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  LizBlue member

  January 2015

  @TowerClimberswife - lets put it in TTCAL terms for you - what if they banned Petra with no reason, with no notice and banned 20 of our most active regulars, and the ones left were staging a protest here on TTCAL and somebody with no knowledge of our board or our history came in and said, "guys, please be nice - there are new women here who need your help."? 

  
  

  They HAD a supportive community.  TB burned it to the ground, and now they are dealing with the fall out.

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  *I am no longer regularly posting on TB because of the fucked up debacle of Jan 2015 when administrators banned long-term members and mods with no notice and completely dismantled a community full of women who cared about each other.  If you see me posting it's only to give support to a poster who needs it or to post something important enough that I need to say.  I am no longer responding to  anything other than issues that affect people who I care about*

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  August 2012 through June 2013:  6 IUIs with clomid and trigger shot, all BFNs

  7/2013, Pregnant! Unmedicated--we were on a treatment break
  

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  3/15/14 IVF #1:  Lupron/Follistim/Menopur; ER 3/10 resulting in four transfer grade blastocysts, transferred one pretty blast and froze the remaining three. BFN. 

  Natural FET in May cancelled because the universe hates me my hormones were not cooperating.
  

  6/24/14 FET #1: transferred two pretty embryos; BFN   

  8/28/14 FET #2: BFP, ended in Chemical pregnancy

  
  

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  Nikolie93 member

  January 2015

  I agree with the above posters. I would leave it be right now. I also just lurk over there so I can't really relate to how bad it really is for those active and long time members. Like lizblue said, think if they came here and did to Petra what they did to other valued mods. We would be outraged as well.
  
  And as wicked said, you will get flamed for sure.
  
  

  I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

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  imnotfancy member

  January 2015

  I agree with the silence over there. I was only a part of that community for a short time but I'm also pissed about what happened to them and agree with their silence. The continued silence posts are about "running off" the newbies so the community doesn't grow again. The regs are attempting to shut it down. I think they expect to keep up the silence posts as long as they continue to have the energy to do so. The continued silence posts also bump down any intros that will create a new community. There are other Internet forums for the newbies to go to while TTC.
  
  As important as the info is from the wise regs about newbies learning about their body/charting, they can still get that in other Internet forums. Granted, not as well as the old TTGP could have showed them. It's not like TTCAL where people are in distress grieving over a recent loss... Of course, if you see that while lurking you can reach out to them via pm and direct them this way.

  
  

  

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  TowerClimbersWife member

  January 2015

  I agree that I wouldn't go post over there, or try to intervene in trying to change anyone's mind. As I said before, I respect each individuals choice to maintain silence if they feel that is what they feel led to do.
  
  There is still a part of me that feels bad for anyone new coming in looking for a community that might not take the time to look elsewhere. I guess if I see something I'll just PM, that is a good idea.
  

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  beckynsean11 member

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  I'm an active member over there. For now I'm going to support the silence. If someone new comes along & doesn't start off by criticizing things about which they know nothing & they have genuine concerns, I'll be happy to chime in with an answer. Right now it feels like a bunch of XO interns coming in & shit stirring.

  
  

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  Lap & hysteroscopy scheduled for 10/31, right tube cleared, no endo found! ...Happy Halloween!

  Cycle 14: Clomid (50)+ IUI = BFP! EDD 9/16/14~ Rowan Elizabeth born sleeping at 17w4d on 4/12/14 due to IC.

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  New RE June 2014. RPL b/w - negative. SIS looking for uterine/cervical abnormalities & Asherman's 6/10/14 - ALL CLEAR!  

  Cycle 16: Natural IUI = CP, Cycle 17: Femara (2.5) + IUI = BFN, Cycle 18 Femara (5) + IUI = BFFN, Cycle 19: Break

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