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First Kidless Vacation

lulamagoolulamagoo member
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Happy Friday!
So, we are heading to Mexico sans kiddo in a few weeks.  My mom will be flying in to take care of our little guy.  I am a stay at home mom and our parents all live in another state, so I have never been away from DS aside from date night.  
Do you guys have any advice to make this as easy as possible for my mom, DS, and me?

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Re: First Kidless Vacation

  • this decaf lifethis decaf life member
    DH & I went on a vacation without DD in November and it was awesome! Honestly, I was a little worried on the flight but it was so much fun once we landed to know we didn't have to worry about DD for a few days. We're going on another trip without DD in February!

    We kept in mind that now that DD is older she is pickier and won't necessarily enjoy what we enjoy. She's taken lots of trips with us but Siem Reap isn't very kid friendly and we want to do lots of hiking on our next trip and knew she just wouldn't enjoy it as much as she'd like staying with her friends at home.
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  • court115court115 member
    edited January 2015
    We've never taken a trip away from DS but we've done lots of overnights. My parents live about an hour and a half south of us in a resort-y town so DS goes down there a lot. My only advice is to make sure your mom knows your routine and what your LO likes or doesn't like. Other than that, just try to relax. In my experience, it's always harder on momma than on baby. DS loves his time with his grandparents and DH and I love our time together. Mexico will be great for all of you! Have a great time :)
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  • OhBaby+2013OhBaby+2013 member
    I agree with @court115‌ it's harder on you than anyone! DH and I went to Mexico last January kid free and we've left DS with my parents for at least 2 other weeks since! The hardest part is the initial separation. I found I was mostly ok once we got to the airport. I suggest giving yourself some buffer time between when you have to be at the airport and your goodbye. You will want some time to pull it together! Lol! Definitely make sure your mom knows the routine and has what she needs ( like favourite foods). For me I found it easier to go either once I'd put DS down for a nap or when he was driving away in the car. If found that these two situations made it easier for me to go because I knew he needed to get down for his nap or he was going somewhere (my sister picked him up from our place when we went to Mexico). The other advice I have....do not call or Skype with him while you are gone. it will only upset everyone. If your mom is ok with texting ask her to send you a picture everyday. That helped me feel ok about being gone because I could see he was happy and playing. Then i didn't feel guilty about leaving him behind and having an AWESOME vacation with my DH. Enjoy your trip! I LOVE Mexico! If you are heading to the Mayan riviera and are looking for any suggestions on things to do let me know I've been 3 times in the last 6 years and done something different every time. I'm super jealous!
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  • this decaf lifethis decaf life member
    I agree with @OhBaby+2013 - no Skype. We didn't even try Skyping but I don't think it would have helped at all. My parents just kept telling DD that "mom and dad are at work" she said DD just sort of accepted that as a reasonable answer, even though I only work part time. LOs sort of lack the concept of time so it was NBD to her.
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  • spainy17spainy17 member
    OK good I felt like a crappy parent but I purposely didn't talk to her on the phone or skype.  I have done that on overnights before and it makes it so much worse for them because she didn't get it and then wanted mom.  When we went to Chicago in the fall my mom watched her and she just kept saying that we were there and that we would always come home to her.  It worked fine.  Much worse on mom and dad than baby. :)
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  • lulamagoolulamagoo member
    Thanks ladies.  The no FaceTime is sound advice, just have to convince DH.  He travels a ton for work so he is used to face timing DS at least twice a day when on work travel.
    My mom is in town 5 days before we leave to get to know the routine.  I guess I am most worried that he will think I have abandoned him.  (Totally irrational on my end, I know)  
    @OhBaby+2013 we are going to the Mayan Riviera, we have been a few times but are always looking for new things to try.

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