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AW Rant (Please don't judge me too harshly) ***children/pregnancy mentioned***

drhoochdrhooch member
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My cousin in law gave birth to her baby today (planned C-section). I know this makes me a horrible person, but she is not a nice person (I mean not nice to the point that I worry about the life her new daughter will have) and it kills me that she got pregnant so easily and I can't. 

Also, she sent out pregnancy announcements (at 2.5 months, no less). Is this a thing now? I don't like it. It made me cry.
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Re: AW Rant (Please don't judge me too harshly) ***children/pregnancy mentioned***

  • bookworm40bookworm40 member
    My cousin sent out a pregnancy announcement at 3 months and I was like WTF? I've never heard of this! lol.. My mother called to ask if this means she has to send a gift! I was like UMM NO.. I actually thought the photo pregnancy announcement was a little tacky.. I can see if it was a Christmas card but it wasn't..and yes, it made me cry too..      
    Me: 40  
    TTC #1: 3 years
    Me: Type II Diabetic
    Started with RE 11/2014
    Going through IUI with Donor Sperm


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  • LoveActually55LoveActually55 member
    Sorry! That's a thing now dear sweet baby Jesus.   I did see a pee stick pic on Fb that said Pregnant 1-2 weeks and I was almost homicidal.  You are not alone!


    Me: 34 Mild Thin PCOS DH: 36

    5 Clomid & TI= BFFN

    IUI-IVF coming Soon...

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  • bookworm40bookworm40 member
    @LoveActually55 that is INSANE! I would have lost it and probably left a pretty nasty comment lol
    Me: 40  
    TTC #1: 3 years
    Me: Type II Diabetic
    Started with RE 11/2014
    Going through IUI with Donor Sperm


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  • Ann612Ann612 member
    It doesn't make you a horrible person, just human.  I'm sure every one of us here have had a similar thought.  
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  • blsav23blsav23 member
    Awww...you poor thing. As if it isn't hard enough that everyone posts all that crap on social media. How self absorbed is it to send out pregnancy announcements? No one is nearly as excited nor cares enough to want an official announcement mailed to their home. Blah.
    DH & I married 12/17/2012
    Me (31)-dx w/PCOS 2007, when married to ex-husband after MC
    DH (41)-no MFI
    07/2014-Femara 5mg + trigger + IUI= chem preg ;(
    08/2014-Femara 5mg + trigger + IUI + 2nd trigger= BFN
    09/2014-Clomid 100mg + trigger + IUI + 2nd trigger= BFN
    10/2014-benched due to RE out of town, tying naturally!
    11/2014-benched due to cyst
    12/2014-Femara 5mg + stair step with additional 5 days Femara 5mg + trigger + IUI=BFN
    01/2015-Femara 5mg + Gonal F 25 units + trigger (plus additional Gonal F 100 units on trigger night) + IUI= BFP!!! Twins due 10/2015
    09/28/2015- Surprise!  Conrad and Hudson born at 35w6d!  
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  • drhoochdrhooch member
    1-2 weeks? Yikes. Did you comment?
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  • LoveActually55LoveActually55 member
    No, I deleted her lol


    Me: 34 Mild Thin PCOS DH: 36

    5 Clomid & TI= BFFN

    IUI-IVF coming Soon...

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  • LindseyM2012LindseyM2012 member
    @drhooch‌ - absolutely zero judgement!!! It may be safe to say that everyone here has had a thought like this before. We actually have an entire weekly thread based on exactly this: OPP (other people's pregnancies) Tuesday.

    I'm sorry this one hit you hard.

    Me: 28  MH:35

    Married September 2012. TTC since September 2013

    June 2014 - Dx w/ significant PCOS and referred to RE.

    July/August 2014 - Testing complete: Testosterone & AMH very high, FSH slightly high, Vitamin D low, tubes and lining all lovely. DH SA: A+

    Cycle 1 (Nov 2014): 2.5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI = BFN

    Cycle 2 (Dec 2014): 5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN

    Cycle 3 (Jan 2015): 5mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN

    WTF consult scheduled for 1/29

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  • LindseyM2012LindseyM2012 member
    lavishpeach said:
    You are not a horrible person. IF is absolutely unfair. Everyone here has had those same feelings, guaranteed!

    As @LindseyM2012 said, we do have a weekly thread based on these feelings. 

    Lindsey - are you in my brain today? You keep posting exactly what I want to say, only in a much more articulate manner.

    We must be 3T orientation/education buddies  :)

    Me: 28  MH:35

    Married September 2012. TTC since September 2013

    June 2014 - Dx w/ significant PCOS and referred to RE.

    July/August 2014 - Testing complete: Testosterone & AMH very high, FSH slightly high, Vitamin D low, tubes and lining all lovely. DH SA: A+

    Cycle 1 (Nov 2014): 2.5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI = BFN

    Cycle 2 (Dec 2014): 5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN

    Cycle 3 (Jan 2015): 5mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN

    WTF consult scheduled for 1/29

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  • drhoochdrhooch member
    @LoveActually55 - Awesome!

    @LindseyM2012 and @lavishpeach - Thanks. I look forward to tomorrow!
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  • tiffmich08tiffmich08 member

    As everyone has said....you're not alone! There was a pregnant lady on the elliptical next to me at the gym today. I was like..."REALLY?? REALLY?!?" But, then I thought about it and realized, I don't know her story, she could've gone through the same thing. It doesn't make it any easier though. Social media most definitely doesn't help either!!

     

    Good luck on your journey!

    Me: 34 (all tests normal) DH: 35 (all tests normal)
    Married 2013 
    TTC since October 2013 
    First RE visit after TTC naturally-Oct 2014
    HSG test Oct 2014-no blockage
    Non medicated IUI #1-Nov 2014-BFN
    Letrozole 5MG and Trigger Shot IUI #2-Dec 2014-BFN
    No Change in Meds-IUI #3-Jan 2014-Currently in TWW
     
     
     
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  • MustangChicMustangChic member
    @tiffmich08‌ is so right! We don't always know what other women are going through or have gone through. I've got to try to remember that myself!

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