intro and minor meltdown (trigger warning)

deedeefernandez · January 2015

Hello everyone! I am new to this board and have been lurking for a bit.

My name is DeeDee. My husband and i have been ttc officially for 5 months.. but have been "going with the flow" for over a year. We each have a child, 5&6. I had my daughter very young and had a very stressful pregnancy. She was born premature after going into preterm labor twice and being on bedrest for 3 1/2 months. I had a mc a year and a half ago where they discovered. I have some pretty bad scarring on my cervix. My doctor has tried to reassure me that i still have a shot but it may just be more difficult... Im glad to finally be able to join a group of ladies that understand what im going through as im having a hard time getting support from friends and family that can't relate..

*Meltdown*
My close friend which knows we are ttc found out she was pregnant today. She has only been with her boyfriend for 3 months...has a daughter whos father isn't around.. her brilliant way of telling me was to text me a photo of her pee sticks the day af arrived for me.. i didnt expect myself to breakdown the way i did. I left work crying and im just so angry. I feel she should have called or done anything but rub it in my face.. im so angry... i called to check in with her after i had calmed a bit and was met with the "don't worry it'll happen when it's meant to" speech.. needless to say i exploded and said sone hurtful things. My question for you ladies is this..

How do you manage to keep from.being resentful? I can feel myself turning bitter and I'm not sure how to get myself back on track.

Thank you all. I am very happy to join this community. I apologize for any typos, my phone keyboard and I are not friends at the moment.

jerseymack23 · January 2015

Hi @deedeefernandez. I'm sorry that your friend did that- pretty insensitive. I personally don't manage to keep from being resentful anymore. I try, but it kills me inside.

You might want to check out the TTC boards for this. Typically if after 1 year of TTC you haven't conceived, then you fall into the IF category (which I hope DOES NOT happen to you).

Best of luck!

bookworm40 · January 2015

Welcome.. Resentment is always going to be in the back of your head.. But what your so called "close" friend did was uncalled for. I wouldn't even send a picture of my pee stick to my sister! It's just tacky. You will get through it.. Don't apologize for feeling the way you are feeling, everyone goes through it. As far as the "it will happen when the time is right" speech, I get it about once a week and 99% of the time I want to punch the person who is saying it to me..Still doesn't make it any easier..

deedeefernandez · January 2015

Thanks you guys. I'll try posting in ttc board. Im very glad I'm not the only one to find this tacky x3.. this helped alot. I don't feel like as much of a raving lunatic anymore

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