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My family hates the name we love!!

My husband and I love the name Amber Jade for our baby girl. The problem is, my mom is begging us to not use the name Jade and my sister has negative things to say about it as well. I'm not due until June, so I'm thinking of just telling everyone that we're keeping it a secret until she's born. Thoughts?

Re: My family hates the name we love!!

  • I wouldn't let anyone's thoughts or judgements effect our name choice. We love the name we have choose, and that's all that matters.
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  • If you're looking for opinions I'd listen to your family IMHO but if you love it then make it a conversation that is not up for topic.
  • My thoughts are; I wouldn't use that name, but it's your baby and you are the parents and you can do whatever you want. If they don't like it, too bad for them. You're going to have to learn that in life, no matter what you do someone is not going to like it and someone is going to always have a different opinion.... You either need to deal with it or reside to the fact that you're screwed no matter which avenue you take in life!
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  • If its what really love do it!!! My families hated our chosen names especially our 1st couple of children, when born they were soooo in love with the little peoples, that the names went in to the back ground and after a small amount of time they all loved it and wouldnt have it any different. I still remind my family of the things they used to say but they laugh now of how silly they were. Stand proud of what you choose it will be perfect for your little darling.
  • It's your baby and your choice! I made the mistake of telling my mom what we are naming our baby boy and she told my stepdad who replied "Eww, I don't like name that at all!" It made me feel terrible, and then pissed me off, like why should his opinion matter?

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  • Your baby, your decision. It doesn't have to open for discussion for anyone but you and your partner. We haven't told people our name choices because it guarantees that I won't hear their opinions. I wouldn't change my mind either way and this way I just don't have to deal with people trying to convince me to pick a new name.

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  • That's just why I don't share our name choices. People are always going to have an opinion and if it's what you want to use then their opinions shouldn't matter. Also how often do you use a middle name? Typically first and middle names aren't used together often (unless the kid is in trouble ;) ) so I doubt they'll even notice it once the baby is born.

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  • If you love it, use it! Everyone has their opinion, but you are the parents, so you should love the name you choose- you can never please everyone. We didn't tell people our names until my boys were born.
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  • That's our daughters middle name. We didn't tell anyone before she was born and still got a few comments. My grandfather said it was a biblical prostitute. Blah blah blah. I didn't care. Granted we now use family names for middle names so I feel a little bad that I was too stubborn for that the first time. But she loves her name and we bought her a beautiful jade stone necklace from our family trip to Alaska
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  • I say use it! Even if your parents have opinions on it now, when that darling, little baby is born they will be so infatuated that they won't care what the baby's name is.
  • Your baby your name.  Your sister doesn't have to use the name Jade.  Middle names don't get used often anyway so chances are your sister will forget about it after awhile. 

    Even if she doesn't, that's her issue and she needs to get over it. 

    I know my family will hate my girl name so we're keeping it a secret till the baby is born.  I figure it will be harder for them to say they hate the name as they are holding the baby.  haha

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  • The only one that matters is YOU since you are the momma! Your mom got to choose your name and your sister will choose her kids names one day (God wiling), so this is your moment to pick out what YOU want your daughter to be named and what YOU want to call her for her entire life! Shrug off the negative comments and stick with the name that warms your heart!!!!! Hope this helps!

  • I feel your pain. I broke down and told my sister the baby's name and she hated it. My husband loves the name but I was just ok with it. Now, I do not know what to do. I brought another name book and I am searching for other names. This is very frustrating.
  • Your baby, your choice. Pont blank. If you love that name and you think it fits, use it :)
  • I think it's a really pretty name, if you and your husband love it, then go for it! You guys know what's going to work for your little girl! I'm sure you guys will figure it out!! Blessings! 








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  • I have decided not to share my baby's name until the baby is here. Everyone has opinions and will share them. Once the name is given they can't sway your thoughts or make you second guess it.
  • Use it. If that's what your heart is set on, don't let someone snatch your thunder.
  • My middle name is Jade and I've always liked it and no one else had the name. My very southern grandmother never liked it though. Before I was born she told my parents "it's a lady of the nights name." lol She did get over it after I had arrived.
  • Families do this over names all the time. I know for a fact my family will have a difficult time with the name we have chosen for a girl, but it's not their decision to make. Honestly, they will be so happy with baby they won't care and the name you choose will be exactly right for baby, they won't be able to imagine her with any other name. I recommend waiting to announce the name until baby is born!
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  • You are carrying said child, if you and your husband love the name then that's all that matters. I could be wrong but I'm guessing the conception was between you two and nobody else was invited to that party.
    I like the name, I see nothing wrong with it and really you could've picked something way worse.
    I say name your girl what you want, your family will very over it :)
  • Use the name, don't let anyone fuss with it, unless it is you and DH. I feel family opinion matters, but you are the parents and that comes with certain entitlements like naming the baby!
  • Like what everyone is saying.. it's you and your DH decision but I would probably change the middle name if you love the name amber or either way. Good luck and don't take opinions too seriously.

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  • If there's a specific reason the family hates a particular name, such as not wanting to use a particular name because it was the name of an estranged relative, I can understand respecting their decision, but otherwise it's up to you and your husband.  If your family really just doesn't like the first and middle name combination, I would consider going with a different middle name if it bothers you that much.  
  • I think I saw that name on a billboard on the way to Vegas with an 800 number on it. No joke.
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    Lol that's hilarious! I've been googling the name and haven't come across anything like that yet. I can't wait to tell my husband!!
  • Girl, I would not let your family influence you on the name you want to give your baby. My son is 7 and when I was pregnant with him I made the mistake of telling my family and my mom HATED his name (it's Ryland) and wanted me to change it. I simply said, nope.. it's my kid, not yours and now 7 years later, she can't imagine him with a different name! 

    I am now almost 16 weeks pregnant and we have picked out both a girls name and boys name for the baby and we don't plan on telling either of our families until the baby is born. That way, they can't say anything about it because what's done is done :) 
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  • Families are a huge influence. We are keeping our name a secret until after the birth certificate is signed. We don't need anyone's opinions or comments.

  • Total stripper name. Yikes. I would not use it for that reason alone. Sorry.
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    Total stripper name. Yikes. I would not use it for that reason alone. Sorry.

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  • Before my sister selected her child's name - she called me first and said "If you were a 4th grader, could you make fun of this name?" because that's the honest reality of things.  Granted this is a middle name, so, few kids will have that opportunity - but - if it's not a name acceptable to society, wherever that may be, then your kiddo may have a hard time being accepted by that society.  

    That said - my brother in law literally worked with someone who named their daughter "Moon Unit" So.  There are definitely worse things than Amber Jade :) 
  • When I was pregnant with my first we had a list of several boy names we were picking from and everyone had their favorites. Then one day we came up with Cooper (wasn't on our list) and decided that's what we were naming him. My husband and I were the only ones on either side of our family that liked it and everyone tried to convince us to name him something different. We stuck with Cooper because we didn't care what everyone said and it totally fits him! So glad we didn't let anyone change our minds!
  • It's a beautiful name IMO, just tell them you could have named her something off the wall. If you want to keep it a secret then keep it a secret but once that precious baby gets here and the name is attached to a newborn they'll learn to love it :-)
  • I may be a little biased cause I have a Jade but I think it's a pretty name! If you & your husband love it, tough titty to anyone who doesn't or has mean things to say!
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