Am I being weirdly selfish?

sweetdreamz6700 · January 2015

My b-day is next Wednesday. Since my bfp a lot of family keeps telling me how cool it would be to share a b-day with my daughter. The only child in me is screaming "Nooooo! this sucks! Its YOUR freaking day!". I may be the person who has celebrated her birthday "week" in the past. I know I'm weird. While I know she will come whenever she decides and this holds no bearing on reality whatsoever and I know I'll be happy to have her here either way. Just for funsies/curiosity sake.....How would you guys feel sharing a bday with your kiddo?

sweetdreamz6700 · January 2015

I'll be 33 and feel about 57 right now.

I'm not worried about it like, OMG freaking out. I think its the only child coming out in me and my bday was always something that was made a big deal by family growing up. Just who I am I guess. Also trying to pass the time today till my next appt. So boredom strikes.

junebugjam · January 2015

I wouldn't want to share a birthday if I could choose. Not so much for me because I feel like I hardly celebrate my birthday anymore, but I wouldn't really want my kid to have to share. I feel like it's nice to have your own day where everyone fusses over you.

But my birthday is in June so I don't need to worry about this.

Wimcgrath · January 2015

I'm with you. I know it's kind of immature, but I think it's nice for everyone to have their own day! This is also how I feel about having a baby near Valentine's Day...

crystalw88 · January 2015

sweetdreamz6700 said:
My b-day is next Wednesday. Since my bfp a lot of family keeps telling me how cool it would be to share a b-day with my daughter. The only child in me is screaming "Nooooo! this sucks! Its YOUR freaking day!". I may be the person who has celebrated her birthday "week" in the past. I know I'm weird. While I know she will come whenever she decides and this holds no bearing on reality whatsoever and I know I'll be happy to have her here either way. Just for funsies/curiosity sake.....How would you guys feel sharing a bday with your kiddo?

QFP

sweetdreamz6700 · January 2015

crystalw88 said:

sweetdreamz6700 said:
My b-day is next Wednesday. Since my bfp a lot of family keeps telling me how cool it would be to share a b-day with my daughter. The only child in me is screaming "Nooooo! this sucks! Its YOUR freaking day!". I may be the person who has celebrated her birthday "week" in the past. I know I'm weird. While I know she will come whenever she decides and this holds no bearing on reality whatsoever and I know I'll be happy to have her here either way. Just for funsies/curiosity sake.....How would you guys feel sharing a bday with your kiddo?
QFP

Woooooow. Really?! This just made my day. I needed a laugh!

Dannylion24 · January 2015

I'm January 6 so this was a brief possibility ... Given the choice I wouldn't care to share I guess. It doesn't bother me one bit now, but as a child I always felt overshadowed by Christmas and New Years as is so I wouldn't really want one of my kiddos to be saddled w a holidayish bday (& my bday on top to boot), too.

maltwin1 · January 2015

I'm a twin, so sharing a birthday is something I've always done. It was always pretty fun for us because people made a bigger deal since we were sharing. I know it's a little different with parent/child, but still...sharing wouldn't bother me.

jdzevans · January 2015

I really wouldn't care either way, but if she did come on my bday I would consider it to be the best present ever! I'm 34 so birthdays at this point are no big deal to me anymore.

ConstanceGoodspeed · January 2015

Twenty years from now your kid will have no excuse to forget your birthday, so that would be nice.

But, it would suck for the kid to have to share a special day, especially when they are young and still living at home.

sarabethmack · January 2015

Only child here too and everyone thought I was crazy for trying to plan the birthday range for baby before I got my BFP.

I cleared birthdays, but I forgot about the Super Bowl. I told my husband that he better pray for a boy because any girl of mine would most likely wind up at Disneyland each Super Bowl, and her birthday would always be priority. He's getting his boy - haha. I understand your thoughts completely!

krysmill · January 2015

Baby isn't due any where near my bday. But he is due 2 day's before my DH bday. My DH will be 30 this year but could care less if he's born on his bday. Baby will come when he's ready.

DBride2006 · January 2015

Not so much for my sake, but I like the idea of each of my kids having THEIR special day, at least while they're little and it is a big deal to them.

DS #1 was almost a Christmas baby, so I was hoping for ANY date except Dec 25.

Now, this baby is due 4 days after DS#2's birthday, so I'm really hoping they each get their own day.

I know eventually it won't really matter, but for those early years, it's fun to make their birthday all about them!

schnitz9 · January 2015

My bday is 2/9 and my little guy is due 2/16. Pretty good chance we could share a bday. Either way I wouldn't mind....

Mrs. Zee · January 2015

I share my birthday with two of my cousins and my dad and my brother share their birthday. There is a chance our LO could share a bday with DH. I think DH is more concerned about us having a healthy baby than on what day she comes.

mishka29 · January 2015

I also had a little laugh at the qfp from a reg on a reg. (fyi my definition of reg is I remember you)

There are so many days of the year, why share?! My family is not one for celebrations but DH's family is so I understand it's more important to those that grew up that way. Since joining the family I got used to my special celebration...well now my two neices birthdays are straddling my day by a few days on each side. So my day is gone now....

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ems0523 · January 2015

I'm 33 also and I love my birthday mont.. week as much as you do! I think kids shouldbhave their own special day and not have to share it with anyone else. Obviously its not within your control but for your sake I hope you both have your own special days

Ceefome · January 2015

I'm a Valentines Day baby, and my first was due 4 days afterwards. We were team green, but, in addition to not necessarily wanting to share the day, I didn't want my kid, especially if she was a she, to have the sucky birthdays that being a Valentines Day baby could lead to. Not to worry, she came 3 weeks early and wasn't even a February baby. Then her sister was due 6 days before her birthday, and I was worried about them sharing, but their days are 3 days apart.
As this baby is a boy, I don't think as Valentine's Day birth would be as sucky, but I'd rather not share. I like as many excuses to have cake as possible.

digwriter · January 2015

My birth was Tuesday and kiddo is due this coming Monday and i was serious about wanting her to wait. Thankfully she did.

michellemock · January 2015

I wouldn't want to share a birthday with my daughter. However my dad and sister shared a birthday (30 years to the day) and my sister loves it. And I was always jealous that I didn't share my birthday with my dad growing up. My daughter is due 2/22 but everyone, including myself, is hoping that she carries on the family legacy of being born on 2/19 like my dad and sister.

aybo · January 2015

My b day is Sunday it's very possible I may get induced...

do to high risk pregnancy. I will know tomorrow. Freaked out FTM.

sweetdreamz6700 · January 2015

I feel a lot less like a weirdo now

:P

We'll see what she decides to do since we don't get a say anyway, right? I think I'm even more particular b/c SS's are both a day a part (2/4 and 2/5) and up until recently (last year) they always did bdays together and never really got to do what they wanted. Usually the oldest gives in to the youngest. But last year I made an effort to make sure they each got a small party of their choice and they LOVED it.

And to make it interesting if this little miss doesn't choose to enter this world on her own there is a big chance her bday will be 2/3 as this is as long as they will let me go. Sigh. lol

mommaa1615 · January 2015

Im due 2/13 & everyone says how cute it would be if she came on Valentine's Day...I want her to have her own day!

jeanzcarol · January 2015

I'm turning 30 2 days before my due date. As an adult I don't give a crap about my birthday, and I look forward to making every birthday special for my kid no matter what day it falls on.

JessicaH1020 · January 2015

Our son is due on my birthday. But after a long struggle with infertility, I could care less about sharing a birthday, I just can't wait to hold my long awaited for baby. And if he arrives on my birthday, then that will just make the day ten times sweeter.

And sorry, but as someone who struggled with infertility, I read this post as very selfish. I'm sure that's not the intention, but that's the vibe you're giving off.

SquirrelsRWatching · January 2015

maltwin1 said:

I'm a twin, so sharing a birthday is something I've always done. It was always pretty fun for us because people made a bigger deal since we were sharing. I know it's a little different with parent/child, but still...sharing wouldn't bother me.

Twin here as well. My birthday is Feb 8, due Feb 15. It's very possible I could be sharing my birthday again. Not worried about it at all.

schnitz9 -- I'm in the same boat but 1 day off

Edited -- forgot to respond to another I wanted to chime in with.

momma2nubs · January 2015

I come from a large family -- 8 siblings! -- and your birthday is really and truly the only day that is all about you in such a large family. Because of that and because of the fact I LOVE birthdays (mine, my hubby's, siblings, parents, nieces & nephews, my son's.... You get the point) I really want this little girl to come on her own day. My birthday is in July so that's not an issue, but her uncle's birthday is the 28th and there is a possibility I will be induced that day. My brother thinks it would be awesome and give him automatic favorite uncle status... but I'm secretly hoping that doesn't happen so she has her own day. If it does I won't be too bummed though. She'll come when she's supposed to!

Edited to say that no I don't think you're being weirdly selfish. Weirdly selfish would be somehow lying on the birth certificate to change the birthdate or purposefully being induced... Just wishing/hoping it doesn't happen does not qualify as selfish in my book. It's not like your wishing she doesn't come at all!!

KRMcD · January 2015

JessicaH1020 said:

Our son is due on my birthday. But after a long struggle with infertility, I could care less about sharing a birthday, I just can't wait to hold my long awaited for baby. And if he arrives on my birthday, then that will just make the day ten times sweeter.
And sorry, but as someone who struggled with infertility, I read this post as very selfish. I'm sure that's not the intention, but that's the vibe you're giving off.

I also struggled with infertility. While my baby wasn't due anywhere near my birthday, I would have been hoping he'd be born a different day if he had been. Some people grow up with birthdays being very important and some don't. I am one of the former and my husband is one of the latter. I always want to celebrate my birthday, and he couldn't care less about his. So despite the fact that our birthdays are a week and a half apart, we generally only celebrate mine. There's nothing wrong with wanting a special day for yourself, and there's nothing wrong with not caring.

lynnz52 · January 2015

My birthday is Christmas. Maybe I thought it was unfair as a child, but I am an adult now. I'd share with my kid, along with baby Jesus, and everyone that gets presents that day.

frog11gy · January 2015

I have my third c-section scheduled on my 35th birthday (2/18) because that's the day the hospital had available. It really is just another day to me. Is it selfish to want your own day...I don't know, to each their own. I think it's kind of special that we will share that day. It's the ultimate birthday gift.

wirtlehm · January 2015

My birthday is Thursday and I don't care when she comes... If its Thursday I'd be thrilled, then we'd both get to share our birthday w that sexy son of a bitch, Christian Bale... In short, I think it's juvenile to be this concerned about whether or not your child shares a birthday w you...

Chcaggie1 · January 2015

A part of me thinks it would be kinda cool but in reality I'm sure it would be that for the next decade (or more!!) I'll be planning someone elses bday instead of celebrating mine. Not a super huge deal to me b/c I don't really do big parties for my bday anyway. Hubby and I are usually on vaca for my bday and I consider that the celebration. While we are on vaca he will typically do something special for me.

However, I have been quite adamant about not wanting my little sweetie pie to come on valentines day! That day is about love and romance and I want it celebrate it with hubby every year! So in that case, I guess I'm in the same boat as you!

beckyann7086 · January 2015

If you share a bday then go out and celebrate that weekend or next day. its ok to have a day about yourself. As a mom how many days do you get to yourself, none.

mylazypony · January 2015

Baby is due 2/22. My bday is 3/4 and bb's dad is 2/26. She could arrive on either of ours days. He really wants her to be born on his bday. I wouldn't mind if she waited waited til my bday. However she'll come when she comes! I do want a pisces

but again she'll come when she comes!

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