Reminder - this is a loss board (we do not need to give warnings for losses)

buggirl72 · January 2015

Hey ladies! I think it's awesome so many want to keep this community safe but you really do not need to put a warning in a thread title that you are mentioning a loss.

Think about it - loss is in our name.

Most thread titles let a person know what the general gist of a post is going to be about. People expect an intro to include a mention of the person's loss history. This also goes to questions about TTCAL things. For example, if I saw a post titled "Questions about my D&C", I would rationally and reasonably expect the OP for that post to mention not only their D&C but their loss. A warning that loss is mentioned is unnecessary.

If for some reason the OP feels like they need to go into graphic detail on their loss and there is worry about possible triggers then I think stating in the body of their post that they are going to go into graphic detail is enough - but I also think the OP should really figure out if they need to go into graphic detail if they are that worried it will traumatize those reading their post.

Just remember that over warning makes the board an incredibly unpleasant place for many of us and produces its own anxiety and stress when you see ****warning**** . We have had long time supportive members leave because of the feeling that the board was no longer "safe" because a vast majority of the posts had "warning" in their titles.

rmpar29 · January 2015

Thanks for the reminder @buggirl72!

meredithcarole · January 2015

Bump

megrae12 · January 2015

@PetraStonegirl I seriously PPH you!! I hate you have pneumonia. Feel better soon, love.

Km380 · January 2015

@PetraStonegirl‌ feel better! And you have quite the way with words, love it!

Nikolie93 · January 2015

@petrastonegirl You do have a way with words

Hope you feel better, sorry it's pneumonia.

buggirl72 · January 2015

@PetraStonegirl‌, pneumonia? I kindly request that 2015 stops kicking you in the ass. I hope you get plenty of rest and get feeling better soon.

mrswheelo · January 2015

Feel better soon @PetraStonegirl‌ ! Discussing the loss of a child is always tough on a mother, for many reasons. I'm glad that, here at least, shame is not one of those reasons.

buggirl72 · January 2015

bluedaisy0627 said:

jj32 said:

@petrastonegirl I hope you feel better soon. I hate that you are sick. Thank you and @buggirl72 for the reminders. You said it all so well. Why does our society make us feel shammed? I had a friend tell me next time I may get pregnant, I shouldn't announce it early because of what happened last time. I asked why it was her business, and she said to save me the embarrassment of having to let everyone know if I had another loss. Embarrassment?! WTF is wrong with people.

Same thing happened to me. I was told that 1. I shouldn't have told anyone "because of what happened last time." 2. The person was glad I was going to be on the bench because she didn't think I was ready to be a parent...

Feel better, @PetraStonegirl! Well said, as usual, @buggirl72

Holy fuck! Did you tell them that they are not ready to be a human?

Fuck that worthless whore of a person.

And, for what it is worth, you are a parent. You are Nathan's mom and nobody can take that away from you.

dandb925 · January 2015

@jj32 - screw that, I wouldn't call that person a friend.

@bluedaisy0627, just ((hugs)) your way - @buggirl72 said it best, that's just ridiculous.

@petrastonegirl, beautifully said!!! I held my head up a little higher after reading that. Hope you feel better soon! Pneumonia is no joke.

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