2 totally unrelated questions, but are pregnancy related

mamayo26 · January 2015

Ok so 2 questions that don't have a thing to do with each other:

1. We have our anatomy scan next week and I was considering taking DS1 so he can see the baby since he doesn't really understand yet. DH would be there too...any thoughts? Anyone do this and have a successful/happy experience?

2. I had a c/s with DS1 and will again, and lately whenever I push something with my foot, like the full laundry basket I feel this pulling type of pressure. I fully intend to ask my OB next week at my appointment, but was wondering if any other c/s STM+ have had a similar feeling?

TIA

BabyList · January 2015

#1. We thought about taking our dd, but the ultrasound is so long. I know she'll get bored, and dh will have to leave the room with her. I want me and dh to be able to enjoy together. I know that wasn't the answer you were looking for, but just my opinion.

#2. Sounds like RLP to me. I have it when I drive. Pushing the pedals hurts sometimes. I did not have a CS w my first.

ksimo6 · January 2015

1. My clinic does not allow children in the ultrasounds so you should probably check the policy at your clinic.

2. Had a csection with DD but have not experienced what you're describing. Check back and once you talk to the doc. Now I'm interested and being nosy.

mamahawk12 · January 2015

I wouldn't bring my younger children to the u/s, I don't think it's appropriate and your husband will likely end up having to wrangle him/entertain him instead of enjoying the appointment. Also, heaven forbid they find anything, you'll want plenty of time to ask questions, process, etc. - which would probably be hard with another child there. Just all around not a good idea.

I'm sure they'll print out all the pictures you want if you ask.

hswan26 · January 2015

My DD will be 4 next month. She came to the A/S earlier this evening. She was very well behaved.

katyertl · January 2015

I worked at an OB office and it was obnoxious for the techs to deal with having some kids in the room with the parents. Most of the time the parents were too busy worrying about their child and having to worry about what they were doing. Some kids even pulled on cords and tried Crawling on their mom. The AS is a long ultrasound. I guess every child is different and you know better of how your child is going to act. Just think though that the techs are trying to do the best job that they can and any distractions to you or them is just making things harder.
Just my honest opinion but if you want to then by all means do it don't let our opinions keep you from it

leenziepops · January 2015

I personally would only want DH there for his full attention. DS could definitely be a potential distraction. Also depends on how well he can behave.

scprincessrn · January 2015

I thought about bringing DD to the a/s but decided against it. She doesn't sit still for long periods of time well. She is a VERY active child and is in a constant state of motion. We decided to have my parents watch her and DH and I are going to have a midday date after the scan (lunch, matinee movie, etc). We haven't had a date in almost a year.

No personal experience with c-section, but I ditto others about RLP. It has been much worse this time for me.

mmo2112 · January 2015

#1 - Prefacing by saying that this is a bit of a horror story, and I DOUBT anything like it would happen to you, but I think it's worth considering what you'd do if something went wrong:

When I was ~6 and my brother was ~4, my mom took us to a first tri ultrasound. They showed us the baby on the screen, but the tech couldn't find the heartbeat. The doctor came in, poked around a little, and everything just got really quiet. They stopped the U/S and took us into another room, where they told all three of us that she'd lost the baby.

I seriously remember every detail of that appointment; it was traumatic to say the least, and I'm sure if my mom could do it over again, she would've left us at home.

Obviously your situation is VERY different--you're way further along, your son is younger, etc. It's just something else to consider.

Maybe waiting until DS can feel the baby kick would be a better way to make it more real for him?

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Also, totally unrelated, but did your username change?

thelittlestbee · January 2015

I see a lot of couples bringing their small children to the Perinatologist's office where I get my ultrasounds. Most of the time, the husband is having to babysit the kid and/or take them outside because the kids get pretty restless. I've seen this happen on a few occasions. I think if you want your DH's undivided attention during the A/S, maybe leave your LO at home. You can always show him the pictures when you get back.

I can't answer the second part of your questions because I'm a FTM.

tinybugsmom · January 2015

Make sure to ask about DS being there. My OB/MW office has posted signs asking children under 12 not to come during cold flu, and letting patients know the hospital does not allow them, even siblings, to visit at all right now.

So call to find out. But it is also long... mine will be about an hour. So that is something to consider.

Schnurette · January 2015

I took DD to my dating u/s and she was amazing - she sat on the end of the bed and patted my legs and told me everything was okay, which was adorable. DH couldn't come so she filled in. I will be taking her and DH to my a/s tomorrow. I guess a lot of it is knowing your kid though, DD is really good about being calm and quiet as long as she is close to DH or I.

Re the CS thing, I have had some weird feelings and pressure but it seems to move around a lot. I had freaked myself out because the first couple of times it seemed really concentrated on the c scar but I think it was just a coincidence.

Katerina&Baby · January 2015

Just an idea - why doesn't DH videotape a short clip of the baby bouncing around during the U/S on his phone? The movement will help DS1 connect with the fact that there is actually a little baby in there a bit better than just a still picture (though the combination would be great) AND you can leave DS1 home (just in case something is wrong or he gets antsy during the appointment, etc).

mamayo26 · January 2015

Thanks Ladies all valid points. I did ask and as long as DH is there I can bring DS. He is pretty well behaved and if there is a screen with pictures he usually pretty attentive. I also have a back up plan in case he gets restless. My A/S scan is not nearly as long as some of you are saying your's are (an hour---wow!) If I remember correctly mine was only about 15 minutes last time. DS also came to my 16 wk appt and heard the heartbeat and was amazed and super well behaved.

I asked DH his opinion and is fine with it, so I think we are going to take him. I'm not concerned about "bad" news as (thankfully) all my tests have come back low/no risk. I know there is still a chance, but worrying about it won't be good for me or the LO, so I try not to worry until I am told I have something to worry about.

Again want to thank you all for your opinions on both my questions, you definetly brought up things I hadn't thought about.

@mmo2112 I did change my username as many mom's on the name board were sending out warnings about providing the fn and ln (my LN was in my user name) due to stalkers and crazy people, and due to personal issues in the past I thought it was best to change it...I did it several weeks ago, before the new rules hammer came down.

tahitiandreamin · January 2015

We took DD to our a/s. Mine was an hour long, which is too long to expect a 3 year old to sit peacefully so we had our iPad as a diversion. She watched her baby sister and played on the iPad and was great. We couldn't have done it without the iPad though.

Ravenclaw314 · January 2015

My DH doesn't get off work til late in the day, so DS is usually with us for ultrasounds. It hasn't posed an issue.
When DS was two, he was there with us for the u/s which told us ds2 had died; and he was there during the d&c. He didn't understand all the crying, but having him there was kind of nice for me, and he didn't get in the way of anyone since DH was there, too.

mamayo26 · January 2015

@Ravenclaw314 I'm sorry for your loss, but really appreciate you being so open about your experience!

nicnnatesmom · January 2015

We've always taken our kids to u/s. I've been with my ob for 14 yrs though. And she has her own sono tech. My OB is also married to my kids pedi. It's a very family oriented practice. My kids have always been very well behaved. (Expecting baby #5) and enjoy seeing baby on the screen. They have a huge flat screen set up to watch the u/s on. Plus we bring their iPads incase they do get board.

enjoylife · January 2015

We will bring DS 1 since he's 4 and is curious about the baby, pregnancy,etc and is well behaved. We will have an iPad or iPhone with his apps on it if the scan runs long or for when the doctor appt starts so we can focus on the results. Ds2 is my wild child lol and he will be staying home with either my sister or the sitter. I think as long as your DH is there and you have backup distractions shouldn't be an issue.

devyns2nd · January 2015

I'm taking DD age 4 and my SD that's 18 she will look after her for us.

tiffbot1985 · January 2015

Up until about 3 hours ago we were going to bring DS because we had no other option. We live an hour out of the city and he has dr appt right before my a/s. He's 18 months.

Then I was talking to my ILs today (who live a couple hours away) and with my grandpa's recent passing and funeral also on Monday, they want to help us out where we can and are able to come into the city with us and take care of him while we have our appointment! I feel so relieved! He's way too busy to have in that little room and I am happy H won't have to have all his focus on him.

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