New here and introvert post

123BabyMomma · January 2015

Hi Ladies,

I have been lurking for a bit and asked a question or two but I just wanted to finally introduce myself:

STM in Canada with DS and expecting a DD on June 21 (or somewhere around that). My DH and I went with a midwife last birth and we loved her, so we are using a midwife again.

Now here are the goods:

I am an introvert at heart and hate talking about myself to colleagues and co-workers. Does/did anyone else dread telling people that you were pregnant?<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

I have only told 2 people at work (I am barely showing at 17w5days, which I am surprised with as a STM) and dread telling others. Maybe I won't tell anyone else and I will let my giant belly let people know in a few months :P

kej0004 · January 2015

123BabyMomma said:

Hi Ladies,
I have been lurking for a bit and asked a question or two but I just wanted to finally introduce myself:
STM in Canada with DS and expecting a DD on June 21 (or somewhere around that). My DH and I went with a midwife last birth and we loved her, so we are using a midwife again.
Now here are the goods:
I am an introvert at heart and hate talking about myself to colleagues and co-workers. Does/did anyone else dread telling people that you were pregnant?
I have only told 2 people at work (I am barely showing at 17w5days, which I am surprised with as a STM) and dread telling others. Maybe I won't tell anyone else and I will let my giant belly let people know in a few months :P

Welcome! You must have way nicer coworkers than me, because once someone besides management/HR knew, everyone knew.

Could you tell the couple of people that know to kind of casually leak the news instead of you having to announce it?

blastocarrier30 · January 2015

Welcome! Also, I hate telling people I'm pregnant. Especially because then it's all we talk about. I still haven't told two of my friends that I see somewhat regularly because I chickened out last time I saw them. I see them next week and DH looked me straight in the face and said that I wasn't allowed to go if I wasn't going to tell them.

staciecoffey · January 2015

Welcome! As a FTM I wanted to shout it from the roof tops but was nervous too since I'm still in college and didn't want people to tell me I couldn't handle it all. Now I'm like woohoo! Screaming it all over the place and loving it! But I'm also a huge extrovert.

blu-eyedwife · January 2015

Welcome. You're not alone. There was a post about this early on, a lot of us feel the same way. I just hate being the center of attention in that manner. I feel awkward bringing it up and don't know how to introduce it into the conversation.

georgiaadavila · January 2015

I had mixed feelings about telling people at work. I told a few and was really encouraged by their ridiculously excited responses, but I also didn't want to make a big announcement. I just ended up letting a friend at work announce it to everyone at our Christmas party. She enjoyed doing it much more than I would have. I also had the additional discomfort of my students (I teach high school) finding out, so when one of them guessed, the news naturally made it's way around.

I will say that everyone knowing has made my life a bit easier because I don't have to try and hide my bump and people are a whole lot more forgiving when pregnancy brain kicks in.

elvinnoe · January 2015

Welcome! We share a due date, aww

Yes, I hate telling people I'm pregnant. Lately I've been using the line, "Oh, did I ever mention were having a second?" When they say omg, no, omg, yay, then I follow up with yeah, I forget who I've told and who I haven't (true), and no, it's not a secret and no, we don't know the baby's sex. Then I usually change the subject, "So, how have you been?" Etc...

KimberlyandThor2014 · January 2015

Welcome! It can be awkward announcing a pregnancy sometimes, especially if you're an introvert. I agree with PP (previous posters)...ask a work friend to leak it and spread the news for you.

moret07 · January 2015

Welcome

leenziepops · January 2015

There must be one of those women in your office who knows everything about everyone. Tell that woman and let her fly! Or could you do a short email instead? " Hi everyone, I'm having a baby in June."

finchfeeder80 · January 2015

Welcome!

I don't mind telling people, even though it still feel weird and kind of AWish, but what I do do, is when I see another pregnant lady I want to run up to her and go, "Hey! I'm pregnant, too!" Obviously I don't because that would be weird and kind of stalkerish (?), and I have no idea what makes me have that compulsion, but there ya go.

lfaithlove · January 2015

Welcome!

Like you (OP) and so many previous posters, I also hate talking about my pregnancy/drawing attention to myself. I'm a STM and I'm so glad I don't have to have another shower, as bratty as that sounds, because I hate being the center of attention. So I totally understand where you're coming from. We are on staff at a church (Dh and I) and we never made an official announcement to the congregation. We did post on social media so it was obviously not a secret and inevitably lot of people knew and word got out. We're 17 weeks and still people will overhear someone at church asking how the pregnancy is going and they will say, "oh I didn't even know you were pregnant, congrats!" I say a simple "thank you very much, we're thrilled!" And then ask about them so as to take the attention off of myself. I think it's worked out just letting people find out naturally. (Obviously we told our pastor and people we are very close to first so they found out from us.)

All that to say, you're not alone!

IsadoraB · January 2015

I soooo understand! When I first told work I just told my Director as my MS was causing me to have late mornings. After my 1st US I told the rest of the office by just telling two people, both of which are the biggest gossips in their departments. They took care of telling everyone else for me!

After my A/S everyone wanted to know the sex so sent the office a mass email and then just ignored their replies.

The hardest part is avoiding talking about it in everyday conversation. My office is 99% women, 75% of which are post-menopausal and have (dumb) opinions in EVERYTHING!

mindaa · January 2015

kej0004 said:

Could you tell the couple of people that know to kind of casually leak the news instead of you having to announce it?

That's totally worked for me. I announced to my boss, then at a department staff meeting. Then left for 3 weeks and came back with a belly. By now, either my department has spread the word, or people have noticed my belly and asked someone in my department. (or the one woman who just straight-up asked me).

I feel like it's a weird thing to be awkward about... but it just doesn't naturally come up in conversation with people who you pass in the halls... like they say, "good morning, how are you?" and I respond. "good... pregnant." Or, "I see you're 'side-eyeing' my belly... you must not have not heard the news that I'm expecting."

I agree that the follow-up is awkward too... I get asked multiple times a day how I'm feeling. (uh, fine, since I didn't announce until the 2nd tri

)

josiegirl12 · January 2015

I don't really dread telling people, but I am on the shy side, and get kind of nervous to tell people. I would rather have someone else share the news. But I try to remember that this is an exciting time, and I'm excited to be a mom and I should have joy, and pride in sharing the new!

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