Bringing dinner - poll

Re: Bringing dinner - poll

• CnAnA member

  January 2015

  Friends brought dinner, stayed to coo over A, then left.  Family/close friends stayed and never ever left. LOL  

  
  

  Tomorrow, however, I am going to see my friend, and she asked that I stay for a while since it's her first day completely alone with the baby.  So I'm gonna crash her kitchen and make a few freezer meals there.

  

  After 7 years of no ovulation...
  BFP#1 10/24/11 ~ EDD 6/29/12 ~ Natural m/c 11/2/11
  BFP#2 2/3/12 ~ Alice born 9/26/12

  
  

  
  
  

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• Cbeanz member

  January 2015

  I'm asking because we had some people offering to bring dinner, but I never know what to expect, or what shape the house should be in.  Like, do I need to get some more chairs?  Should I move all the kid furniture out of the living room?  Do I need to clear my calendar for the entire evening because you are going to stay for 5 hours, mess up my toddler's bedtime and my newborn's feeding schedule????  Sigh.
  

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• Cbeanz member

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  @CnAna - I completely get family staying forever.  The people I'm wondering about are H's friends and coworkers so I have no clue what their plans are.
  
  ETA: That's really sweet of you to make freezer meals while you're there!
  

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• CnAnA member

  January 2015

  Dude, you just had a baby.  You keep your house in whatever shape you have it in.  If they don't like it, they can leave.  And you do your regular schedule.  I am a firm believer that when visiting a house with a newborn, you should expect to be pretty much ignored while Mom figures out what the crap is going on.  They should be waiting on you, not the other way around.

  

  After 7 years of no ovulation...
  BFP#1 10/24/11 ~ EDD 6/29/12 ~ Natural m/c 11/2/11
  BFP#2 2/3/12 ~ Alice born 9/26/12

  
  

  
  
  

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• scrumpfy member

  January 2015

  I generally leave the food/gift,?hold the baby for a bit, then leave, unless they ASK me to stay.
  
  I did, on occasion, ask people to stay when I was on leave. I just wanted someone to talk to that wasn't a baby. And someone to hold the baby while I went pee, etc.

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• chricast member

  January 2015

  Maybe say "that sounds wonderful but we are really not ready to entertain (or ready for company) quite yet". They can either take that as drop food off and run or not send anything at all. Random people never made us food because are we are pretty out of the way from everyone we know. Mostly our parents and my best friend. My sister had people bring her meals and they would just drop and run.

                   
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Cbeanz member

  January 2015

  I'm ok with anyone staying for like, an hour.  It's the marathon visits that stress me out.
  

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• StefanieM522 member

  January 2015

  I drop.food off, see if i can help.do anything for them and then.leave.

  
                  
  

                 
  
  
  

  
  

  
  
  
  
  

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