TTC after miscarrying

jpm · January 2015

I miscarried last week, I was 5 weeks along in my pregnancy. I miscarried naturally, my bleeding was like a heavy period and 5 days ago my hcg was already at 3. I really want to try again right away without waiting for my next cycle but my OB told me to wait. Has anyone not waited and had a successful pregnancy?

JordyInIndy · January 2015

*siggy*

Everyone has left this board for proboards. If you look in the Oh!!!! And!!! Thread you'll see the link. Just an FYI, no one on TTCAL is pregnant so asking if anyone has had a successful pregnancy after loss is better asked on PgAL. And also, listen to your doctor. Kbai.

cherish1986 · January 2015

You should wait at least one cycle. I know that it's hard to wait but it's for the best.

I would describe your lining right now as a scab...think about how rough a scab is... Now think about a tiny little egg trying to attach to it. It would be hard and it's not the best environment for it to succeed.

I know it's hard to wait but you need time to let your body heal.

LilLizzy1487 · January 2015

cherish1986 said:

You should wait at least one cycle. I know that it's hard to wait but it's for the best. I would describe your lining right now as a scab...think about how rough a scab is... Now think about a tiny little egg trying to attach to it. It would be hard and it's not the best environment for it to succeed. I know it's hard to wait but you need time to let your body heal.

Great way to put it and good advice!! Good luck in your future TTC journey.

4N6s · January 2015

We tried right away with no luck. It's been almost 4 months at this point.

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CobaltBellisPerennis · January 2015

4N6s said:
We tried right away with no luck. It's been almost 4 months at this point.

Please do not follow this terrible advice. Your doctor is not being mean to you. They are trying to protect your health and the health of any potential baby.
And 4 months is not a long time. It can take a healthy couple up to a year to get pregnant. Impatience does not equal infertility.

greerbrittany · February 2015

My sister had a miscarriage and got pregnant a month after. Her pregnancy was ruff and baby struggled his first few months, but now he is very healthy. I no how it feels, after I lost my 2nd one I wanted to try right after. Follow your heart you will no when its right! Good luck!!

ladydc78 · February 2015

I also mc'd around 5-6 weeks. My friend who coincidentally did the same was able to get preg the following cycle and is 2nd tri now so she is doing well. I had one normal cycle then a weird 40 day one so I think my cycle still needed some recovering. I started temping and charting so I can be a little more precise and know what's going on. Good luck to you.

rkstar82 · February 2015

I MC'd my first pregnancy at 10.5 weeks. I had a D&C and waited a cycle to try again. We got pregnant with my DD 4 months later. I had my second MC at 6 weeks, no D&C, and without really trying (not charting) we got pregnant with my very healthy DS. I just had my 3rd MC (5 weeks so probably more of a chemical pregnancy), and my doc is fine with us trying right away. With my DS the only issue we had with getting pregnant right away was in figuring out our due date (no period), so I had to have a dating ultrasound.

That being said, I have no clue when I will ovulate, and though I'd love another rainbow, I'm not really in any huge rush to get pregnant. Though ask me in 4 weeks when I'm obsessively compulsively peeing on sticks and I may feel differently.

Fertility is supposedly increased after a loss, though that does not guarantee a healthy pregnancy. I wouldn't worry about trying right away after an early loss if you are emotionally up for it. Though anything after 6 weeks I'd wait a cycle. That's what my doc has said anyway. Good luck.

CobaltBellisPerennis · February 2015

rkstar82 said:

Fertility is supposedly increased after a loss, though that does not guarantee a healthy pregnancy. I wouldn't worry about trying right away after an early loss if you are emotionally up for it. Though anything after 6 weeks I'd wait a cycle. That's what my doc has said anyway. Good luck.

This is terrible advice.

greerbrittany said:

My sister had a miscarriage and got pregnant a month after. Her pregnancy was ruff and baby struggled his first few months, but now he is very healthy. I no how it feels, after I lost my 2nd one I wanted to try right after. Follow your heart you will no when its right! Good luck!!

This is worse advice.
OP, please listen to your doctor for medical advice.
And think about it this way. If you ignore your doctor's advice, and get pregnant, then lose that baby, how will you feel?

Frenchteachermama · February 2015

rkstar82 said:

I MC'd my first pregnancy at 10.5 weeks. I had a D&C and waited a cycle to try again. We got pregnant with my DD 4 months later. I had my second MC at 6 weeks, no D&C, and without really trying (not charting) we got pregnant with my very healthy DS. I just had my 3rd MC (5 weeks so probably more of a chemical pregnancy), and my doc is fine with us trying right away. With my DS the only issue we had with getting pregnant right away was in figuring out our due date (no period), so I had to have a dating ultrasound.

That being said, I have no clue when I will ovulate, and though I'd love another rainbow, I'm not really in any huge rush to get pregnant. Though ask me in 4 weeks when I'm obsessively compulsively peeing on sticks and I may feel differently.

Fertility is supposedly increased after a loss, though that does not guarantee a healthy pregnancy. I wouldn't worry about trying right away after an early loss if you are emotionally up for it. Though anything after 6 weeks I'd wait a cycle. That's what my doc has said anyway. Good luck.

If fertility actually increased after miscarriage I would have 3 more kids by now. OP please listen to your doctor.

katiebeth93 · February 2015

Your heart did not go to medical school. Listen to your doctor.

HeyMrsPotter · February 2015

katiebeth93 said:

Your heart did not go to medical school. Listen to your doctor.

This.

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rkstar82 · February 2015

https://www.babymed.com/fertility-after-miscarriage

https://miscarriage.about.com/od/tryingagainafterloss/f/fertility-after-miscarriage.htm

There have been studies done that say it is (my OB told me this) and studies that say it isn't. Have I read the studies? No. It really doesn't change anything, I am following my OB's advice and if I get pregnant again after this last MC, great, if not, we'll keep trying. But I'm definitely not worried that a pregnancy will go badly because I didn't wait another month. If I had waited till I was four days late to test I would have never known I was pregnant this time.

That being said, slightly increased fertility does not equal guaranteed pregnancy nor does it mean that if you do get pregnant that it will stick. I had no problems with my pregnancy after MC... But everyone is different and as people have mentioned, I'm an internet stranger and not a doctor. But, I think you realize that when asking a question on a public forum.

Obviously listen to your doctor (I did and still do). I was just letting you know what MY OB told ME after my early losses.

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rkstar82 · February 2015

And I completely understand that. She asked for personal experience and I that's what I gave her (successful pregnancy immediately following a loss). I also said to listen to her doctor. Mine was fine with me, but you're right...different people, different histories, different advice. And I know how easy it is to search for hope on the internets...I'll try to be more careful with my replies.

rkstar82 · February 2015

There is a lot going both ways... I am not a doctor, but am just repeating what my OB said to me. There are also studies that say fertility decreases after a loss. So, scientifically, I would agree with you....without any concrete, peer-reviewed journal articles, my statement about what my OB told me has all the weight of gossip. But again...this is an online TTC forum, not a place for medical advice. And just like I wouldn't tell someone I think they are definitely pregnant because their boobs hurt and the moon is full I am not going to play doctor and back up every single one of my beliefs with citations. ;-)

scoutmaxwell · February 2015

I think this is the ideal place to ask this kind of question. My DR said it was fine medically to try right away, but it would make it hard to tell when the baby was conceived and that could cause a lot of stress with measuring, etc. Doctors' policies change all the time, they aren't Gods. I think asking other women who have gone though the same thing about their experiences is a perfectly valid way of getting information and making choices about our bodies.

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courtney198078 · February 2015

Hi just wanted to say I miscarried to at 6 w last week my OB told me to wait until after I have 1 normal period she also told me not to even have sex for four weeks I had a d&c so the wait time may be different then having a natural miscarriage.

katiebeth93 · February 2015

scoutmaxwell said:

I think this is the ideal place to ask this kind of question. My DR said it was fine medically to try right away, but it would make it hard to tell when the baby was conceived and that could cause a lot of stress with measuring, etc. Doctors' policies change all the time, they aren't Gods. I think asking other women who have gone though the same thing about their experiences is a perfectly valid way of getting information and making choices about our bodies.

Why would an online forum filled with strangers who know very little about your general health, obstetric history, and loss be the "ideal" place to ask when it would be okay for you to TTC again? Doctors' policies do change, but their policies tend to change based on their patients' unique circumstances and the latest medical information they have. That's a far cry better than polling a bunch of randos on the internet, most of whom have zero medical expertise and even less knowledge about your individual circumstances, to find out when it's medically safe for you to TTC again.

If you disagree with your doctor on when it's right to TTC again, by all means, question them on their reasons, on their science. Seek a second opinion if you think your doctor is total crap. But if a medical professional says you need to wait at least one cycle, three cycles, six cycles or longer to TTC again for the good of your health and because it's your best shot at a healthy pregnancy going forward, you don't disregard that educated, expert opinion in favor of what a bunch of people you don't know from adam have to say about it because they will tell you what you want to hear. That's just absolute idiocy.

Charmndmom · February 2015

So sorry for your loss. Follow your doctor's advice. It is hard to wait, I understand, but try! The possible "increased" fertility lasts 3 to 6 months (I read the scientific article about it) - so you aren't missing a window by listening to your doctor. My thoughts are very similar to @cobaltbellisperennis

@ladydc78 Thank you for your post. I had a normal cycle and am now late with BFNs, so I was wondering what was going on.

jenaabug · March 2015

I would at least wait one cycle. The doctor's want your body to heal so you can have a healthy pregnancy next time. If you start off a pregnancy when your body has not yet recovered, you are at risk and so is your baby. Try to heal first. I understand wanting to be pregnant again right away after loss, I have felt that way too. But I have waited 4 months and now am trying again.

KillaKermie · March 2015

I lost my baby at 12 weeks and had D&C and my dr said to wait one cycle were holding out for now as mentally I'm still not ready x

Listen to your doc and then try when your ready x
When I found out I lost I had the possibility of it being a partial molar so I had the potential of 6-12months waiting before trying and I HATED that thought but now I'm giving myself 6months so we've committed to trying again come July to let my mental state be ready x

I wish you the best of luck x ❤️

tigerfish227 · March 2015

OK first off, the OP didn't ask for medical advice to replace what her Dr told her. She asked for personal experiences. So yes, this is a great place to ask.
And to the PP who suggested the PGAL page instead... This page could very well have lots of mothers who have been pregnant multiple times. Just because someone has a loss doesn't mean they never had a successful pregnancy. Many women experience loss after their first child not just on their first pregnancy. So it is not unreasonable to think that someone here might have had success and is back again because they are trying for another baby. Please don't be so quick to judge.

To the OP I totally get what you are feeling right now. I'm only 2 weeks out from a d&c procedure and my SO and I have already been discussing when to start TTC again. I want to start as soon as possible but at the same time I'm terrified of ending up right back where I'm at right now. I have such mixed feelings about what has happened and what to do next. I know it had been a while since this thread actually started but I would say that if you haven't started trying or even if you have you should definitely be talking to your Dr and make sure you are aware of the possible complications and difficulties that could come up. I'm still trying to figure out what I feel right now because waiting until I have had a few cycles seems like forever away when I've already waited so long just to start trying. Realistically I know that it didn't take that long for us to get pregnant with this one(my first pg) but to have this happen and push back even more the one thing that I have always wanted for my life has been devastating to me and I'm torn between wanting to heal to make sure that I have as little risk as possible and wanting to dive back in head first because I feel like it is so unfair that I have to wait so much longer while I watch many others around me getting the one thing I want and feel like I can't have.

sunnybaby2015 · March 2015

Hi Ladies and Jpm

I too suffered a Loss. In March 2015 I miscarried at 6 weeks pregnant. My doctor explained to me that the uterine lining had to be between 8mm and 11mm for a successful pregnancy, after a miscarriage your wall is still building which means it would be starting at 5mm they advise to wait for 1 cycle because it resets the uterine wall at the measurements conducive for implantation. However, if after your miscarriage you went for a scan after the bleed and you measure at 6mm that is positive because your wall grows by approx 1mm per day. Now dating is another issue which needs to be considered but the proper survival of the embryo is essential.

I went for my Ultrasound Saturday gone and my uterine wall measured at 7mm which means that in 10 days it should be at 15mm. However I too am waiting for 1 cycle even though I measure perfectly. Also it is best to ensure that the old blood is completely gone in order to minimize the risk for infection.

I hope this information was helpful

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