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swise22swise22 member
in October 2014 Moms
So we're in this horrible sleep regression and I feel like I'm at my wits end. I don't know what to do and wondering if anyone has any advice. DS used to be a sleep unicorn and would STTN and now he's waking up every 2 hours. It takes me 2+ hours to get him to bed at night even though he's exhausted and he wakes up constantly. I offer him milk, a pacifier, and try to rock him but nothing works. All he wants is to sleep next to me in bed. As soon as I lay him down next to me he is out cold after about 20 seconds. No matter how deep of a sleep he gets into, he wakes up as soon as I transfer him to his own bed. I can't sleep next to him because I sleep too deep at night and am afraid I'll roll on him. I need some help! I know that he's too young to CIO so do I just keep pulling him into my bed with me at night? I feel like he's just developing horrible sleep habits by doing that and I can't get any sleep when he's in my bed. 
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  • Leysin97Leysin97 member
    How old is he? My LO is 3 months now and going through something very similar. She sleeps fine if she's in my arms or next to me but as soon as I put her in her crib she screams. It's a process to get her down. I have learned the longer I hold her and longer she's asleep the better luck I have putting her down. Sorry you're going through this. BTW at what age should it be OK to let them CIO?
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    Leysin97 said:
    How old is he? My LO is 3 months now and going through something very similar. She sleeps fine if she's in my arms or next to me but as soon as I put her in her crib she screams. It's a process to get her down. I have learned the longer I hold her and longer she's asleep the better luck I have putting her down. Sorry you're going through this. BTW at what age should it be OK to let them CIO?
    He'll be 4 months next week. The past 2 weeks he actually hates to be held for naps or sleep. He wants to be in his swing for naps but for bedtime he wants to be next to me touching my face. In order to do this though he's propped up from his back up to his head on my pillow next to me and I just feel like this isn't safe and I'm scared I'm going to roll on him or he'll roll off the pillow. I had always heard not to let him CIO until 6 months but I'm not sure of that.  
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    That's good to know that some babies can start at 4 months. He just used to be such a good sleeper and now it's terrible. The worst part is I know he doesn't want anything except laying next to me which, unfortunately, I just don't feel comfortable with sleeping like that all night. I used to swaddle him and tried a sleep sack but he will only sleep if he can sprawl out. He usually just ends up kicking out of the swaddle or crying until I unswaddle him. I try to feed him or give him his pacifier but he just shakes his head and fights it. It's just so frustrating because the one thing he wants is the one thing I don't feel comfortable doing  :(
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    And I hate to let him fuss and cry. It just breaks my heart so I feel like I have no options here! This is so hard!
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  • SlapdashaliceSlapdashalice member
    One thing that helped us to sneak her into the crib was putting a heat pad in there for 10-15 minutes before we put her down.  Then we would pull it out and place her on the warm spot.  It makes them feel like they are still close to your body heat.
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  • swise22swise22 member
    So it's 2:30 am and he is still awake. I'm losing it and DH is no help. This is insane.
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  • TheFutureMrs.OTheFutureMrs.O member
    We are going through the exact same thing at 3months. I seriously got 3 hrs of sleep one night. She slept for a few straight hours in the rock n play last night. We transitioned her weeks ago but I was desperate for sleep. Other than that, I got nothing. We've ttried it all. The only thing that made her happy is to be on our chest. As soon as you put her down. Bam. Awake.

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  • swise22swise22 member
    I'm praying they grow out of this soon because I definitely need to get some sleep. He finally went to sleep around 3 and woke himself up 2 hours later with a poopsplosion. I started crying so DH finally took over. He takes such good naps in his swing during the day that I'm contemplating moving that into the room and having him sleep in there.
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  • serenbachserenbach member
    I've got nothing that others haven't already said, Apart from that I am anxiously waiting for DS to start this.

    I don't co-sleep (I would if I needed to) I know a lot of people do and I've seen it mentioned on the board a lot and lots of tips on how to make it safe which might be worth looking into. As others have said, don't worry about bad sleep habits yet just do what you can to maintain your sanity. Good luck.
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  • lrobi13lrobi13 member
    Big hugs. Maybe the cosleeper side crib thing that hooks to your bed but had some railings to keep you from rolling over could work. That way baby can be next to you but protected from you rolling over. Hope your unicorn returns soon.
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  • sweetsurprise2014sweetsurprise2014 member
    I would try the swing. I was trying to avoid it at night to prevent bad habits but it's worth it to me that we all get some sleep. My DS now sleeps in it every night and his sleep improved dramatically.
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    Thanks so much everyone for helping keep my sanity. I'm definitely going to look into safe cosleeping options. I pulled him into bed with me around 4:30 and he slept for 4 hours so I was able to finally get some sleep. We'll just take it day by day and hopefully he'll start sleeping on his own again soon. At least the baby snuggles make it a little easier :x
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  • angeltennis3angeltennis3 member
    I know it's tough now, but your baby's sleep habits will change, they always do. So even though it is tough now, it will get better! I am of the mind set that sleep is most important, so if your LO needs to co sleep or needs to sleep in a swing, then do it. Maybe instead try encouraging naps in the crib during the day when you have more patience to help your LO get comfortable sleeping there again.
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    kfitzguerra said:

    Consider one of those little bassinet things that goes in the bed with you? That way you can't roll over on him.

    I've tried the bassinet in the bed but he doesn't like that either because he isn't touching me. I'm looking into sidecarring his crib to my bed so I can lay next to him until he falls asleep and then just roll back. That way he's still in bed with me but in his own space. I just have to figure out how to get the heights to match up.
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  • 2goingon32goingon3 member
    Sleep with a receiving blanket for a couple nights so it smells like you, and then lay him in the crib on top of it and play some white noise or turn on a fan.
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  • starybstaryb member
    We're going through this too and it sucks. DD only wants to nap on me during the day and at night it takes multiple attempts to put her down. She keeps going down for 30 minute naps around 7pm and 10pm and then if I'm lucky I get her down for maybe 2 hours around 1am. She was sleeping great for weeks before this, it's driving me crazy and DH says that I need to sort it out :-w

    I'm sorry, I know I'm no help. I can't co sleep at night either, DH moves way too much in his sleep and there's just no way to do it safely.

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    2goingon3 said:
    Sleep with a receiving blanket for a couple nights so it smells like you, and then lay him in the crib on top of it and play some white noise or turn on a fan.
    I do have white noise on while he sleeps but I haven't tried the blanket idea yet. I may have to try that too. If it doesn't work, my dad is going to come over tomorrow and help me sidecar the crib to my bed. Tonight I'm going to try the swing. He hasn't taken a nap all day today and finally crashed about 2 hours ago in his swing and is still sleeping. Normally I wouldn't let him sleep this long this late but he's so peaceful right now.
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  • Klavanga74Klavanga74 member
    Hey there, Mama...still feeling your pain, although I really think our LO is in major discomfort due to gas and reflux so can't wait to see the ped on Monday. Check out troublesometots.com. Did I give you that advice already? If yes, sorry. If not, I like her writing and her approach seems pretty common sense. I think she recs CIO only for getting to sleep and not until 6 months so you can take it or leave it on that, but she has good advice on the swing transition, too. I dud end up letting both of my older two CIO at some point along the way when it was dire straits. They are both happy and healthy and I've asked them...neither has any recollection of crying at night. That said, if I let this one cry, I will need to be sitting with the other two to remind myself that she won't remember. Hang in there, I promise It will get better!
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  • Klavanga74Klavanga74 member
    The receiving blanket reminded me...I used to take a t-shirt I'd slept in recently a and put it under DS's sheet right under him. Can't remember if it worked. Mama's boys...
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  • CynthiaVReyCynthiaVRey member
    I feel your pain especially when you said you cried
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  • CynthiaVReyCynthiaVRey member
    https://community.babycenter.com/post/a5417415/how_to_successfully_teach_a_baby_to_sleep_-_3rd_ed.
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  • CynthiaVReyCynthiaVRey member
    https://community.babycenter.com/post/a525845/dreamfeeding_prevents_nightwaking
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