I have pretty much caught up on recent occurrences on other boards including bannings, new TOU, etc. But why the board suicide on M14? Why the mass exodus? It seems to me that M14 has escaped this thing pretty well unscathed...as it should since this place tends to be relatively respectful. I know I am not on TB much these days, but it isn't like this has been the kingdom of snark and cursing anyway. M14 is about one of the most low key places on TB. I don't see why there is a need to leave or why people are actively trying to get themselves banned.
If this isn't over TOU, then what is it over? A few posters on Parenting being banned? Some of which apparently reacted to their banning by posting porn, hacking TB, making threats of violence and otherwise behaving in a manner that I personally would NEVER want to model for my children? Also, if my memory serves me, "Parenting" was no friend/fan of M14 about last Easter during "Glider gate" and pretty much told M14 that we deserved to have money stolen from us that was donated for a loss Mom even though the majority of M14 had nothing to do with the gilder post. (Also, I do realize that some of the parenting posters who did those things like the threats, etc. are not representative of all of "Parenting," so to that extent I am sorry for lumping them all together. But my point is that this simply doesn't seem like something that warrants what is going on HERE.) I know I have not been very active lately, but it does make me sad to think that I may not "virtually" see many of you again since I don't have any plans to leave. Just my two cents. I hope you all stay.
ETA: I am not merely being facetious. I genuinely don't understand why people are wanting to leave. Please fill me in if there is something that I am missing.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
It has nothing to do with the TOU, the new TOU wasn't going to affect M14 at all. It's about TB banning regular members for no reason, demoting the mods, censoring posts, etc. and this place is falling apart right now, you can't edit posts, send private messages. A lot of the boards are a complete disaster. We started going to the new place just as a backup but as things got worse over here, seemed like the new place was the place to be. You should check it out.
I can understand not wanting to be banned for no reason. However, given how some members acted after they were banned, I question if it truly was for no reason. Also, I believe TB has stated that BumpMay (who did the bannings) is no longer employed in that capacity.
As for changing tou, I have been around TK, TB, etc for 10+ years and seen it changed maybe 2-3 times. And, honestly, these changes really don't affect most of the women on this board because most of the women on this board are very respectful. The women on this board are exactly the type of women who I'm willing to bet the bump wants on here and is unlikely to ban.
Ultimately, to each his own. I just hate to see this board implode if people were happy here prior to the current situation. I have no dog in this fight other than just to say that after the dust settles, things may not ultimately end up being so bad around here. I'm not trying to say anyone here (m14) is right or wrong in this situation or be snarky or judgy.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
Basically @IBackBevo said what I wanted to say, just much more eloquently. Parenting has done some pretty gnarly crap in my tenure on TB, I just think following them is very sheepish.
@kitchencolors - I respectfully disagree with your comment that my logic is backwards. Some of the actions have been so outrageous that it makes me seriously question credibility. Even in a court of law, bad acts can be used to impeach a person's credibility. And I am not just talking about the porn.
I didn't say BM was no longer employed. I said she was no longer employed in the capacity that she was ...which is the same thing you are saying. She is not interacting with posters so, therefore, she isn't able to ban anyone.
I am clearly in the minority here so I won't say anything else about this. I wish everyone the best.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
One more thing and then I really will shut up. I am not meaning to say that nothing wrong happened. I am just saying that I don't know and I am going to wait to see how everything pans out.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
I agree that what happened is upsetting but the response by Parenting and TTGP has gotten out of hand. I really don't see the point in trying to go out in a blaze of glory here. XO obviously couldn't give two fucks either way.
I think a big part of it is that many are regs on boards that were affected by the whole fiasco and are leaving in response to the stuff happening on those boards. Others are in the herd mentality of leaving because everyone else is. I guess I fall into the latter. I'm bouncing between the two right now but I envision this board going pretty dead soon and if that happens there won't be much point in coming around here. Sad though, I started out on TK 6 years ago. Dang that seems like a long friggin time ago!
Congrats to my GP Sister from another mister Bruinsbabe!!
I think a big part of it is that many are regs on boards that were affected by the whole fiasco and are leaving in response to the stuff happening on those boards. Others are in the herd mentality of leaving because everyone else is. I guess I fall into the latter. I'm bouncing between the two right now but I envision this board going pretty dead soon and if that happens there won't be much point in coming around here. Sad though, I started out on TK 6 years ago. Dang that seems like a long friggin time ago!
Your first sentence makes this make more sense as to why there is a reaction here. Thanks for explaining.
And your 2nd to last sentence is exactly my sentiment...I think it will be pretty dead and that makes me sad.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
@jenna3878 I totally agree about the culture on TTGP. I will miss that greatly next time around. It is unfortunate that they seem to be trying to kill off what set this place apart.
So much what @jenna3878 said. Truth be told over time proboards will die down, as it will be getting very few new users, and TB will recover. But who knows if the tone of TB will ever be what it used to be. If it just becomes another babygaga I have no interest in being here (not that I will since I'm about to be banned anyways). Stay here to see what happens. But you should come over the other place too to stay in touch with everyone.
Im staying here for now. Not that anyone should care really but I hope this settles down some and it can go back to a nice community of sharing with eachother and whatnot. I dont agree with how it all went down and maybe some of the banning was for reasons we will never know. Maybe all the mod demotions happened so TB could try to regain some control in all the chaos? Not saying it was done the right way, just maybe it was done in a panic? Anyhow I wish everyone all the best whichever board people decide to use. For those that decide to kick it around here... You'll see me around
I think a big part of it is that many are regs on boards that were affected by the whole fiasco and are leaving in response to the stuff happening on those boards. Others are in the herd mentality of leaving because everyone else is. I guess I fall into the latter. I'm bouncing between the two right now but I envision this board going pretty dead soon and if that happens there won't be much point in coming around here. Sad though, I started out on TK 6 years ago. Dang that seems like a long friggin time ago!
Your first sentence makes this make more sense as to why there is a reaction here. Thanks for explaining.
And your 2nd to last sentence is exactly my sentiment...I think it will be pretty dead and that makes me sad.
Which is why I'm trying to bounce between the two for now. If over time this board dies then hopefully I will be used to pb.
Congrats to my GP Sister from another mister Bruinsbabe!!
This is the only board I follow. I understand some of us were regulars on the boards that were effected, but I'm a little annoyed that the board I care about is falling apart over something that most of us had nothing to do with. It just seems really unfair to those of us who didn't even know what was going on. All the sudden you log on and find everyone is leaving over something that had nothing to do with May 14. If I boycotted something every time it offended someone I knew, I wouldn't have any interests or hobbies. I plan on staying put but it doesn't look promising.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
< bemotiboutte class="Quote" rel="pistolpackinmomma">Ok so can someone fill me in on what happened on SAHM a couple of months ago? I missed that.
I am not really sure, but I think it was a more small scale version of this. I think it was started with a thread on fruit snacks and then there was supposedly something ae one poster having an emotional affair with another poster. But I don't know all the details.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
sorry for the typos I have a baby in my hand and I'm having to do voice to text
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
@IBackBevo - ok, admittedly I am not on here much but I am super confused. What's going on? What is TOU?
Tou= terms of use. The bump changed the terms of use and banned some members. Some posters are leaving.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
Re: Why the board suicide on M14?
As for changing tou, I have been around TK, TB, etc for 10+ years and seen it changed maybe 2-3 times. And, honestly, these changes really don't affect most of the women on this board because most of the women on this board are very respectful. The women on this board are exactly the type of women who I'm willing to bet the bump wants on here and is unlikely to ban.
Ultimately, to each his own. I just hate to see this board implode if people were happy here prior to the current situation. I have no dog in this fight other than just to say that after the dust settles, things may not ultimately end up being so bad around here. I'm not trying to say anyone here (m14) is right or wrong in this situation or be snarky or judgy.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
I didn't say BM was no longer employed. I said she was no longer employed in the capacity that she was ...which is the same thing you are saying. She is not interacting with posters so, therefore, she isn't able to ban anyone.
I am clearly in the minority here so I won't say anything else about this. I wish everyone the best.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
And your 2nd to last sentence is exactly my sentiment...I think it will be pretty dead and that makes me sad.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
https://****/board/50/14
I dont agree with how it all went down and maybe some of the banning was for reasons we will never know. Maybe all the mod demotions happened so TB could try to regain some control in all the chaos? Not saying it was done the right way, just maybe it was done in a panic?
Anyhow I wish everyone all the best whichever board people decide to use. For those that decide to kick it around here... You'll see me around
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
I am not really sure, but I think it was a more small scale version of this. I think it was started with a thread on fruit snacks and then there was supposedly something ae one poster having an emotional affair with another poster. But I don't know all the details.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge: