why ya gotta be so rude (Rant)..child mentioned at end

Astoria1587 · January 2015

So we went to a new RE since we just moved cities last week and he basically was the most negative person i've ever talked to. While not unexpected, we've been told by 3 other doctors that we should consider donor eggs...I just dont understand why they have to be so rude about it. He sent me a follow up email that said -- no need to run your clomid test - my answer for you isnt changing...you need to consider DE. Honestly, after given it some serious thought -- we likely will try DE given our age and my FSH (22)...OH and that was another fantastic part of his email -- "your FSH is too high...21 is the cut off for an REASONABLE chance of pregnancy"....REALLY???? I get it -- it's expensive...outline the risks and chances, but dont shove it in my face. makes me wonder how much money they make off of DE since he's pushing so hard -- or maybe it's just that it would help his success rates...anyone else have this happen to them???

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And one last thing....i was told the same thing 2 years ago, but didnt listen and now have a DS to thank for it. When i mentioned this to the doctor he said "i think you got lucky - wont happen again"....

Sorry -- just really had to get it off my chest....i'm considering switching REs of course, but that just means another delay......

superlowamh · January 2015

*** Ticker warning ***

Hi,

I hope it's okay I respond to your post.

I hate your a-hole doctor. He makes me so angry!

My fsh was 27 or 28, and my AMH less than 0.03. And yet my RE didn't complain when I told her I can only do TI! And it worked. I was worried she would lose patience with me after my failed attempts, but she didn't. She said my chances were very low, but they were still - chances...

I do hope you find a decent doctor soon.

CML11 · January 2015

Oh goodness! Hope you leave a nasty review about him somewhere!
Hope you find an RE with decent manners that knows how to work with you. Just remember it's possible!

vh2014 · January 2015

Please tell me he didn't capitalize reasonable. I am assuming 22 was a cd3....that is high but you are right, the last thing you need is rudeness on to of that. Don't be afraid to switch until you find someone that will work with you and make a plan with you. We may end up going the DE route ourselves but the RE isn't going to give up on us and tile me it was up to me, we'd try whatever I wanted as long as I understood what our chances are. ..and sometimes it works. .my favorite phrase he used "stranger things have happened when you've been doing it for a while" I think the relationship with your doctor is important and email is a lousy way of him communicating. ...it's easy to misinterpret tone. If you don't like him, keep looking.

hooligans4 · January 2015

First off that Dr. Is an ass hole!!!
Find a Dr. you like and you probably get the same diagnosis but you will be comfortable making decisions.

Nikolie93 · January 2015

This is just horrible. I'm sorry you had to deal with that! I hope you can find a better Dr *hug*

lcwed · January 2015

Sorry you have such an ass hat for an RE. I hope you can find an RE that will work with you guys in a more compassionate manner.

emsmama15 · January 2015

I'm sorry your RE is an ass! Find a new one with a better bedside manner! Yuck!

dolphin012 · January 2015

Sounds like a jerk. Sorry you had to put up with that - these appointments are stressful enough as is. Hope you can a better RE to work with whatever route you decide to take!