Hi All,
Haven't been on since earlier in the pregnancy, but hoping you could answer some questions for me. I don't know if my OB was having an "off" day today, but she wasn't very responsive to my questions or concerns.
From your experience, were your internal exams (checking for cervical dilation/effacement) painful? I had one today and immediately jumped back when she got her hand there, and continued to pull back and wince, because it hurt really badly, like I had been bruised and she was pressing on it.... And I have had continual discomfort in my lower abdomen in the hours since.
Second, we had discussed that my first baby was born by now (at 37 weeks), and I had asked how much longer she thinks I could go (bad question, I know, but I'm super uncomfortable and tired). She said, "oh, you will likely go the whole way (I assume that means 40 weeks), and this one will be much harder than your first." So I asked why, and she just said, "it just will," as she walked out the door. Everything else I am reading says second pregnancies and labors are generally quicker and easier... So I was a little thrown off by her commentary... Have you had a doctor tell you this, or have you experienced a longer/harder pregnancy and delivery the second time around?
Thanks!
Darling Daughter: HG for 26 weeks, Healthy baby born at 37 weeks. 
Our Little Man:
Re: Cervical Exam just before 38 weeks
Exams are always uncomfortable like that for me too....
Also, every pregnancy is different. While second babies sometimes come more quickly, it's not necessarily always true.
I'm on baby #4 and subsequent deliveries have been easier/shorter, though my most recent one was the most painful by far. Hard to say why your dr would make a comment like that while walking out the door, but I wouldn't hesitate to call back and see if she can elaborate a little more.
Good luck!
She kept making commentary like, "oh, if you can't handle this, how are you going to handle labor?" It was really unusual for her to be this harsh.
I didn't experience the cervical checks the first time around until labor, because I delivered at 37 weeks... So this is all new to me. It was five hours ago, and I'm still uncomfortable.
I'm wondering if it is even worth it to have her check at each weekly appointment.
As for 2nd deliveries - my first was born at 37 weeks, her sister was born at 40w3d. Yeah, that messed with my head. But my subsequent labors all have been faster and easier, but again, there's never a guarantee.
The nurse educator at my OB's office said on average second deliveries were half the length of first (which I am counting on after a 27 hour one the first time).
I figure, if I need to know how close labor is, I'll wait for contractions, and then I will know, "whoop, I guess I'm having the baby today!" lol
As far as labor is concerned, I'm not too worried. Baby is head down, and hopefully stuck that way for the remainder, and I had horrible back labor the first time (2010), and survived quite a few hours of pain (before help from an unexpected/unplanned epidural)... So I am leaving my pain management options open to see how Labor Day plays out.
Hopefully it's easy-peasy for all of us!
FX for easy labors & deliveries, healthy babies, and swift recoveries, all around!
sorry she was kinda rude today. I say give her some grace since you said she isn't usually like this and bring up your questions again at the next appt. I mean if you remain in pain throughout the day it may be worth calling back but otherwise ask about the delivery at the next appt. Everyone has bad days, perhaps today was hers.
On another note... GEEZ ya'll have scared me!! Crap, I wasn't expecting the cervical exams to be painful. :-( Uncomfortable yes but not downright painful. I actually think I had one early on if I'm remembering correctly. At the time I would describe it as very uncomfortable but not painful. Hopefully that will be my experience moving forward.
Hope you start feeling better!