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Possible Trigger Warning - My daughter's friend lost her dad

aly&jjaly&jj member
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I am so devastated right now, and can not shake this awful feeling. I just found out that my 2 year old's classmate's father was killed this weekend. What's making it worse is that his wife is pregnant and due in 2 weeks. All day long I have had the strangest feelings, and weird things kept happening. I told my husband about how I was feeling, and not 10 minutes later I hear this news. I have mild issues with anxiety, and this has shot my anxiety through the roof. I'm having trouble going to bed, so I thought I'd come here and get it off my chest. I can't stop thinking about how his 3 little girls are feeling right now. 
DD 1 - Aug. 2010
DD 2 - Jan. 2013
Baby Boy -  EDD April 12, 2015




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  • aly&jjaly&jj member
    Yes I will talk to someone tomorrow. I just heard about it so late this evening and it's really weighing heavily on my heart. He had 3 little girls and one on the way. I can't even begin to imagine what his wife is going through.
    DD 1 - Aug. 2010
    DD 2 - Jan. 2013
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  • AMSharkAMShark member
    That's terrible news - I think it would keep me up at night too.
    I agree, talking with someone will help. Your daughter may need to talk to someone too - this could be hard for her to deal with .
    Your empathy & your ability to care for others is what makes you human. You have a big heart and it's natural for you to be concerned for the widow & mother to be.

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  • VeggieFanVeggieFan member
    T&P to that family, I can't even imagine that. So sad.
                                                                     
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  • KatyInNHKatyInNH member
    Oh no, those poor little girls. That's just awful.

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  • bowman958bowman958 member
    What a tragedy, I'm so sorry to hear of this. My heart goes out to his wife and their little ones. I hope you will be able to be a good support to them.
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  • deanafairburndeanafairburn member
    edited January 2015
    Oh my - I can't even imagine...I don't know about you but my anxiety has been crazier than normal throughout my pregnancy. I hope you're taking rest and destress time seriously, for both you and your little one. T&P for you and this young family!

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  • hillbillywifehillbillywife member
    So sad!
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  • mfouillardmfouillard member
    I could not imagine going through anything like that. It's a good thing you will be going to talk to someone - it will help you feel better. I am sending T&P to you all!
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  • aly&jjaly&jj member
    At drop off today I'm going to talk to the
    director of our school to see if they plan on doing something for the family. It's going to be a very sad morning : (. He was always the one to drop his girls off.
    DD 1 - Aug. 2010
    DD 2 - Jan. 2013
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  • aly&jjaly&jj member
    Thank you all for the T&P for the family.
    DD 1 - Aug. 2010
    DD 2 - Jan. 2013
    Baby Boy -  EDD April 12, 2015




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  • HZ2012HZ2012 member
    So sad, I'm sorry to hear that. I'm sorry about your anxiety also, I can relate. Just try to talk about your feelings as much as possible, and hold your loved ones close. Maybe doing something special for his wife would help you, as well as helping her? Not sure what, but something that pays a tribute to him?
    T's and P's headed your way.
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  • ScarlettgScarlettg member
    So sorry to hear about that poor little girl and her mother.  And I totally understand your anxiety.  After my father died I was afraid that every phone call would be news that someone else was gone, too, and I was 28 and not pregnant when that happened.  I agree with @HZ2012- doing something to help the widow may help you both feel better.  She'll need support long after the funeral is over, and you both may make a good friend in the process.  Either way, talking to a therapist is not a bad idea either.  
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  • JlottermanJlotterman member
    I can't even imagine what his family is feeling right now. I would be consumed by the news as well. T&P's for his family.
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