How Do You Adapt?

Re: How Do You Adapt?

• DebateThis member

  January 2015

  I am not at all a fan of CIO, for the record, but putting your kid in a safe place (play pen or crib) for 15 minutes away from you so you can breathe/clean/eat is NOT going to break her at 14-15 mos old.
  
  FWIW, Henry needs around 15-20 minutes to yell at me and disengage before he falls asleep (whether it's for a nap or bedtime). He never really cries - he just likes to yell, then talk to himself, then play with a few stuffed animals, then sing, and then he will curl up and fall asleep. Maybe your DD just needs a breather on her own. It took me several months before I realized that if I intervene at all,  it only prolongs the winding down process and it will actually make him mad and THEN he cries. Any chance you've gotten stuck in a similar rut?
  

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• Kfran84 member

  January 2015

  See @cagoldi's post about A not napping lately. Some babies are shifting to a one-nap schedule and it's just kind of a weird time for naps around here. 

  
  

  Someone (klongoria) had success skipping the AM nap since it was getting so short anyway and moving to just one earlier nap after lunch and getting more sleep total as a result. 

  
  

  I suck at naps so I can't help.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• mamasoup030 member

  January 2015

  Great advice above, I also am pregnant with #2. It was difficult but I let a lot go in the first months of this pregnancy in regards to cleaning and cooking and focused on what had to be done to preserve my energy. Your energy will return!
  
  In regards to nursing, at about that point in my pregnancy my milk started to drop off, my LO noticed before I did and became very unhappy with the amount of milk she was getting. We weaned gradually at that point. It was a natural process for me and it worked for her and I, neither of us was happy with our nursing relationship anymore. I know other ladies here have had similar experiences with their pregnancies too and their milk supply.
  
  Wishing you the best of luck and I hope you come out of lurking more often, we don't bite! Promise!

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• Ealdwic member

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  Thanks, guys. I felt pretty beat down when I posted this. Still doesn't resolve the ongoing issues but the short-term ones feel less huge. Haha.
  
  As for the nursing aversion, I'm actually the one getting it. DD is nursing happily away almost 5 times per day and 1-2 per night, still. It's me that's encountering the sore nipples/tender breasts and the toe-curling irritation and crawly feeling I read about awhile back. I get this creeping feeling, especially when I'm fighting her on her nap time, and it's all I can do not to just quit nursing, ungh. I know it's common with a lot of moms, especially when they're also preggo, but still. Definitely hard to handle sometimes!
  
  I've never heard of a glow worm. I'll look into it and see if it exists here! (We live in Canada, so I don't think I've ever seen/heard of it but it sounds worth the look up)
  
  Well, CIO to me is leaving them for a lengthy time and not going in to console or check in on them... I suppose I mean unsupported crying, then. I leave her for 10 minutes and she just gets worse. I can hear her wailing away and she never calms down and goes to sleep. The only time I've done a real CIO was when she was about 7 months and teething like MAD one night, and I could not do anything more and was growing so exhausted trying to get her to bed. I left her for 45 minutes of hard crying and she cried herself out. I felt awful. I haven't done it since, but I will go 20 or 30 minutes sometimes when I just don't know what else to try. Yesterday was better, but today is the same. She just won't stay asleep. I had her down and then ten minutes later she abruptly woke up and didn't go back down. I nurse her to sleep but she'll just sit up and squirm and try to leave the room when she's like this. It's so tiringgg.
  
  But yeah, she just has the one nap per day, usually 2-3 hours tops, and she sleeps decently at night. She'll wake up for a feed around 4 AM and then back out til almost 9 AM sometimes. It's just this day thing that's not working anymore, lol. I wish I could stay up all night and get things done but I'd probably die. :b
  
  Well, my fiance gives me help when he's home. I don't get a break, but I get the support... It's really complicated though and would be a longwinded thing to get into but yeah, having a partner that can take over is always a nice treat.
  

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• Ealdwic member

  January 2015

  Yeah, I've been wanting to invest in a toddler Hawk. They're amazing. My two carriers are too flimsy for her now, lol. I have a stretchy wrap and a ring sling, and even though the ring sling is good up to 50 lbs, it does a number on my back and neck! So painful. I'm hoping to get a good one soon.
  
  She's pretty good with helping me, I will say that. I think I'm just really feeling the pressure to be supermom because of the pregnancy and my endless issues with living in a cluttered house.

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• Ealdwic member

  January 2015

  Oh yes, I've tried everything. I have two shifted vertibrae in my neck from a fall as a child and chronic knots, so not much solves that area's issues, lol. It's just not a good match for my messed up shoulders!
  
  Yeah, de cluttering would be beautiful. We have so much stuff it eats this tiny apartment and then some.

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