17 Weeks and Still Worried I'll wake up not pregnant any day.

manda_panda4503 · January 2015

We're at 17 weeks and everything seems to be going just as it should, but I'm still worried all the time! I check for spotting EVERY time I go to the bathroom. I wake up every morning wondering if my bump is big enough. I know that anything happening at this point would be statistically rare, but I just can't keep feeling like the other shoe's about to drop. Anyone feel this way after a 1st time loss? How do you shake it?

beemaya83 · January 2015

Meeeeee!!! 17 weeks also! My feelings are everything you just described. I just take it day by day. I think I will only be at ease when I have my baby in my arms. Hang in there!

beemaya83 · January 2015

Are you feeling any movement yet? I'm not. People ask me all the time and I'm like no, not feeling anything, which doesn't help my PGAL brain!

manda_panda4503 · January 2015

Not feeling any movement either. The occasional gas bubble gives me hope, but then, ya know, nothing. We don't have an ultrasound for 3 weeks. What do I do till then?

smcniff · January 2015

You take it one day at a time.

I had a lot of anxiety leading up to my US at 20 weeks, but felt a lot better afterwards. Movement also helped, but not feeling movement at 17 weeks doesn't mean anything. For some people the anxiety will last through the whole pregnancy.

Even though I feel less anxious now in the third trimester (I am 34 weeks) I think that my subconscious has prevented me from doing some of the things that I may have done earlier if I hadn't had a loss. I am currently stressed about finishing my nursery because I have a fear of not being able to use it.

nocompass · January 2015

I'm 19+1 and I feel this way. People have started asking if we've registered anywhere. It sucks to admit I'm still too scared. Our anatomy scan is next week. I'm going to be going crazy until then, but hopefully it will provide some peace and I will be able to enjoy the second half of the pregnancy!

I know how hard it is, but focus on all the things that point to this being a healthy pregnancy for you. Best wishes!

BackstreetPixie · January 2015

I am at 28 weeks and still feel this way daily! Btw i felt one poke at 18 weeks but really didn't feel much movement till 20 weeks. So try to remember that. (I know it is hard) At this stage i feel movements every day and even when it is a swift kick to the rib i breathe a sigh of relief that baby is okay in there. ::hugs;: hang in there!

BackstreetPixie · January 2015

Ps: i have a superstition about white underwear. Won't wear any because inam afraid it will make me spot. Inknow that is dumb but white can never stay white so i fear wearing it will make something happen... I am always checking for spotting even though i spotted my whole first month due to a tear in the uterus.

pblge · January 2015

I still feel this way! Movement definitely helps, and you may be close, depending on the baby and where your placenta is. Some babies, like this one in my belly, are little karate kids, others are much more subdued in the womb. I feel very lucky to have an active one, as it's done so much for my confidence that I'll be bringing home a baby. Before that, I had almost none, and didn't really tell many people IRL!

A good a/s is also a huge milestone, so focus on getting through that. The chances of having a take home baby at that point are about as high as they, since there is never a guarantee.

@BackstreetPixie - LOL I went out and bought white panties just so I could be SURE to see spotting if it happened!

jessicamaister · January 2015

I feel this way too. Everything you described. Checking the toilet. Paranoid about under wear wetness. I'm twenty two weeks and still check my bump every day multiple times a day. I bought a fetal Doppler and still crave more reassurance. I pray. I cry. I distract myself. Thank you for honestly sharing where you're at right now because it helped me know I'm not crazy.

goldengirl84 · January 2015

I felt/feel the same way but it has gotten easier. My doppler really helped in the beginning. The a/s helped and now feeling regular kicks really puts my mind at ease. I still check every time I wipe. At this point it's just pure habit so I try not to! It does get easier so hang in there!

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