Sunday Bitchfest

kristennflickk · January 2015

I really need this.

Apparently I'm supposed to plan my own shower? When I informed people that it was tacky and I won't die if no one throws one for me, they looked at me like I was an alien. So no shower for me, so devastated. How will I ever make it through. *heavy sarcasm* Maybe I'll provide the things my child needs on my own, what an out of the box idea!

Jessica16393 · January 2015

I'm in the same boat. They were like what? Your not throwing your own? That sucks. Yeah looks like none for me either.
On a different bitch my coffee is cold and I don't feel like getting up to warm it.

staciecoffey · January 2015

Oh ladies, I'm so sorry! I thought baby showers were like bridal showers and family planned it for you.

MamaBish · January 2015

I had never heard of someone throwing their own shower until I joined online pregnancy communities. It's it not something I have ever seen done. It's usually a family member or friend. Maybe other people like to do that, but I would rather have no shower than to ask people to give me things!

briafields94 · January 2015

staciecoffey said:
Oh ladies, I'm so sorry! I thought baby showers were like bridal showers and family planned it for you.

I thought the same thing. I've never considered throwing my own. I'm sorry you're being put in a position where you have to plan your own I know that must stink.

kristennflickk · January 2015

They all asked 'why would we pay for your party' like they were genuinely confused. After I told them I wasn't planning one and if they wanted to attend a baby shower then they'd have to plan it. I don't even want things, I really want all the people I love playing baby shower bingo and eating weird colored foods and cake. No gifts other than diapers.

lwyz · January 2015

Another shower related bitch. My MIL is sweet and has good intentions. Really. But she emailed me on Friday asking when I would be available for a shower (which I'm very thankful for. We can afford everything but help is nice.) and gave a couple month window. And I responded with about a month within that. I basically told her I did not want it in the last 2 weeks of June because if we're having a shower we're not going to stock up on baby stuff prior to it cause that's silly. Also, it's not really unheard of to give birth 2 weeks early so that's just not going to work. But any time before then really I'm fine with. And she responds with 'oh but YH will be done work for the school year in the last 2 weeks of June.' *facepalm* I actually listed reasons why I was uncomfortable with end of June. She spoke to DH the day before and she agreed with reasons for not having it then. And yet... Apparently that's what she wants.

OokamiNoHime · January 2015

I've got a few today~

So there's this stupid lady at work, who I absolutely hated pre-pregnancy, and now I absolutely wish she would go away and never ever come back. Ever since she's learned I'm pregnant, she won't leave me alone! She's absolutely obnoxious and fake. And she called me anal, which is bull.
We work stocking freight at Walmart, and at the end the of the night, we stack the leftover stuff on pallets and take it to the back. She gets upset that I fuss over how things are stacked, because I've had a 6-foot pallet avalanche onto me before, and I'd rather it never happen again.
I'm tired of her pretending to my face that she is so excited, when it's pretty obvious that she doesn't care. And then her telling me stories about her pregnancy, and wanting to know every detail of my life (even when I tell her it isn't any of her business!).

Sorry for the wall of text, just really tired of her stupid face.

I'm also tired of females coming into my work dressed to the nines, and giving me dirty looks when they pass by.
Like, 'hooker, I'm pregnant, I don't care how super sexy you are. Go home.'

Also, I'm tired of this whole, growing boobs thing. I can't find any bras that fit me!

staciecoffey · January 2015

I can't figure out how to change my user name and it's pissing me off...any suggestions?

bruunk · January 2015

I'm sorry for the shower planning issues - no one has mentioned one yet, and I'm kinda hoping no one does. My family,usually an aunt throws it, but so far nothing. I'm ok with that!

@OokamiNoHime‌ I have a similar coworker that no one likes, and yet no one can tell her to knock it off. The company took a group photo at the new year, and I was taking the photo. She kept yelling directions up to me, which confused the 200 people I had finally gotten into place. I finally told her to shut up - felt so good!! Long story short - I feel ya!

My bitch is I'm just in a crappy mood. I'm annoyed with DH, annoyed that he can sleep right now, and while logically I know it's not a big deal, can't shake wanting to be a bitch to him all day. I have no poker face and gave lunch with my grandparents. I have to shake it off and soon.

girlymama79 · January 2015

My house is a disaster and I don't wanna clean it

My husband goes back to work tomorrow after having a week off and he has to work 14 days straight.

The contractor we had lined up to work on our basement backed out. I need dd1 room down there finished so she can move and her room to become the nursery. So now DH is putting up insulation.

shahoi · January 2015

I'm so sorry to you ladies who are having shower issues. Hopefully someone will step up to the plate and give you the shower of your dreams!!

My "bitch" isn't pregnancy related. So my MIL's cat was hit by a car several weeks ago and broke her left back leg. The vet thought he was going to have to amputate it, but ended up hopeful that splinting it would do the trick instead. My MIL has been going on and on about how the cat has been getting around great on it... yada yada yada. So today, DH and I are over there for a visit, and the cat was totally not using her leg at all. It looked like she had no control over her leg, and it was just sort of dangling there. I started examining her leg, and come to find out, the top part of the splint was digging into her skin, and it literally looked like her leg was amputating itself!! My MIL kept saying how she'd been checking it everyday, so it must've just happened. NO WAY in HELL did that just happen today! She'd been checking it everyday my ass!!! I'm so glad I noticed it!! I'm a huge animal lover, so I feel so sorry for poor Rascal. At least she's now at the vet, and will most likely be coming home with only 3 legs.

On a different note, I would do just about anything for some pineapple upside down cake!!!!

Edited because words are hard. Also, I tried to delete my December siggy challenge, but I see that it's still showing... oops!

mommacandi · January 2015

Yeah, I've never heard of planning your own shower. I'm sorry

this is #2, so I'm thankful for no shower.

My bitch: DH has his money spending bug, and it's fucking pissing me off. So far today, he's suggested purchasing a new couch, buying an Apple TV, a few different power tools and other bullshit. Uhhhh, DH, we're saving for that baby thing coming in June, remember?!

maddibayer · January 2015

My big bitch rant if the day is.. People who say they have no fucking money and ask me for diapers for their child after they just bought a 72 inch flat screen and 2,000 vacuum!!! You and your husband make double what we do yearly and you can't afford to feed and clothe and diaper your children!?!? Maybe you should quit buying expensive not necessary shit and spend that money on the important stuff!!! Rant over..

mommacandi · January 2015

maddibayer said:
My big bitch rant if the day is.. People who say they have no fucking money and ask me for diapers for their child after they just bought a 72 inch flat screen and 2,000 vacuum!!! You and your husband make double what we do yearly and you can't afford to feed and clothe and diaper your children!?!? Maybe you should quit buying expensive not necessary shit and spend that money on the important stuff!!! Rant over..

Wtf?! This is obnoxious! My neighbors are kind of like this. Take elaborate vacations WITHOUT their kids, buy all kinda of unnecessary expensive shit, then turn around and ask me for milk, Tylenol, to go buy her beer/cigs because she can't afford it...seriously?

maddibayer · January 2015

mommacandi said:

maddibayer said:
My big bitch rant if the day is.. People who say they have no fucking money and ask me for diapers for their child after they just bought a 72 inch flat screen and 2,000 vacuum!!! You and your husband make double what we do yearly and you can't afford to feed and clothe and diaper your children!?!? Maybe you should quit buying expensive not necessary shit and spend that money on the important stuff!!! Rant over..
Wtf?! This is obnoxious! My neighbors are kind of like this. Take elaborate vacations WITHOUT their kids, buy all kinda of unnecessary expensive shit, then turn around and ask me for milk, Tylenol, to go buy her beer/cigs because she can't afford it...seriously?

I know! It's really frustrating! Can't afford to buy your kids clothes?! So ya you should totally have another kid. Really just makes me wanna scream at them sometimes...

mommacandi · January 2015

maddibayer said:

mommacandi said:

maddibayer said:
My big bitch rant if the day is.. People who say they have no fucking money and ask me for diapers for their child after they just bought a 72 inch flat screen and 2,000 vacuum!!! You and your husband make double what we do yearly and you can't afford to feed and clothe and diaper your children!?!? Maybe you should quit buying expensive not necessary shit and spend that money on the important stuff!!! Rant over..
Wtf?! This is obnoxious! My neighbors are kind of like this. Take elaborate vacations WITHOUT their kids, buy all kinda of unnecessary expensive shit, then turn around and ask me for milk, Tylenol, to go buy her beer/cigs because she can't afford it...seriously?
I know! It's really frustrating! Can't afford to buy your kids clothes?! So ya you should totally have another kid. Really just makes me wanna scream at them sometimes...

I know a girl (not necessarily a friend, more of an acquaintance) who wanted to have a baby and was actively trying, but refused to take prenatal vitamins bc they were too expensive. Like, what?! Babies are expensive lady!

MrsFriede · January 2015

I live too far away from family and I don't know enough people here so probably no shower. I'm not worried though because I'm thrifty and I know people will still send stuff.

I do have a rant though, I'm team green with twins, which is exciting. A coworker's wife is pregnant with boy/girl twins 6 weeks ahead of me. We are painting our nursery blue (under the sea theme, love the ocean!) and he says to me, "but you don't even know if they're boys". I'm so sick of people genderizing my children, I strongly dislike pink and purple, but that doesn't mean I'll be upset if I have girls. I could care less what sex my babies are. My step dad said, "I hope you have at least one boy so I can teach him to play hockey," I went on a big rant as to why a girl can't learn to play hockey. It drives me CRAZY, my children are not born yet and have endless opportunities, why do other people feel the need to limit them already. GAH!

End of rant, I feel better

thelittlestbee · January 2015

My bitch for today isn't pregnancy related either. Some idiot blew through a red light and came THIS.CLOSE. to hitting me! Thank god my car has good breaks. The only reason I even have this car is because I was in a similar accident last year and my old car was totaled. Needless to say, I was really pissed off. I think the baby knew because when I finally got out of the car she was jumping around like crazy and it was hurting me.

Why don't people fucking stop for red lights?!

veggiemo · January 2015

@staciecoffey‌ You do it through the knot. It's somewhere in your user preferences. Then you have to log out everywhere and log back in.

carolyngrace · January 2015

kristennflickk said:

I really need this. Apparently I'm supposed to plan my own shower? When I informed people that it was tacky and I won't die if no one throws one for me, they looked at me like I was an alien. So no shower for me, so devastated. How will I ever make it through. *heavy sarcasm* Maybe I'll provide the things my child needs on my own, what an out of the box idea!

Has no one in your friend circle had babies yet? Or if they have, did they plan their own shower? I've been to like 1000 showers over the past 5 years so everyone kind of understands how it works and the closest friends always offer to throw a shower. I've helped throw 3 and two of those people are now throwing mine. Is there no precedent for yours?

Also I'm noticing a lot of people saying that those throwing their showers (or not) are commenting on cost. I just don't get this. Other than providing food (which you can make, or ask a couple people to help make if you need to), what costs so much? I know you CAN go crazy if you want to, but you don't have to! Our showers will likely be in April, you can walk outside and pick some damn flowers for decorations

thelittlestbee · January 2015

maddibayer said:

My big bitch rant if the day is.. People who say they have no fucking money and ask me for diapers for their child after they just bought a 72 inch flat screen and 2,000 vacuum!!! You and your husband make double what we do yearly and you can't afford to feed and clothe and diaper your children!?!? Maybe you should quit buying expensive not necessary shit and spend that money on the important stuff!!! Rant over..

That is so gross. What is wrong with people?! This kind reminds me of those people who throw their own showers so other people can buy their baby stuff. Like... hello... don't spend money on a party and just buy your own shit!

Christinej2101 · January 2015

Instead of having a shower you could always have a "sip and see" after the baby is born. That way everyone can ooh about the baby and you can drink champagne to cut the edge of tacky games/terrible Pinterest ideas. Plus then no one will try to touch your belly!

kristennflickk · January 2015

@carolyngrace‌ I've been to lots of baby showers but never really asked if they threw their own or if someone volunteered. I guess I should have been paying more attention but I had no idea I would need to know any of it any time soon. I planned on being 30 before I even started trying.

carolyngrace · January 2015

kristennflickk said:

@carolyngrace‌ I've been to lots of baby showers but never really asked if they threw their own or if someone volunteered. I guess I should have been paying more attention but I had no idea I would need to know any of it any time soon. I planned on being 30 before I even started trying.

I see. I guess I could usually tell because the host will make introductions, tell people when to eat, etc... It's a damn shame one of your friends didn't say they would host after you said you would have to do it yourself (or not at all)! It seems like you're ok with it, but I feel like everyone should have a shower.

carolyngrace · January 2015

My bitch is that I wish my DH was more similar to me. He has Monday & Tuesday off, so he's spending all of today doing absolutely nothing. I bought furniture that needs to be assembled, and i know he'll do it over the next couple of days, but I want him to do it NOW! Lol I realize that's unreasonable though. I just enjoy projects and getting things done, so it's very rare that I'll do nothing for a whole day...

erbear84 · January 2015

My bitch - a girl I went to school with announced her pregnancy (she's due in July) and did a huge "gender reveal" where she posted her kid's genitals all over Facebook. Not what I wanted to see first thing this morning!

KarasTwin · January 2015

My bitch is that my sister in law has booked the venue for her wedding and it's September 26. Baby is due June 27 so we'll have a baby that is roughly 3 months old at the wedding, give or take. Overheard DH on the phone with his dad this morning and apparently FIL is worried the baby will cry during the ceremony. That will probably happen. It's a baby. They have been badgering us for ages to have them a baby but now it's like a huge inconvenience for them. She knew in October when I was due, got engaged on Christmas and is now getting married in September. I don't expect her to plan the wedding around us but I think it's a little rude for FIL to be making comments like that. And God forbid we leave the baby with a sitter, I don't see that going over well at all. Plus, the wedding is in a barn that's open on the sides so it's not like I could step out if necessary. DH told her we might bring the baby for a little bit and to get pics and then have my sister babysit and now she's afraid we won't stay the whole time. She'll turn 21 just a few months before the wedding so I guess I shouldn't expect her to be thinking about anything but herself, which is fine, it's her wedding day. It's my FIL that's pissing me off, he's one of those that thinks the father doesn't have to help care for the baby and has called me fat so he's kind of on my shitlist

mcp6286 · January 2015

kristennflickk said:
They all asked 'why would we pay for your party' like they were genuinely confused. After I told them I wasn't planning one and if they wanted to attend a baby shower then they'd have to plan it. I don't even want things, I really want all the people I love playing baby shower bingo and eating weird colored foods and cake. No gifts other than diapers.

This makes me sad! You sound like you would be a great person to throw a shower for...low maintenance, not issuing demands, just want to have fun and hang out. A baby shower doesn't have to be expensive to be thoughtful and fun!

And planning one with a group of friends is such a good time! Three of us planned my best friend's shower together...we had it at a venue so we each chipped in about $300 total...and we had a fabulous time! Personally, I felt like it was more than worth it to not have to clean in preparation, cook, decorate and clean up afterwards like we did for her wedding shower. But that's just me.

I hope someone steps up and throws you one!!! Keep us posted.

kristennflickk · January 2015

@mcp6286‌ thank you! My mom originally was planning to I think. At least she hinted at it, but she has been having a lot of health issues lately so I made it clear in a subtle way that I don't want her to plan one because that's way too much stress on her. I'd rather have my mom attend my child's wedding than have one of her problems act up on my account because of a baby shower.

I've already got the basics for the baby just stockpiling diapers for now. I was just looking forward to the cheesy games from Pinterest. Idk if it's just where I'm from but I asked a few friends and they said they all planned their own. I didn't have the heart to tell them it was tacky and seemed greedy.

thelittlestbee · January 2015

kristennflickk said:

@mcp6286‌ thank you! My mom originally was planning to I think. At least she hinted at it, but she has been having a lot of health issues lately so I made it clear in a subtle way that I don't want her to plan one because that's way too much stress on her. I'd rather have my mom attend my child's wedding than have one of her problems act up on my account because of a baby shower.

I've already got the basics for the baby just stockpiling diapers for now. I was just looking forward to the cheesy games from Pinterest. Idk if it's just where I'm from but I asked a few friends and they said they all planned their own. I didn't have the heart to tell them it was tacky and seemed greedy.

I'm sorry about your mom and I can totally understand why you wouldn't want her to have the stress of planning a party. I have only ever known one couple that planned their own baby shower. This was maybe 10 years ago when we were all around 20 years old and they were the first friends we had that got pregnant. It was the first shower I'd ever been to and honestly I had no idea it was not the proper thing to do. Obviously, with age comes experience and better knowledge about proper etiquette. I know that everyone isn't "entitled" to a baby shower, but it's still nice to have. If no one is willing to throw one for you, you can always host a casual bbq type event and invite people to hang out before the baby is born. You wouldn't make any mention of gifts/registry. Otherwise you can do a meet the baby party after the baby is born. The point is you definitely have options!

kristennflickk · January 2015

I'd never even heard of a registry until I got here. I guess I'm a little naive about pregnancy and baby showers. I'll be 21 next month so for me I feel too young and ill prepared for what's going to happen. I babysat my niece and nephew when they were infants so babies don't scare me, I'm just overwhelmed by how much I don't know. There's so much to read and learn and not enough hours in the day!

& I like the idea of the 'sip and see' but in barbeque form. I may end up doing something small like that. Thank you all for the wonderful support!

ksimo6 · January 2015

Ugh ladies. Sorry about all the shower drama. I had a similar experience with one of my showers. I was told when I was 7 months along that "we will probably do something" ... Ah. Don't go out if your way. We're good. It all worked out in the end but it was awkward!

The only bitch I have today is that I overdid it cleaning and organizing the house and now my back hurts. I guess I shouldn't do that again!

mathistm · January 2015

Mother of all fucks! I just got out of the shower and was brushing my hair and missed and brushed my nip. I've never felt that much nip pain in my life.

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