Sister's destination wedding - WWYD LONG, sorry

Meggiemuggins · January 2015

Hi ladies, I'd like your opinion on something. My sister's getting married in Curacao in early March. My mom can't go because she'll be having chemo (God willing) and radiation. My dad is almost totally blind, so HE can't go either, since navigating a hotel will be impossible without my mom there.

DH doesn't want to go, he never has. It's very expensive, we have a tornado of a toddler to cope with, and he thinks that all my time will be spent in wedding-stuff prep and he'll be on his own with DS. I've told him that it's going to be like other weddings I've been in, where there are a thousand things to do like showers and breakfasts for the girls, etc. but he won't believe me. (I'm her only attendant)

anyways, last night in bed, I thought, why don't DH and DS stay home and I'll go and room with my dad and look after him?
Here are the pros:
OMG, I'll actually get to sit and read on the beach!
I won't have to babysit DH, who has trouble in social situations sometimes, whereas I thrive
It will cost about half

Cons:
I'll miss them both terribly.

As far as I can tell, that's the only con. I haven't told anyone about this, or asked DH if he'd rather parent DS solo at home. I bet he would, though. DS is supposed to be in the wedding, but when it comes down to it, I bet she'd rather have her dad than her nephew there.

Thanks for reading this far, WDYT, leave them behind or drag them along?

kelly321 · January 2015

Yep. When it's the other way around, I am so much happier staying home to solo parent then being dragged along somewhere and then having to figure out sleeping and meals in a strange place, strange room, etc. So if I were you, I would ask DH what he thinks. If he's like me, he'll jump at the chance to get to avoid all the stress of traveling with a toddler (please see my posts from mid-December...

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SummerLove21 · January 2015

Leave 'em sounds good to me. It would be wonderful if your sister could have at least one parent there, and it sounds like it would be less stressful for you.

ally2011 · January 2015

I would absolutely go on your own with your dad given everything you outlined. Your sister will appreciate the support and you will be free to focus on her and help your dad. Hugs to you for all you are dealing with!

holly321 · January 2015

I think you should go with your dad.

wineandcake · January 2015

I would go with dad. I know to me it would be much more important to have my sister and dad there instead of My BIL.

tamarar5 · January 2015

Go with your dad! Have fun and enjoy a vacation!

JumpAroundBucky · January 2015

Go with your dad! You deserve a vacation. Plus, it's nice to miss them a little sometimes. It makes the "welcome home" hugs that much better.

TarheelMama202 · January 2015

Go with your dad! That will be so nice for both of you to be there for your sister. I know your dad will really appreciate you going and helping him out, and your sister will love having both of you there. Plus, you'll get a little vacation-- and no matter how much you will miss your guys, all of us mamas totally deserve a little vacay every once in a while! I say go for it.

kleigh926 · January 2015

If your H is okay with staying home with DS, I'd definitely leave them at home and go with your dad. Especially considering your H doesn't even want to go and the expense being cut in half. I totally understand the whole problem of having a socially-challenged H too... it's like pulling teeth to get mine to do something with anyone other than family.

mishka29 · January 2015

Do it!

Rosebean · January 2015

OMG go go go go go go go go go! Go and enjoy and have a lovely family moment. If your DH is down for it, your dad will probably really appreciate it and you will get some well earned YOU time! DO IT!!!!

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