PgAl view of team green

Re: PgAl view of team green

• mara005 member

  January 2015

  I was team green with my DS, he was pre losses, so I was comptetely excited to be TG. The other day DH and I were talk about being team green again or not. I was explaining to him that I loved being team green with DS but I find myself not being able to bond with this pregnancy like I did with my DS and so I'm leaning towards us finding out but not telling others. 

  
  

  Not sure if I helped but this has also been on my mind. 

  
  

  "Love is what makes pain bearable." - I love you my Angels. 

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  BFP #1: 6/25/09 EDD 2/13/10 @ 6 weeks- Saw HB @ 9 weeks - DS born 2/11/10 (39w5d)
  BFP #2: 2/20/13 EDD 11/4/13 - Saw HB 3/19/13 (7w2d) - MMC discovered 4/13/13 (10w5d) - Est. loss @ 9w3d - D&C 4/14/13
  

  BFP #3: 12/19/13 (4 w1d) EDD 8/27/14 - 1/1/14 discovered it was ectopic/ tube had burst/ had surgery to remove tube (@ 6 weeks)
  BFP #4: 9/10/14 (3w6d) EDD 5/21/15 - natural MC 9/23/14 @ 5w5d
  BFP #5: 11/23/14 (3w3d) EDD 8/4/15 - Please be our Rainbow! 

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• footprint member

  January 2015

  Like @mara005 I was TG with my son pre-loss. We stayed Team Green this pregnancy. I really like being Team Green but it was harder due to loss this time around.

  
  Married August 2003

  
  

  BFP: January 8, 2012

  Due: September 5, 2012

  DS: August 14, 2012

  
  

  BFP: November 5, 2013

  Due: July 11, 2014

  MMC Detected d&c: December 29, 2013 12w5d

  
  

  BFP: June 10, 2014

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• pblge member

  January 2015

  I was going to be team green until it took 2.5 years and lots of medical intervention to stay pregnant long enough to find out. By the time it came up for us, I was beyond ready for a sticky baby and just impatient to know as much as it could. My DH was never really on board with TG, so I think that swayed me, too.
  
  You can't unknow, but you could postpone knowing as long as you can stand it. Perhaps an option is to get them to put the sex in an envelope when they know, and you and your DH can take time to decide if you want to see it or not.
  
  

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• shandorfml2 member

  January 2015

  I'm to anxious to be TG, I found out with both my angel and rainbow. Helps me with bonding and separating this pregnancy from my angel. It's a very personal choice

     

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  BFP# 1 7/7/12 Beautiful DD born still at 36 weeks 5 days on 3/2/13
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• dawnstar898 member

  January 2015

  We've always wanted to be team green (my husband's idea really)  I wouldn't mind knowing and not telling anybody, including DH!  Then we could both get our way.  I do feel that being team green is definitely fun, but I don't know if I will be able to stand it!  I might just have to take a peek at the US at just the right moment
  

  Me 34 DH 31, Together since 2003, Married August 20, 2011,  TTC since May 2013
  BFP #1 August 24, 2013! MMC discovered Oct. 3, 2013, D&C Oct. 4, 2013
  BFP #2 December 17, 2013! MMC discovered Jan. 28, 2014, D&C Jan. 30, 2014
  Testing done: male with complete Trisomy 16, not hereditary. Tested me for clotting disorders, all normal.
  Feb. 2014 all clear again to TTC!  Will start progesterone supplementation with the next BFP just in case.       Oct. 2014 more testing just because, thyroid and autoimmune panels = normal.  Diagnostic U/S = no abnormalities.  Will keep trying for 3-6 more months, doctor still optimistic!
  

  BFP #3 December 11, 2014!  Beta #1 14DPO = 122.4 Beta #2 17DPO = 296.8 Please stick little one and be our Rainbow!

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• mpiemont member

  January 2015

  I have no will power to ever be team green
  
  Personally, I love knowing boy/girl earlier on because it just helps me bond so much with the baby (though I have nothing to compare it to, I'm sure I'd "bond" regardless).
  

  

  DS1 born 4/17/11
  DS2 born 2/22/13
  MMC 5/16/14@8w2d
  DD due 5/9/15 Please be our RAINBOW
  
  

  
  

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• natalie115 member

  January 2015

  I'm a planner/information seeker by nature so with DS I really wanted to know so I could feel more prepared. With this LO I don't have that feeling b/c we have everything we need from DS and if it happens to be a girl we can get clothes after she's born. So this time we are TG.

  Started TTC Nov. 2011 
  

  1st clomid cycle June 2012- No response :: HSG August 2012- Left tube blocked, right tube clear :: 2nd clomid cycle Aug. 2012 BFN :: 3rd clomid cycle Sept. 2012 :: BFP Sept 30th :: DS born 6/15/13 :: BFP #2 7/29/14 M/C 8/5/14 :: BFP#3 10/20/14 DD born 7/1/2015 :: Applied to be surrogate April '17 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for IFs Dec. '17 :: Surro Babe born 9/11/18 :: Started 2nd Journey May '19 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for new IFs 9/24/19 :: HB 138 at 6w6d

  
  

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• CreechMommy member

  January 2015

  For me my loss was early. There was no way for us go known if we had lost a boy or girl. For this one its important for me to know as early as possible so I can bond with this baby. I know there's is never a safe time so if something were to happen this time I would want to know if it was a boy or girl. I feel like the sooner I can start the nursery and start buying clothes the more real it will be for me.

  
  

  Ashleigh (26) and Darren (26)

  Married 8-10-13

  TTC since February 2014

  BFP #1 4-22-14  EDD 1-1-15

  8w u/s 5-22-14 Baby measuring 6w1d. Heartbeat detected

  Went to Dr. 5-30-14 due to bleeding. Prescribed progesterone

  Went to ER 6-1-14 2:30 AM - diagnosed with incomplete m/c

  6-6-14 natural m/c completed

  10-24-14 BFP #2 EDD 7-6-15 **Please** be our Rainbow 

  
  

  

                                                                  

  

  
  
  

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• girlymama79 member

  January 2015

  I lost my babies before we could find out. It was hard for me to not know. I'm
  Finding out with this one (hopefully) Wednesday. Also, I have no self control to wait on something like this.

  

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

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• taberbtb member

  January 2015

  I found out the sex because like PP's I was having trouble bonding. I am the only one who knows IRL, I haven't told anyone that I know. Even DH is team green, so for me it has helped me to bond because regardless of what the sex is, it feels like this LO and I share a secret together that nobody else does.
  
  I actually find myself feeling sad as I approach my EDD that once she arrives we won't have this special secret just between the two of us anymore. I don't know if that makes any sense but it's how I have been feeling lately.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

   

  
  

    

   

  
  

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  BFP #1 04/28/13 Its twins! EDD 01/08/2014 MMC confirmed 06/27/13 D&C 07/17/13

  BFP#2 05/19/14 EDD 01/30/2015 Please be our rainbow!

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• BackstreetPixie member

  January 2015

  I was team green with my first baby then i lost it. I wanted to be with this one too but i kinda had my heart set on disney princesses and cute girl clothes so hubby told me we should find out so that if we had a boy I would have time to cope with that. We decided not to tell anyone though so that we wouldn't have our baby surrounded by blue or pink the day they were born and this would be our first living baby so I wanted the big things to be gender neutral and reusable for our next one. We did learn our Peep is a boy and I am glad I know because I am afraid I would have been disappointed if i didn't have this time to deal with my emotions over that. Don't get me wrong. Any healthy baby is awesome. I just was so sure it was a girl and would have felt so weird that it wasn't. Also the fact that I lost the first one too early to ever know made me want to know with this one. I think whatever you decide follow your heart about it. There is no wrong answer.

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  Started dating Hubby May 17 2005. Married since Aug 20 2011 

  Me:30   Hubby:31

  TTC since May 2012 

  HSG Dec 2012 Fill no spill on left side, right side normal (most physically painful experience of my life..)

  Metformin Started May 2013

  PG#1: BFP 10-21-13. EDD 6-17-14 mmc 12-9-13 m/c occurred with cytotec on 12-11-13 

  PG#2: BFP 07-25-14.  EDD 4-5-15   *Hoping this is my rainbow*

  Diagnosed with PCOS, Hypothyroid,IBD/UC, (UC in remission as of July 2014)

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• Bree2109 member

  January 2015

  Thanks for sharing all your opinions and experiences ladies! We still haven't made a  decision but I'm not so sure my wife will be on board with team green, so I'm thinking I might just have the secret kept from me. Then we both get what we want! That is, if I can hold out until birth.

  8/17/12 Miscarriage at 9 weeks. Fetal Growth stopped 6w6d 2/15/13 Chemical pregnancy 8/21/13 BFP! MMC oct 8th measured 8w5d

  
  

  
  

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• MamaOwl15 member

  February 2015

  I have mixed feelings. I'm such a planner-type person that I don't like the idea of not being able to plan much ahead, like will I need to buy girl clothes, since my living child is a boy?
  
  Also, one of the things I've struggled with being that my losses were early is that I never got to know if it was a boy or girl, and the first one (around 12 years ago) never even had a name.
  
  On the other hand, at this point in my pregnancy, I'm like, I don't care if it's a boy or a girl, I just care that it has a heartbeat! Once I get past 12 weeks and the risk of miscarriage is lower, I'll be eager to know. Knowing a loss can happen at any time, I want to honor my child with a name as soon as possible.

  
  

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• lilliekidd member

  February 2015

  I have a girl and boy before my loss I kind of want to go TG.  you need to decide what works best for you and DH!
  

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