not ready to tell all of them that Im expecting. The worst is making sure other people dont post comments or details of my pregnancy. My husbands cousin is a few weeks behind me in her pregnancy and has been "out" on facebook since week 8 and has already tagged me in posts. Luckily my husband made the phone call saying that we are happy she is excited for us but to please keep it off social media. Its your pregnancy you make the rules, share only what you want with who you want!

emmamc1 · January 2015

Thank goodness other people feel the same way, such a relief! ☺️☺️

emmamc1 · January 2015

I'm quite young not 19 until after babys born, and I agree that facebook is great for family and friends who live far away or that you don't see often,my family all lve qute close together so I've just not posted anything

GSUDavis · January 2015

Amycutzhair we had the same issue once we told our family with our first pregnancy that sadly ended in a loss. We were only 8 weeks and all of our family had already taken to FB to share the news. We when lost the pregnancy, we were obviously devastated and had to create a FB post to share the news that was so intensely personal. This time, we waited until we were well into the second tri to tell family, friends, or FB. lol

rainbowBOOM · January 2015

I haven't shared anything on FB yet and I'll be 17 weeks tomorrow. I just feel like the people I see and talk to on a regular basis get to find out from me before long lost high school associates.

Who knows. I may go so long that my first pregnancy post is a picture of the baby.

.

Right now I have the first woman ever to be pregnant and give birth clogging up my newsfeed. (I'm talking professional pics in the delivery room, complete with the after birth in a metal bowl). This is probably coloring my opinion to not post.

Koalaknuckles · January 2015

Amycutzhair said:
I am 15 weeks and I'm not "out" on facebook although all my friends and family know. I have a lot of work clients on my facebook page and I'm not ready to tell all of them that Im expecting. The worst is making sure other people dont post comments or details of my pregnancy. My husbands cousin is a few weeks behind me in her pregnancy and has been "out" on facebook since week 8 and has already tagged me in posts. Luckily my husband made the phone call saying that we are happy she is excited for us but to please keep it off social media. Its your pregnancy you make the rules, share only what you want with who you want!

I've been having the same problem, trying to make sure the few people who know don't out me on FB.

My boyfriend posted about it on his page like 2 hours after we found out, but luckily he's only friends with a couple of people I know. I can't be mad at him, he was so excited lol

I'm a pretty active FB user and talk a lot about my life, but this one thing I want to keep private for awhile.

kladd7182 · January 2015

FB is not a place for u/s pics. I've never shared them on FB because they're private. Also, let's face facts here, most people can't tell what anything is when they are posted on FB. It's not cute and sentimental when it's published on FB.

juliekay25 · January 2015

This may be better suited for unpopular opinion board but. . . I hate Facebook and Twitter and all that social media where people just post whatever the hell they want. I had Facebook for a while and it got to the point where I would just get pissed every time I looked at it. So I deleted it. Maybe I just had dumb people on it and that's whybit was so annoying. I just think lots of people need to limit what they share also. This forum is the closest thing I'll get to social media.

ChristyM87 · January 2015

I haven't had an ultrasound yet but when I do I have no intention of sharing it on facebook I might email it privately to my parents who live far away so they can see, but not everyone needs to see that

mrsbeachcat · January 2015

I'm with @juliekay25‌ I technically still have a profile because I consider facebook a giant self updating Rolodex, but I don't feel the need to share details of my life that I wouldn't even share in person. My immediate friends and family are in the loop, but people I went to law school with eight years ago are not.

lovefaithxo · January 2015

I have Facebook, instagram, & twitter but I refuse to post my ultrasound. I did announce on Facebook that I'm pregnant - this is my 3rd pregnancy but will be my first baby so when I reached the 12 week milestone that I've never gotten to before, I decided to share the news. I'm really excited about this pregnancy but I've had trouble connecting with this little miracle. For some reason, posting our news on Facebook made it seem more real. I won't be announcing every little thing though. The next thing I'll post about this baby is probably a pic from the baby shower - I'll be finding out the sex of the baby then

emmamc1 · January 2015

I'm glad I'm not alone in not posting, it was playing on my mind I thought I was being weird about it

sschwege · January 2015

No, this is my third and I have never shared u/s pictures on FB. We always announce on FB when we are out of the first tri that we are expecting, but that's it. With my other two I had people request belly pics, so when I got those requests I would share a picture of my pregnant belly (always with my shirt down), but only when people asked.

Youngwithra · January 2015

Not weird at all ! I did a baby announcement last week I'm currently 16 weeks 3 days.... But I don't think I'll be posting u/s pics in the future

inLOVEalready715 · January 2015

People can post or not post whatever they want on their facebook, Twitter, Instagram or whatever. I personally announced on facebook at around 14 weeks, I'm only friends with actual friends, coworkers etc. I'm not a big facebook poster because I don't find it necessary to post daily insignificant stuff but I do post big life things and this is one of them. I have close friends who didn't even tell some close college friends that they were pregnant at all and announced their child when he was a month old. Do whatever you're comfortable with.

jamtoast · January 2015

With my first I shared everything. That was 5 years ago when all my friends were having babies and it was the "thing to do", with my second I didn't do quite as much, and this time, I haven't even announced it yet, and in 17weeks.
I love that the only people who know about this baby are the people I love most! I don't share nearly as much on Facebook as most people do and I don't think it's weird at all that you don't want to share your pregnancy there, I think it great

jamtoast · January 2015

And by "thing to do" I mean, sharing things on Facebook, not having babies! Lol

biaromoy · January 2015

Being a young ftm (19) as well a lot of people I still have on facebook are people I went to highschool with and they are all going out clubbing and drinking (legal age is 18 in Australia) plus they're all still stuck in that gossiping stage which is exactly why 4 months into my pregnancy only family and maybe 2 friends know of my pregnancy, it has been tempting to share the excitinf news but I don't want my life spoken about behind my back. I would unfriend them but I don't wanna deal with the backlash of them messaging me asking me why I unfriended them etc. so no, you're not weird, if you don't want the world to see it, don't post it.

legwarmer · January 2015

I haven't posted anything about being pregnant on FB for different reasons. It took me years to fall pregnant and during that time people posting incessantly about their pregnancies was like nails down a blackboard to me. The thought that I could unintentionally break someone's heart by posting keeps me from doing so. Plus I barely post anything on there anyway, it'd be weird to suddenly post something so private.

legwarmer · January 2015

I haven't posted anything about being pregnant on FB for different reasons. It took me years to fall pregnant and during that time people posting incessantly about their pregnancies was like nails down a blackboard to me. The thought that I could unintentionally break someone's heart by posting keeps me from doing so. Plus I barely post anything on there anyway, it'd be weird to suddenly post something so private.

legwarmer · January 2015

I haven't posted anything about being pregnant on FB for different reasons. It took me years to fall pregnant and during that time people posting incessantly about their pregnancies was like nails down a blackboard to me. The thought that I could unintentionally break someone's heart by posting keeps me from doing so. Plus I barely post anything on there anyway, it'd be weird to suddenly post something so private.

kristyn831 · January 2015

I don't plan on posting anything on FB. We told family the same thing. MIL keeps tagging me in videos of babies. That's going to stop or I'm blocking her.

lcronk7014 · January 2015

It's your life and you have a right to post things or not. Be private or public. Don't let others pressure you. You want to feel comfortable

mommautz · January 2015

I am definitely guilty of over sharing! This is my second pregnancy and just like the first I am not announcing until late in my pregnancy. I have friends who have said nothing and friends who have posted everything from how many cm dilated (lol) gender reveals etc. I don't think it's weird even if you never put much online...it's what you're comfortable with. I also understand sharing because it's all so exciting especially once they are here so I don't think it's wrong to post either. Either way enjoy your pregnancy

Ckorines · January 2015

I shared my pics on FB because it was something I wanted to celebrate with my family and friends. Anyone I have on FB, is someone I would stay in contact with. Additionally, my husband and I miscarried the year before and felt it only right to share the good news with the people who had supported us through our difficult loss. My family lives in South America and it's a great resource we use to keep in the loop with each other. To each, his own.

Hotcrossbuns714 · January 2015

emmamc1 said:
Hi I'm new to this, and a younger first time mum to be, I often see people posting ultrasound pictures or status updates about their pregnancy which I'm sure lots of mums love being able to share with people, however I don't feel comfortable doing that and a lot of people think it's weird, I just feel that facebook is too public. am I being weird?

Glad to hear someone feels the same way I do

I was just talking to my stepmom about it and she thought it was totally weird but I feel like so much is shared on FB. As a matter of fact there are people I may have been friends with in high school and I know they're pregnant and every little pregnancy nuance about them and I didn't even know them that well in real life!!

mrsreidarson · January 2015

Like many other women have already stated, it's really up to you! As much as I love Instagram (fb not so much), I hate this new trend of being completely transparent on social media and making sure we portray perfect lives. It's like everyone is competing with people they don't even know in person to one up each other. I think as long as the people you want to know, know then who the heck cares. My Facebook is close friends and family only so we posted a video from our gender reveal for those who couldn't be there and I've also posted a pic of my ultrasound but made sure to blur out all of my info. But seriously, if you want it to be private then rock it

emmamc1 · January 2015

Good stuff

this has been a relief

) thanks for the opinions

jendiff · January 2015

I have kept off facebook for right now. Don't get me wrong, I love to share every now and then on facebook, but with a brand new baby, I feel different. My family and friends know and extended people found out in our announcement in January. However, I am friends with coworkers and other people who I would prefer not know every detail of my pregnancy. I might make it "FB official" once we find out the sex, but I have not even decided how much I would want to put on FB when the baby comes. I just do not know how much of our private life I want public.

marliz84 · January 2015

I'm 16 weeks and I don't want it on Facebook at all. My mother in law put it on hers and I called her immediately to take it down. My husband and I are too private. All my family and friends know so I do t feel as if someone I knew 15 years ago should know.

JaneJane7 · January 2015

Pregnancy is not like this super secret thing. It makes no sense to me why people get all crazy about keeping it a secret so long - whether that's on Facebook or anywhere else.

And really, nobody cares. Especially the people we say we don't know that well on our Facebook...I mean really. They don't care. They'd read the post, maybe smile or whatever, move on, then NOT think about it again.

It's not sensitive information people can damage you with, or exploit you with.

Really. Nobody cares. People are pregnant everywhere all the time, and nobody cares but you and the obvious few. And that goes for "private" ultrasound pics as well. They don't care about those either. Post it for the people who will care, and why give a crap about who else will see it? They don't care.

kelckings · February 2015

I'm 17w and still neglecting Facebook. I like it being a private thing and Facebook is just too much for me as well. I love seeing others post pregnancy updates though! Some people I know posted at week 6 or 7. I was pretty shocked it was that early but if you're comfortable with it, go for it!

Want a personalized experience?

Facebook posts? :s opinions please

Re: Facebook posts? :s opinions please

Choose Another Board

Search Boards