Night Time Feeding Poll

MrsAdventure · January 2015

Who's in charge of the night time feeding, you or SO?

MrsAdventure · January 2015

DH is deaf in one ear and he sleeps on his good ear a lot, so he doesn't hear Pips. Even if he were to offer to take the nights, I'd wake up first 90% of the time anyhow. And since Pips usually eats around 4am, I feed her and put her back to sleep, then pump for at least a half hour. Basically, I'd be up anyhow. I do wish I could take naps during the day though. I don't think I'll ever master napping when she naps.

skschumacher · January 2015

DH feeds her a bottle of fortified BM while I pump, so I voted 50/50.

mander82 · January 2015

formula feeding here.....I still do the nightshift. DH has done it once, then he made the mistake of staying up after LO's 3 AM feeding, then he was cranky cause he was tired. Um. No Shit. Go back to sleep at 4 AM......derp.

sweetbabyrahe · January 2015

I said EBF so me, but actually I usually feed twice and DH does a BM bottle once while I pump so I can go back to bed quicker

DisneyDee1984 · January 2015

I voted SS because I'm in charge during the week, since I'm still on maternity leave. During the weekend, I get up to bf, and DH does the formula feeds. (We do both bf and ff, more ff then bf now)

mrsransom · January 2015

I chose SS. I am still on maternity leave, so on work nights, I do it so DH can sleep since he has to work & I don't. On weekend nights, we share. When I go back to work in 1.5 weeks, we will share.

missnacholover · January 2015

We take turns, but really, he does more than me. FF here.

kstirton · January 2015

I said ss here, since we haven't had a motn feeding for over a month now, I really got lucky, I know. However, since im still on maternity leave, I would get up and do the mornings with her. If anything dh will stay up with her after her last feeding at night and wait until she falls asleep and ill go to bed.

BridgetThoams · January 2015

I EBF so what is the point of H waking up too. Plus he is working while I'm home with LO until we figure out my work situation. Plus H has been away for a month now so really I do it all

howin23 · January 2015

Hubby feeds her at 3am with a pumped bottle and probiotics (have to do a bottle twice a day to add those). I still get up to pump though, and I feed her at 11pm and 7am.

Dumbgurl04 · January 2015

I said 50/50 (we FF) he does the super early 5-7 feeding during the week because I am leaving for work at that time. But it seems during the weekends its all me.

JFH2010 · January 2015

@Econosaurus I'm getting angry just reading that. NO.

I said just me, but DH does take LO every morning starting sometime between 5:30 and 6:30, and then I sleep for two more hours. LO doesn't usually need to eat during that time but occasionally he does.

sparklingwhit · January 2015

Right now DH gets up with Cam every night, all night. That will change in 2 weeks when his paternity leave is over and we will go to 50/50, but right now I'm working and he's not and I need my sleep

missnacholover · January 2015

Econosaurus said:

I EBF but husband refuses to do a middle of the night bottle feed. Otherwise I would try to split the sleepless joy a lite. I made him a bottle the other night and instead of him taking the baby away from the RNP on my side of my bed he just plopped down next to it. Baby refused and cried. We fought. I ended up feeding him as always. He insists his sleep is more important than mine because I can take care of our child on three to four hours of uninterrupted sleep but he can't possibly to work on less than seven solid hours because it's unsafe.

Has he had the baby solo for a full day yet? Methinks if he hasn't, perhaps he should so he realizes just how much work it is.

Alid86 · January 2015

@Econosaurus‌ - kinda right there with you - DH welds on natural gas lines so I get that it's dangerous work and he has to be on the ball but still frustrating since my older child doesn't nap so it's not like I can nap when baby naps - I EBF but helping with night diapers would be great! That said he does help more on weekends.
I'm just trying to remember that this stage doesn't last that long in hindsight and this is our last baby (sometimes this works sometimes I'm too tired to believe it haha)

AnnieRoo13 · January 2015

I EBF so it's just me. When we first came home from the hospital DH was sweet and would get up with me...and promptly fall asleep on the floor of lO's room. I've told him to stay in bed. He works 12 hour shifts and drives an hour away for work so I would prefer he was well rested. Also I'm on mat leave so I don't need to go to work in the morning.

KMW08 · January 2015

I voted SS.

LO usually eats at 10-11pm, then again at 1-3am and again 4-6am.

The 10-11pm is whoever as we are both generally awake, but typically dh. 1-3am is usually me. The 4-6am depends on when baby wakes since dh gets ready for work at 6am.

When I go back to work I think it'll pretty much stay this way. Depending on when baby wakes 1-3am, dh might have to start doing this. There'll be no way I can work 11hrs doing both those early feeds.

smboswell1 · January 2015

I do it all. Woohoo:(

MrsAdventure · January 2015

Econosaurus said:

I EBF but husband refuses to do a middle of the night bottle feed. Otherwise I would try to split the sleepless joy a lite. I made him a bottle the other night and instead of him taking the baby away from the RNP on my side of my bed he just plopped down next to it. Baby refused and cried. We fought. I ended up feeding him as always. He insists his sleep is more important than mine because I can take care of our child on three to four hours of uninterrupted sleep but he can't possibly to work on less than seven solid hours because it's unsafe.

This makes me angry for you. DH has moments where he thinks his sleep is a priority more than mine too. Makes me want to throat punch him.

soulcupcake · January 2015

My one boob. She usually goes down (nurse her to sleep) around 7:30-8pm, and we go to bed between 10:30-11pm, which is when I change, feed (bottle) and nurse her back to sleep. Then she starts stirring 4-5 hours later and I give her my boob. I/we get up between 6:00-7am. I change and nurse her and then she's back down for a couple more hours.

minibean16 · January 2015

I'm a Special Snowflake.

As a single mom, it's always just me and my girl!

MrsAdventure · January 2015

@minibean16‌ single moms are my heroes, truly. My mom was one and though she had it rough, I've never once regretted not having my dad around (not that he was a bad guy, just never met him).

kaimee27 · January 2015

For us it kind of depends on the night. I EBF, so I have to get up every time anyways. Our routine kind of depends on the night though. DD is not a great sleeper-especially at night, so usually I stay up to feed her and get her back to sleep exclusively through her 3 am feeding, then get DH up to get her back to bed. Then he stays up with her after our 6 am feeding and holds her so she doesn't wake up and I can get more than an hour of uninterrupted sleep. That's only on days he doesn't work though. If he works the next day, I'm on my own all night long. We'll have to adjust again when I'm off maternity leave.

Ineedmorecoffee · January 2015

I do all nighttime feedings and all nigh time diaper changes. He's never even had the baby alone before.

minibean16 · January 2015

@MrsAdventure‌ Thank you! I worried a lot about how my decision to become a single mom would impact my future baby. But my LO has a great uncle and a fantastic grandpa - she'll have amazing 'father figures.' She certainly couldn't be more loved!

shan24 · January 2015

I voted SS. When LO wakes, I change his diaper while SO gets his bottle ready. Then, I feed him while SO goes back to sleep. So, we both help out, but it's more me than him.

MrsAdventure · January 2015

@minibean16‌ my mom is one of my best friends now... As opposed to parent/child while growing up. Actually, my BFF and her mom (who was a single mom too) and myself and my mom hang out a lot, and now we get to include our daughters. I love it. And I am always grateful I had my mom as a role model growing up. She's always been strong and independent, but with the biggest heart. I always say she loved me more than any set of parents could have, and I never felt like I needed my dad there to fill in the empty places, because there weren't any.

lizgrace03 · January 2015

SS. We are half and half formula and breast but lately DS has only been waking once for a quick nurse so I handle it. Back when it was 3x a night we shared duty.

hiketheworld · January 2015

DH and I both get up every time. He feeds while I pump, then I take care of washing bottles and prepping the next bottle while he gets him to sleep. Sometimes I will get him to sleep while DH goes back to bed, sometimes I go back to bed.

SarahHeck · January 2015

SS our percentages are more like 100/50. I breast feed then pump. So I get up every time. My husband does whatever I ask him to though. Sometimes I let him get his beauty sleep, other times he brings me baby, changes him, and/or cleans pump parts, puts milk in the refrigerator etc.

manders9479 · January 2015

mrsransom said:

I chose SS. I am still on maternity leave, so on work nights, I do it so DH can sleep since he has to work & I don't. On weekend nights, we share. When I go back to work in 1.5 weeks, we will share.

Same here.

MmmPopcorn · January 2015

I handle all the feedings since we EBF, but H handles the diaper changes. We split the duties of soothing an occasionally cranky baby (I sleep next to the bassinet and soothe/massage DS when he stirs, but H usually handles any crankiness that requires getting out of bed). We may have to reassess our nighttime system once I go back to work and H becomes a SAHD, but for right now, our system works. I don't want to unfairly assume that H doesn't need as much sleep as I do just because he'll be staying at home.

mmmaqui · January 2015

SO because we combo feed. I feel really lucky to have such a rad partner although I think he is getting burnt out

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