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Sil is pregnant to

savvychassavvychas member
edited December 2014 in Chit Chat
Ok ladies, maybe it's just me but I'm having extreme jealousy over my SIL being pregnant also!!!! Maybe it's because she is very new to the family, and I still feel a little resentment to her because of her wedding and how It was just like the one I had been planning w/ DH. But is it normal to be this far and still be upset?
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  • savvychassavvychas member
    Ok that's my fault didn't explain the reason behind it.It's more that everything is about her. If I have a ache she has had contractions, if I buy a baby outfit she bought 10. She is always trying to compete weather good or bad. I hate that she acts like that. I was happy and excited for them till she started this. I have to say it's more that this will be my last child and i have had some big time gender depression, all she can do is rub it in my face. Oh well I'm upset and I'll get over it
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  • hetispagettihetispagetti member
    savvychas said:
    Ok ladies, maybe it's just me but I'm having extreme jealousy over my SIL being pregnant also!!!! Maybe it's because she is very new to the family, and I still feel a little resentment to her because of her wedding and how It was just like the one I had been planning w/ DH. But is it normal to be this far and still be upset?
      My sister is pregnant also!! You cant control when other people get pregnant. I don't see the problem other than the fact your not centre of attention?!?! Just stop worrying your attention should be on your own baby stop caring what she is doing or not doing or you will have more problems when both the babies are born.
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  • MissRissx3MissRissx3 member
    You sound really inconsiderate. You want people to be happy for you, but you aren't willing to get over the fact that it's not ALL eyes on you? I'm sorry, but your sil doesn't need to wait a certain time limit . Just saying.
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  • fatcat11188fatcat11188 member
    I am sure she didn't have sex thinking about getting pregnant just to irritate you. 
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  • girlymama79girlymama79 member
    My SIL is pregnant also. But instead of having a problem with her, I think it's awesome. We have so much to talk about.
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  • estefyp4estefyp4 member
    I can't really relate but it sounds like your SIL is just excited to be preggers.. and maybe the competition is in your head since she is 'newer' to the family... next time you feel this way around her I would suggest you stop and think why you are feeling jealous and ultimately try changing the situation your hormones are putting you in.. you can also try and see this as an opportunity to exchange pregnancy moments that you wouldn't be able to share with non-pregnant friends.. GL! 

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  • alisonc87alisonc87 member
    In the long run, think about how great it will be for your kiddos to have cousins close in age! My cousin and I were pregnant together and the natural thing was to compare symptoms, maybe she is just trying to relate and is going a bit overboard.
    Regardless, you can't control when people get pregnant, and maybe this an opportunity for you to get over the fact that she is newer to the family than you, and take it as an opportunity to develop a relationship. You will never get this special time back, so enjoy your pregnancy and don't let drama get to you. :)
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  • sbride68sbride68 member
    My sil is pregnant as well. She found out after DH and I announced. It started back around Easter last year when DH and I were having trouble getting pregnant and were going through all of that. She announced she was expecting and I feel awful but I wasn't excited for her at all. She is not married and this would be her second baby from another man, but I still felt bad that I wasn't excited for her but at that point how could I be was what I thought. About a month later she miscarried. I genuinely felt awful for her because she was excited. Come august DH and I found out we were expecting our first after fertility treatment. We were over the moon ecstatic! We told our parents and siblings and sil was excited for us. Come Christmas we find out that she is expecting again. She hasn't announced to anyone yet still because she is afraid of mis carrying again but as much as I am happy for her I feel she tried until she could pregnant again just to top us. She is that type of person. We bought a nice vehicle and she raced out and traded hers off for one she couldn't afford because she had to have a newer vehicle than us. Everything someone else has she has to top it and have the best. When it was time to plan my shower I had a friend say that she wanted to plan it for me so I got a list together. I went to ask my mil if I got all the family on the list and my sil got mad because she wanted to throw one for me because she didn't get to throw me a bachelorette party which I never had one anyway due to scheduling and other conflicts. So I said if she would like to host one I would split my guest list because DH and my families love about an hour and a half apart so that actually worked so not everyone had to drive too far one way or another. So jump to now...I've been trying to get them to tell me what day they were wanting to host the shower over there so I could of course make sure I had nothing going on so I ask my mil and she said well your SIL is just being herself (which boils down to she is being selfish and doesn't want someone else to be the center of attention) and she also said their side of the family isn't real big on baby showers or showers of any kind so she didn't want to have one. So now I have a list of friends and DH's family who won't be invited to anything because no one is having a shower over there for me and my shower that my friend is doing is already planned so I don't want to ask her if I can add anyone to it. My mil did say that we could do something toward fall time after my sil has her baby as a meet the babies type party though and then maybe people would get me fall gifts instead of summer ones which I would get at the other shower. That sounds kinda crappy to me and like my first baby doesn't mean crap to her second baby. Why should my forst have to share the spotlight with her second that shouldn't even get a shower. And she would try and steal the show anyways. It all sounds horrible to me and maybe it is my hormones but I know what the op means.
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