Stop warning me!

daisydotsgirl1 · January 2015

This article rang so true with me... I've had a very difficult pregnancy and been on bedrest for the last 11.5 weeks... There is nothing I look forward to more than having my boy here...

I'm not scared of sleepless nights or no alone time.... I'm just ready for the pleasure that comes with being a mommy! I wish the "fearful, dreadful warnings" from "well meaning women" would stop.

Are any of you fed up?

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HayleyBug55 · January 2015

Yes, I'm beyond tired of being told how horrible being a mom is to a newborn. I usually just roll my eyes and do a fake laugh. If I offend them maybe they'll learn pregnant women hate hearing this crap.

Wimcgrath · January 2015

Right there with you! I find it patronizing, even if people mean well. I know that it will be way harder than I think and that I will have sleepless nights, etc.

t8keepr03 · January 2015

Yep, this is my second so you would think I wouldn't hear these things again. I not only hear the things in the article but things like "wow just wait until you have 2." Or, "I can't believe you are having 2 only 18 months apart." I respond with, "Yes, I know what it's like to have a newborn, I actually enjoy those sleepless nights and all those newborn cuddles." That usually shuts them up. I am looking forward to having my 2 be so close in age. We wanted them close in age, yes it will be hard but once they are old enough to start playing together it will be so much fun. It will be so much fun now to watch DD be a big sister at such a young age.

Ace226 · January 2015

Yes!! I find all the "warnings" to be so rude. I've had so much trepidation, especially in the last few weeks, that I'd really appreciate more "you can do this!" and "it's worth it!" and less "just wait, it's going to suck!!"
The Debbie downers don't know what I'm going through preparing to parent, so being so negative is just crap.

My MIL is the worst. When she visited it was "you won't be able to be on your phone like that once he comes!!" "Just wait, you won't be able to nap like that when he comes!" And on and on. I nearly punched her out by the end of her visit.

mommaa1615 · January 2015

Awww I love this..so true

starrynight1658 · January 2015

Fair warning: all the "just wait"s from other people never stop. Your child will have wonderful, delightful, awe inspiring phases, and then there will be phases that make you want to pull your hair our and drink all the wine ever made.

But you know what? Through it all, you will love that little bug more than you ever thought possible--and it only grows every day. Smile and nod, and then do your own thing.

Mzblondie2008 · January 2015

I can't believe that people actually make negative comments about it? I personally have never heard anything more than "it will be rough at first but it is so worth it" and that never offended me because it's true. Being a new mom takes some getting use to and you will be exhausted at times.... Of course, but in the end it is the best exhausted feeling you have ever had! And of course the "soak it all up they grow up fast" comment.... And that is true also

daisydotsgirl1 · January 2015

@starrynight1658‌ all the wine ever made...yummmmm!

Now I want some :x

amt0312 · January 2015

Luckily with baby #2, nobody warns me about anything if they know I already one child. Other pregnant women will ask me how things went with my first and I tell them straight up that the newborn period really sucked for me and that I had a very hard time with it. But I also say that some people love it. Everyone is different.

I don't like sugarcoating the work of taking care of a baby, but I only offer my opinion if someone asks it of me.

Boehrig2 · January 2015

Oh that's a sweet article. Thanks for sharing! I realized I had been stressing and bracing myself for all the negative things and not really looking forward to the good stuff. Luckily I started remedying that a while back, even encouraging my husband to anticipate good things too. So true!!! People can be so negative. It's like their gift to you- the burden of how miserable life is! Maybe it can be, but any chapter can be miserable. Our responses to it can help! Here's to lots of snuggles and wine and reveling in early morning feeds when all is still and quiet.

Chcaggie1 · January 2015

Yea, I have received countless rude discouraging comments. I try to ignore them b/c I believe its all about perspective. My husband and I receieved the same type of comments when we got married about how hard it would be, blah blah blah. Well it really hasn't been that hard for us its been awesome. I believe raising our little sweetie will also be awesome!

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